Positive Balance: What Do You Love About Your SO?

[It's Just Me]

I'm new to this forum, and sometimes I get overwhelmed by the sad stories and negativity that can sometimes pervade relationship discussions.

 

So... in the interest of having some fun, what things do you love about your SO? Does he/she do little things that make you smile or love them even more?

 

I have been with my guy for almost a year, and we get along very well. Some things he does that I always appreciate/enjoy:

 

1. He always texts me a "Good morning, baby!" between 7 and 8 AM - no matter what he's doing, or where he is.

2. When we kiss, he will often give me a tiny zerbit on the neck (zerbit = coined by Bill Cosby, I think - putting your lips on a person's skin and blowing to make that farting sound).

3. He always opens my car door. Really.

4. He refuses to let me carry anything when we're together.

5. He can fix anything (he's a mechanic). This includes construction work.

6. He always reaches out to hold my hand when we're out and about.

7. He's constantly horny and ready for sex at the drop of a hat. So am I.

8. He loves my friends, and they call him Captain Sunshine because he's always smiling and positive.

9. He's very supportive and understanding when the sh*t hits the fan. I recently lost my job of 12 years, and he simply hugged me and let me cry on his shoulder.

10. Anyone remember Ole and Sven, the guest musicians on The Flintstones? They sing a song in court about Wilma. Well, he has changed 'Wilma' to my name, and sings that every so often. Wilma by Owe Thörnquist, aka Vilma - YouTube

 

I could go on and on, but would love to hear about any other stories.

[seren]

Well, we have been together a little over 27 years and I love the bones of him.

 

I love that he makes silly faces and does daft dances to make me laugh.

He helps me out of my chair when my Lupus flares badly and makes it into a dance

We dance to the music in our heads, whenever and wherever

We have our song and he sings it to me, lots, it's Groovy Kind of Love

he searches for and brings me the first wild violets from the woods as he know I love them

We sit each night in our garden watching the sunset, snuggling

He still sees me as I was and says I haven't aged a day (he lies)

I love that he is so loving to our animals

I love that he is a big, muscly man who makes me feel protected, even though I am a tough old bird

I love that he loves me, warts (not real one's) and all

Oh, one more thing, he smells really nice

[It's Just Me]

Thanks, Seren. I can see my man being just like yours 26 years from now. He smells really nice, too. Good on ya that your lupus still allows you a wonderful life - I have a girlfriend who is still young (30-ish)/newly married with lupus and it scares her. It gives me hope for her.

[Silly_Girl]

It's only been a few months for me, but I love that my boyfriend is a truly wonderful person. In the past I've been able to say that I feel my SO is wonderful, but I've known they had traits that were undesirable or a challenge that I loved them in spite of, if that makes sense.

 

This man is honest, kind, thoughtful, funny, intelligent, adventurous, and has integrity by the bucketload. I am quietly slightly in awe of him

 

Every time I reach out for support (I have a few things I'm dealing with at the moment) he effortlessly catches me and puts me back on balance. My friends and family without exception tell me he's a keeper and my counsellor said it's unprofessional for her to have a view on him but she calls him The Lovely [His name] regularly. His friends and colleagues tell me they've waited years to see him with someone like me, and to be this happy

 

This is by far the simplest, easiest, drama-free relationship I've ever had and it fits my 'new life' and the new me perfectly. It feels like we've known each other for years and we never tire of spending time together, even when it's the drudge stuff like DIY or cleaning. In the past I've needed my 'downtime' from a guy, but I don't feel that need now, though we still have ample time apart with friends/family etc.

 

I've *almost* stopped looking for the 'catch' or holding my breath waiting for it all to go horribly wrong.

 

[threebyfate]

When he comes home, doesn't matter what kind of day he's had, he always hugs our son and myself like he never wants to let go. How gentle he is with our son, the special smile and look in his eyes for his little family. How when I'm pregnant, as in now, he puts his head against my stomach and talks to our baby with his deep, rumbly voice. There's no better man.

[It's Just Me]

This is by far the simplest, easiest, drama-free relationship I've ever had and it fits my 'new life' and the new me perfectly. It feels like we've known each other for years and we never tire of spending time together, even when it's the drudge stuff like DIY or cleaning. In the past I've needed my 'downtime' from a guy, but I don't feel that need now, though we still have ample time apart with friends/family etc.

 

I've *almost* stopped looking for the 'catch' or holding my breath waiting for it all to go horribly wrong.

