AprilFool Posted December 23, 2003 Share Posted December 23, 2003 My husband has a fetish with big butts, big boobs, and a little waist. I have a big butt, and a little waist, but my boobs are only B cups. My husband always compliments my butt, but hints that he thinks that my boobs would look better with inplants. He likes to look at models on the internet with huge boobs. I want my husband to think I'm sexy, so yesterday while I was shopping, I bought these silicone filled bust enhancers that are supposed to increase your bust size by 2 cups! I came home after shopping, spent a few minutes with him, then headed to the bedroom to try them out. I was trying them on with bras, and with little shirts, and I was having fun looking at myself with larger boobs. My husband walked into the room (without knocking) and cought me in the middle of checking myself out in a bra. He asked, "What are you doing?" I said, "I'm seeing what I would look like with bigger boobs...go away." He then asked, "What did you do?" I answered, "I bought a new bra (which I had)...go away." I wouldn't look at him, because I was so embarassed. He stood there looking at the bag on the bed, and the empty *breast enhancer* box. I finally looked at him, and he looked me right in the eye, and started laughing! I just wanted to cry...I said, "go away." He then nodded his head, and said, "They look good." I said, "Go Away!" He said, "What's wrong with you?" I said, "I'm embarassed, GO AWAY!!!!!" He looked at me angrily, turned around, and slammed the door behind him. I was so embarassed. I just want him to think I'm sexy like those models he looks at, and he LAUGHED at me. He didn't want to hear why I was upset, so I just let it go, and apologized for yelling at him. Should he have left me alone when I asked him to? Should I have yelled at him? He wouldn't go away when I told him to...he just wouldn't listen. Should I have been embarassed? He is my husband after all. I'm just confused about how I feel. He has made me very insecure about my breasts, and when he found me stuffing my bra to make my breasts look bigger, then he LAUGHED at me, I was just humiliated. I wish I had just laughed it off, but I was too embarassed. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 23, 2003 Share Posted December 23, 2003 April, it's not as though you could have fooled him. He knows that. He laughed because it was fun that you did that. He was getting a kick out of it. He thought it was a hoot. Ideally, you would've laughed along, pranced around with them, and play-seduced him with your fake big bazongas. Give that a try and see how he reacts. Look, April. I'm willing to bet that he is not perfect in your eyes. I bet that he'd be better looking with more hair or a different hair colour or less fat or something. But do you love him less because of that? Of course not! For a woman to invest her whole self into those two lumps on the front of her chest is as bad as for a man to worry that he is unlovable because he doesn't have that extra couple centimetres on his penis. When you look at it objectively, it's craziness! No go put on those fakes, put on the tightest top you have, and shake 'em right in his face. And have FUN!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
mjk Posted December 23, 2003 Share Posted December 23, 2003 Hey what a minute... What's up with the "My husband always hints that my boobs would look better with implants" I kinda think there's a problem here. why doesn't he love you "AS-IS?" I recently went out with a girl who was a small cup size and I swear I'd never have mentioned anything about that to her. Even after she asked me (actually I could care less about her boob size-I liked her) "Do you think I'd look better with bigger boobs?" I was honest and said it didn't matter, do it for yourself, not me. Aprilfool, don't be in "competition" with the internet girls. I'm sure your hubby loves you lots but he needs to lay-off the boob thing, it obviously bothers you. Link to post Share on other sites
cdn Posted December 23, 2003 Share Posted December 23, 2003 Three cheers for mjk! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 23, 2003 Share Posted December 23, 2003 I agree. He should quit with the hints. That is completely uncool. However, now she's decided to go with the flow, then I figure she should do so with a vengeance. She should also have a frank discussion with him someday and tell him how rotten it makes her feel when he does that. To belittle any physical trait of your loved one is terribly unkind. And what ought we be to the people we love if not kind? Having said that, though, I don't he was laughing cruelly at her fakes- I think he thought it was fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Bubbles Posted December 23, 2003 Share Posted December 23, 2003 AprilFool, Why don't you go ahead now and plan the surprise for him that you wanted to give him in the first place. He is going to giggle because he is excited about what you have initiated. If it was my man.....you probably could not have slapped the smile off his face. You were embarassed - try the thingies on when he is not at home and YOU can have some fun with it before you present yourself to him. Poor you.......your husband probably loves you very much for you to want to do this for him huh? Bubbles Link to post Share on other sites
Author AprilFool Posted December 23, 2003 Author Share Posted December 23, 2003 I'm not sure I ever intended to show them to him, or even wear them outside of that room. I guess you could say I was playing dress up. He makes me feel like I would look so much sexier if I had bigger boobs. I was embarassed, because I didn't want him to know that he makes me feel so bad. I don't feel sexy when I'm naked in front of him. I don't have any problems walking around in front of him naked, because I'm comfortable in my body (kinda like I'm comfortable in sweat pants and a t-shirt), but I don't feel sexy. I guess what I was trying to accomplish was to feel sexy in the comfort of my own room, without him around. I was feeling pretty sexy, fantasizing about going out in public with big boobs and men drooling over me, when in walked Mr. Make-me-feel-unsexy, and laughed at me. I think he should have left when I told him to. Sometimes, I'll put on lingerie and flaunt myself in front of a mirror, and I feel sexy. I can look in the mirror, and realize that those porn models, and playmates don't hold a candle to me, but I do the same flaunting in front of him, and he seems uninterested. Looking at me trying to be sexy doesn't seem to do anything to him. I get him aroused by playfully talking to him. He can get aroused by looking at sexy models, but not by looking at his sexy wife. Therefore, I guess if I want to feel sexy, he can't be around. That's why I wanted him to leave, and that's why I was so embarassed, and that's why I got angry. