What are your thoughts on college/Hs relationships?

[Amazonsigma]

To be more specific I mean one that are very close in age like an 18 year old college freshman and 17 yr old hs senior for example and more like they knew each other in hs. I wonder as I have friends in these situations. Are they uncommon/strange the to one party being in college?

[GorillaTheater]

Were you here recently under another name asking the same question?

 

 

Same answer: it's not a big deal. Nothing weird or creepy about it.

[RecentChange]

My best friend met her husband in this scenario, he was just starting college, she was. Sr.

 

They have been together ever since, 36/37 now, one child, and a very nice home.

 

What is your concern?

[bebe23]

My own daughter is in this situation, and I'm a little worried for her boyfriend. He's the younger one by a year, and she is going off to college.

 

I have an inkling that she will move on when she meets new people on her campus- and he will be heartbroken, to be honest! The reason being is that he is a very sweet, very nice, kind of 'beta' type boy, who has her on a pedestal. I like this kid a lot, and hope it won't be the case.

[Amazonsigma]

Were you here recently under another name asking the same question?

 

 

Same answer: it's not a big deal. Nothing weird or creepy about it.

 

No I wasn't. I found this forum like yesterday. Why do you ask?

[SammySammy]

It's definitely not uncommon or strange.

 

The chances of it working out vary based on the individuals in the relationship.

 

My relationship didn't work out. Broke my heart. Played a role in shaping the way I view relationships.

 

My brother and his wife married when they were 19. Were high school sweethearts. They are still married over twenty years later.

 

My parents did the same thing. High school sweethearts. Married at 19. Married fifty three years and counting.

[Gloria25]

There's pros/cons...

 

I mean, in HS/college you get to spend time with them (hopefully) and really get to know them; you both are at the same/similar stage in life'; you get to pick from the "creme of the crop" (i.e. young professional/educated minded peeps) and, you both aren't "tainted" with baggage (i.e. divorce, kids, etc.)...

 

Those were some ^^ "pros"...

 

But, here's some "cons": You both haven't dated around (no not sex), so you don't take the time to really get to know yourself and/or what you want/need in a mate when it comes to marriage and family; you rush into marriage/kids when you're not ready (just out of school w/o establishing a job/career and/or a "nest"); and, you just "default" into that person and/or marriage/kids - because you're scared to go it alone and are so "used" to/comfortable with them.

[blackcat777]

Lots of people get curious about what else is out there when they go to college. If they're studying something demanding, there is also the stress of having to study vs. having the free time for a relationship.

 

My boyfriend dumped me immediately after moving to college (and then came back a few months later because he realized he missed me more than he wanted the excitement of new people).

 

The new social scene of college is overwhelming and it's a very real possibility the person who didn't go away to school can get left behind.

 

If one partner is still in high school and has to deal with curfews or strict parents, I could see that putting a damper on things, too, as the other person doesn't have that "freedom" yet.

[GorillaTheater]

No I wasn't. I found this forum like yesterday. Why do you ask?

 

 

I had this thread in mind:

 

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/577701-should-i-continue-relationship

 

 

Maybe something there will help you out.