 

 

I know exactly what you mean!

[It's Just Me]

When he comes home, doesn't matter what kind of day he's had, he always hugs our son and myself like he never wants to let go. How gentle he is with our son, the special smile and look in his eyes for his little family. How when I'm pregnant, as in now, he puts his head against my stomach and talks to our baby with his deep, rumbly voice. There's no better man.

 

Awww... that's just beautiful, Threeby! He's a keeper, that's for sure.

[xxoo]

So many things, but I'll share something I've been appreciating recently--

 

The first few years of our marriage, he would complain about me sleeping with my arms and legs over him (hugging him). He was "too hot". He "needed space". Whenever he had the chance to sleep alone (if I was travelling, or up late working), he teased about how well he slept

 

About 10 years in, he stopped complaining. I questioned it at some point, and he said that he had just given up

 

Now, another decade later, he is holding me as he falls asleep. Tightly, too. I am the one needing to wiggle free so I can fall asleep, and he always stirs enough to give me one last kiss when I do. On occasions when he goes to bed alone, he complains that he didn't sleep well without me there.

 

And I'm loving bedtime more than ever :love:

[melodymatters]

Good idea Just in Case, we NEED these type of threads periodically !

 

In October it will be one year I've been married to my darling F, and it has probably been the happiest year of my life. We just mesh so well, and have so much fun doing nothing at all : life feels like one never ending slumber party with my best friend !

 

He's patient, kind, easy going, loyal, loving, romantic, he makes me feel appreciated and beautiful even when i'm feeling my worst.

 

We have a zillion private jokes, we can't keep our hands off each other and our sex life is...WOW !. The ONLY problem, is that we enjoy each others company so much, we don't hang out with other friends as much as we probably should.

 

And, since I have to brag SOMEWHERE Since we met I've been telling him he has Michael Phelps body, Long, lean and muscle-y ( F actually has an inch or so and 5-10 lbs on Mikey) and now that everyone is talking about the swimmers and their hot bods, I just look over at my gorgeous hunk of a man and GRIN !

 

( And for all those reading these posts who haven't found a great love yet, I was widowed, miserable and in my, GASP, 40's when I met this wonderful man who happens to also be quite a bit younger than I, so It ain't over til it's over and love can come at the most unexpected times, in the most awesomely unexpected packages, so HANG IN THERE !)

[Mme. Chaucer]

His completely weird and unique sense of humor. I have never encountered anything like it.

 

His strong moral compass, which he pays a lot of attention to.

 

I love to look at his arms.

 

I love to look at him when he sleeps. He is 60 years old and I can clearly see the little boy he once was, and which is still a very living part of him today.

 

I love to hear him talking to his kids. He is such a wonderful resource for them.

 

The really bizarre and almost cosmic random moments of intense connection that happen from time to time between us.

 

I admire his maniacal work ethic, even though I believe it is a bit consuming.

 

He is a great thinker.

 

He has the twinkliest eyes and most amazing laugh and smile lines on his face.

 

They way he really knows who and what I am, including the bad parts of my past, and accepts it ALL.

 

The "look of pride" he gets when I praise and admire him.

 

His ridiculous love for his little dog. He never even had a dog in his life before he got involved with me - a dog trainer, raiser and farmer. Now he takes his dog (which he stole from me) everywhere he goes. When he works on the tractor, she is sitting right up there next to him ...

 

Oh, obviously I could go on and on. But I'll give someone else a turn.

Edited August 2, 2012 by Mme. Chaucer

[pinkie]

1. He's extremely organized... I'm not.

2. We laugh a lot.

 

3. He always opens my car door. Really.

4. He refuses to let me carry anything when we're together.

5. He can fix anything (he's a welder). This includes construction work.

6. He always reaches out to hold my hand when we're out and about.

7. He's constantly horny and ready for sex at the drop of a hat. I'm not.

 

8. He's 12 years older than me and has it together, it allows me to allow him to lead.

9. Our relationship gets better and better everyday... I watch him silently from afar and learn so much about him.

10. He's absolutely gorgeous to me, the deep lines in his face add character.

11. He's a sweet, sensitive, loving man... all the while strong and manly.

12. I never thought I could feel this way again...

[Disenchantedly Yours]

I think your guy sounds extra special It's Just Me and this was a great idea for a thread.

[It's Just Me]

I think your guy sounds extra special It's Just Me and this was a great idea for a thread.

 

Thanks, DY! He really is.