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Old 13th June 2011, 2:25 PM   #1
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Age difference?

Hi...I'm new here and hope to get some advice. I'm in my mid-30s and I have a friend in his mid-20s. We work in the same building and I see him a few times during the week. We talk and texted back and forth a few times. I'm really interested in him and I've told him that I was. After he thought about it for a while, he told me he just wants to be friends because: 1. He doesn't like to mix business and pleasure. 2. The age difference bothers him. He got out of a serious relationship about 3 yrs. ago and goes on dates every now and then. How can I let him know that the age difference really doesn't bother me (which I told him) and I really am interested in him?
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Old 13th June 2011, 2:54 PM   #2
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You already expressed your interest and he turned you down. There's nothing left to do. He knows that the age difference doesn't bother you, but it bothers him. He also mentioned the work/pleasure issue so there's more than one reason he doesn't want to date you.
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Old 13th June 2011, 4:06 PM   #3
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The work/pleasure thing is just letting you down gently - for whatever reason he doesn't want to date you. Whether the age difference bothers you is irrelevant; it bothers him and he's turned you down, so just let it go.
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Old 13th June 2011, 4:40 PM   #4
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Thanks you two. The nice thing about it is that he told me today he's not ready for a girlfriend and not in a hurry to have one.
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Old 1st July 2011, 2:16 AM   #5
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Old 1st July 2011, 2:23 AM   #6
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I love younger guys, but I hate younger guys mentality about girls. I've been ready for a serious relationship since I was 16. I would've gotten married at 18. No guy at 18 is ready for marriage.
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