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 23, 2003 Share Posted December 23, 2003 I was embarassed, because I didn't want him to know that he makes me feel so bad If somebody cares about you, they should care about whether they do things which upset you. They need to know if/when their actions or words cause you pain so they can change. This is what love is about! You do have to be able to sort out whether you are reacting normally to a situation or if your reaction is out of proportion to the situation (for instance, the looking at porn), then you have to modify yourself as well. Why don't you copy out your post and read it to him? Ask him why he gets turned on at the look of models but not at the sight of you. You two need to discuss this stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AprilFool Posted December 23, 2003 Author Share Posted December 23, 2003 After my husband has upset me, he gets angry. Then, if I try to tell him how he upset me, he says that he doesn't care. If I wait until we are both happy again, he will still say he doesn't care. My husband doesn't want to know when things are wrong. It hurts me that he insinuates that he would like me with larger breasts, but if I try to tell him that, he gets defensive and asks, "When have I ever told you that you didn't look good?" The point is, he doesn't have to tell me. He can hint at it, he can look at porn that is titled "Busty Babes" I can see that all the pictures he choses to look at are of women with huge breasts, so I'm not stupid. It bothers me, but in reality, he hasn't done any "come right out and say it" things, except once. In that one time that he came right out and said it, I asked him if he wanted me to get breast inplants. He said, "Would it hurt you if I did?." I said, "No, because I already knew." He didn't respond. I said, "It doesn't take a genious to figure out when a man's not satisfied with his wife's body." He got angry. Now, if I try to use that as an example, he well get mad and say that "He can't tell me anything." Nope, I'm just going to have to keep this to myself, because he's too selfish to try to make me happy. I'll either just have to find a way to be happy around his weirdness, or divorce him. That's that. It feels good to vent. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted December 23, 2003 Share Posted December 23, 2003 The issue isn't neccessarily that he's attracted to big-breasted women, it's that he has no regard for your feelings, and makes you feel inadequate (on purpose), and then fails to communicate with you, because he knows it's his fault. I'm very sorry for you, and I wish I could suggest something to make it better, but he sounds like such a jackass. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AprilFool Posted December 23, 2003 Author Share Posted December 23, 2003 Or someone with major comunication problems. I don't think my husband makes me feel inadequate on purpose, I think he thinks he's being helpful! If I ask, "Do I look fat?" if I do, he'll say yes! If I don't, he'll say no! He will give his opinion on what I wear and everything, so I know he's being honest. Which hurts. He's not overly "you're so sexy" with me. Which, obviously, means he honestly doesn't think I'm sexy. Sometimes he will tell me that I look good, and when he does, I feel GREAT because I know he really means it, and is not just telling me that. He has never said he likes my boobs, though. I had a boyfriend once, who ALWAYs complimented my breasts. He said they were the prettiest he'd ever seen. Then, I married my husband who just doesn't like them. He tried to hide the porn from me for a long time, until I oggled him into sharing it with me, instead of hiding it. I don't think he's rubbing the "Busty Babes" in my face, because he wanted it to be a secret. I'm insecure. Point blank. He is not an ego booster...he's too honest. I think I look great, but he thinks I look good. I don't think he considers me gorgeous, just...pretty. I think I'm gorgeous. It bothers me that he doesn't! I feel like I can look in the mirror and see how sexy I look...I can look in the mirror and see that I'm just as good as playmates, WHY DOESN'T MY HUSBAND REACT TO ME THE WAY HE DOES TO THEM!?!?!? I'm just frusterated...and sometimes, it feels good to call my husband a jack ass Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted December 23, 2003 Share Posted December 23, 2003 I don't think he's rubbing the "Busty Babes" in my face, because he wanted it to be a secret. From what you've posted, it would seem as if he knows that he makes you feel bad, and continues to do it. By the way, the chances that you found busty babes by "accident" are slim, that's just my intuition. Link to post Share on other sites
Caddy Posted December 23, 2003 Share Posted December 23, 2003 Ask him if he's going to start stuffing his pants since you have to stuff your bra to look/feel better for him. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted December 23, 2003 Share Posted December 23, 2003 Originally posted by Caddy Ask him if he's going to start stuffing his pants since you have to stuff your bra to look/feel better for him. She did it to look and feel better for herself, it's just him that gave her that problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Caddy Posted December 23, 2003 Share Posted December 23, 2003 Originally posted by AprilFool My husband has a fetish with big butts, big boobs, and a little waist. I have a big butt, and a little waist, but my boobs are only B cups. My husband always compliments my butt, but hints that he thinks that my boobs would look better with inplants. He likes to look at models on the internet with huge boobs. I want my husband to think I'm sexy I just want him to think I'm sexy like those models he looks at, My impression is that she did it for him. Which is why I posted my comment. If anything turn the tables around on the dim witted man for making the comment about her having breasts that are not as large as he likes. Link to post Share on other sites
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