mortensorchid Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 About a year ago I met a man on Facebook. We IMed one another, then he said we should meet. I said ok. I met him and made it clear to him that I was not interested in him being anything other than a friend immediately, which he said ok to. I introduced him to many of my friends, even brought him into my theater company of which he is a great asset (as a carpenter and set builder). There is, however, a problem : he is very needy and clingy. Almost EVERY NIGHT he sends a chat request, whether I am home in front of the computer or not. He sends a text sometimes (he also never used to text let alone did he even own a cell phone before I met him) asking if I want to chat. Sometimes I respond ("I'm at a bar", "I'm busy", "I'm with someone", etc.) and other times I don't. If I do a location check in on FourSquare or Facebook, he asks if I want to join him there. That I never respond to. There are times when I am in the same room with him and he follows me around, literally. Many times I have left the room to go to the bathroom, I open the door and he is there, waiting for me. I asked if he needed to go and was just waiting in line, he said no. I asked why he followed me then, he said he just wanted to. I know what the immediate response of anyone reading this will say "He's interested and has been friendzoned." Agreed. Since he and I had met, I have been through a few boyfriends here and there and shared the tales of the ups and downs with him. I have, in order to keep him at a certain distance, treated him, more or less, like a girlfriend. I don't know what else I can do to drive it home to him. Other than sitting him down and telling him that I find his literal following me around the room creepy and needy, what else can I do?
Silly_Girl Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 It *is* creepy. Can you broach with him that it's weird? Does he have interest in women in general? Do you mix with his friends also?
Author mortensorchid Posted December 30, 2013 Author Posted December 30, 2013 To answer that question, I don't really think he has many friends that he sees on a regular basis at least. I know this because I have never met any of his, nor does he tell me about doing things or seeing them. It's quite annoying to be honest. I have tried to be rude about it as well to try to give him a message. I am in a crowded room, I get up and go to the bathroom which is in the other room without telling anyone that's where I'm going. I close the bathroom door, do my business in there, then open the door to find him standing there. The first time that happened I asked if he was waiting for the bathroom, he said no. After the third time that happened, I just walk right past him and back to where I came from. I would think that he would get the message after a while. Plus, I learned a long time ago not to bother others (or at least keep a certain distance from them). I'm sure he's aware that he does this, he might not be but ... What can I do about this?
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