Pearlbay Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Dear people, A month ago my relationship of 26 months ended and I got into contact with several people again. One of whom is a girl I've known for 7 years.. The day I met her I instantly fell in love with her even though I was in a relationship with a friend of her. Her name is Rose. We had a lot of contact over the phone and the internet, we could literally talk for hours and hours every single day in the past... I always felt she was the one.. But for some reason we've never stepped into a relationship... At one point I was in a relationship with another girl (Lisa), Lisa cheated on me and I ended up kissing Roos again in the short period we broke up. I got back with Lisa and stopped contacting Rose because Lisa didn't like me contacting her. (Stupid stupid) Less than a year later I permanently broke up with Lisa. There have been a few times where I kissed Rose while going out but we never entered a relationship.... A bit later I found out I was her 'first love' and she actually waited for me but stopped doing so after some point.... She is currently in a relationship and has spoken to me on and off the past weeks. At one point she told me she feels 'worthless' and apparently wanted me to cheer her up. (Because of not working or going to school). Two days ago she asked me if I wanted to meet up for drinks, butI was at school so I couldn't and told her we'd do it some day in the near future. Today she talked to me about the past and that she didn't like my actions, especially the part where I stopped contacting her, not sure why she randomly starts mentioning this after a month of being in contact. She also said something about having talked to her mother about me a few days before, her mother thought she was too young at the time to go into relationships so she was kind of 'blocking' us at the time but apparently she didn't hate me. (That is what Rose thought). But then she suddenly sent me two pictures of old diary entries (2007), saying stuff like: 'I miss David. <3' 'I am going to see him again! (Yes David.!)" Which came as a surprise as well.... I have no interest in becoming her 'rebound' so the current situation of her being in a relationship sucks, I also have no intentions of breaking them up which I feel is a dishonorable thing to do. But I really really find myself falling for her again and I'm not sure what it is but perhaps she is THE ONE for me but I'm not sure if she thinks the same.... Perhaps she has difficulty trusting me for what I did in the past.... What should I do?
Philosoraptor Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 I'm sure she doesn't want to be your rebound either. Didn't you just get out of a relationship in which you can't stop yourself from digging into her facebook and twitter... even after she blocked you? I'd say you need a bit of time alone to figure yourself out and exactly what you want. You seem to bounce around a lot in relationships. Just read your past posts... you're not much more than a month out of a relationship where you were "kind of engaged" and you're already bouncing around and trying to snag onto whomever you can. I'm sure you'll deny everything again and try to rationalize it away, but you need some alone time to figure things out man. 1
Author Pearlbay Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 I'm sure she doesn't want to be your rebound either. Didn't you just get out of a relationship in which you can't stop yourself from digging into her facebook and twitter... even after she blocked you? I'd say you need a bit of time alone to figure yourself out and exactly what you want. You seem to bounce around a lot in relationships. Just read your past posts... you're not much more than a month out of a relationship where you were "kind of engaged" and you're already bouncing around and trying to snag onto whomever you can. I'm sure you'll deny everything again and try to rationalize it away, but you need some alone time to figure things out man. I met my recent ex less than a month after the ex before that and had a relationship of 26 months and up till the last two months it was a fun and proper relationship. If I 'snag' whomever I can I would've kissed(or even more) the 3-5 girls that have seemed interested in me the past weeks while going out. At least three of them were actually cute, not perse girlfriend material but could've had a fun time with them for a night or so. I'm not willing to waste this girl on a rebound relationship and for the time she's taken; I have no idea if her current relationship is stable or not. Haven't asked and certainly do not intend to meddle with them. I guess I have to let it run it's course and 'wait' a little.... something I never done before and perhaps should do for once to see what comes out of it. I agree with you on the taking time for myself part.
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