PlumPrincess Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 How many of you think it's a bad idea to date a co-worker? I guess, many. What if you really, really liked that person? Would you still stick to some weird rule? Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 If you don't mind being embarrassed. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Not a good idea at all. Go to work to work. IMHO Don't put your personal biz out there for your co-workers to form their opinions. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 I think it would be OK in a few situation. If it's a job you don't care about, go for it without worry. or If you two have very little contact required contact with each other. Then it should be OK since you won't have to interact with the other person if things go bad. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 Oh no plum princess is going to be taken away! Good luck girl. Link to post Share on other sites
wowme20100 Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 Not worth loosing my job over. Been there done that, won't do it again. On the other hand I would date a higher ranking employee such as a supervisor or manager but not a coworker. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 It might be worth pursuing if your company doesn't have a policy against it and the object of your affection is not in the same department. If you work closely together on the same projects, as your team manager, I'd be concerned about how professional you can remain and if you'd bring your personal business to work with you, so much so that it affected your ability to focus on the job at hand. No one likes to see couples sniping at each other, at work or anywhere. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 To be avoided but perhaps once or twice in a lifetime it can't be helped. There are sparks a plenty out there. Link to post Share on other sites
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Nextlane Posted April 6, 2012 Share Posted April 6, 2012 I used to like this co-worker when I was pursuing the corporate ladder. Feelings haven't really changed even though I've changed jobs and maintain minimal contact after 2 years. My feelings haven't changed one bit. Life is a gamble and you will know you've lost your chance with the 'one' later down the track. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PlumPrincess Posted April 6, 2012 Author Share Posted April 6, 2012 My co-worker used to sit opposite of me. He had to move to another building two days ago. I miss him. He's got a girlfriend anyway... And I guess, he thinks I'm too low-ranking to date me. Damn it! Link to post Share on other sites
Stupid Girl Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 I made a thread about this not too long ago. My boyfriend and I were co-workers, but not any longer. I think it's probably much better this way from a career-perspective, although sucky from a personal perspective. Link to post Share on other sites
JesseJames Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 I just don't see how anyone could find love at work. That's like a totally condescending atmosphere. You might as well be in jail and eyeing up one of the guards. I always associate it with pure laziness. You have just enough energy to go to work and so everything has to be work-related, including love. Sickening. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
callmegee Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 I wouldn't. :love::love::love: Link to post Share on other sites
DateMyFamily Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 How many of you think it's a bad idea to date a co-worker? I guess, many. What if you really, really liked that person? Would you still stick to some weird rule? I believe you have to weight your options, and that is: Is my job worth the risk? If yes, then go for it... Family in the end is what's most important in life. If no, then you answered it yourself. Bottom line, bringing your personal life into your business life tends to be a conflict of interest at one point or another. Link to post Share on other sites
spookie Posted April 28, 2012 Share Posted April 28, 2012 I've done it a few times it's yet to give me a serious bite in the ass. I'm always surprised by people's vehement opposition to it. Unless you are violating company policy (by dating your manager, for example) I don't think the risk of horrible things happening is that great. The way I see it, there is the risk you will lose out on a future opportunity (to manage someone specific, for example) based on your personal history... but and as long as you're not the office slut, that should not be a huge risk to take. I dated the guy who sits behind me a couple years ago. It didn't work out, and now he is dating another girl in the office. She does hate my guts based on our relationship which is unfortunate, but the situation does not detract from my productivity. I haven't given it a thought in months. It seems to work for them, too - they've been together more than a year. Lots of my coworkers are either dating, married to each other, or met their spouses at work - I'd guess at least 15%, including a few of the upper management back in their youth (whose spouses subsequently left the company). I would guess another ~20% has dated or hooked up with someone in the past. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 I think many factors would result in my thoughts on it. One, company policy. Almost all company's forbid supervisor/subordiante relationships so that would be a no go. Outside of that it would be how close in proximity do I work to them, do our worlds overlap, what would the worst case scenario look like if we broke up, etc. Many companies try and manager dating and as society spends more and more time in the office this becomes a bigger issue. It really depends at the parties involved, I have seen some successful relationships, but you really make sure to watch your behavior and leave your personal life at home. Link to post Share on other sites
myallenmedia Posted May 25, 2012 Share Posted May 25, 2012 How many of you think it's a bad idea to date a co-worker? I guess, many. What if you really, really liked that person? Would you still stick to some weird rule? It depends on the company. I've dated many girls from the office and in fact, my first wife was a co-worker. Sure it ended in divorce 9 months later but it wasn't because of the office... I guess it really depends on the rules of the company, the type of company it is and so on. But love knows no boundaries. I'm of the thought that if it feels good do it! LOL Link to post Share on other sites
imani Posted May 26, 2012 Share Posted May 26, 2012 You mentioned he has a girlfriend, so I would nix the idea of dating him all together. Link to post Share on other sites
Krytie TV Posted May 26, 2012 Share Posted May 26, 2012 FWIW, I married my coworker... boss even. Never has my life been so filled with happiness! Link to post Share on other sites
coffee.girl Posted May 29, 2012 Share Posted May 29, 2012 I dated a guy at my old job, and swore I never would again. Now I am in a new workplace. Lo and behold, there's this particular guy... and I have tossed my rule book out the window. Link to post Share on other sites
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