huntgoddess Posted July 18, 2003 Share Posted July 18, 2003 What do people think about The Rules book, which tells women to be hard to get and let men make the first move, do the chasing, etc? Do the rules work (the objective being for a man to propose marriage)? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 18, 2003 Share Posted July 18, 2003 I think the Rule Book has some merit. But if a person is so pathetic they have to read it in order to conduct themselves in the romantic arena, then they probably won't be able to keep a partner. Though I think in most cases it is the man who proposes marriage...there's nothing wrong with the woman doing it. In most cases, I think it's the woman's idea in the first place and she somehow gets the man to speak up. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted July 18, 2003 Share Posted July 18, 2003 I think this book should be required reading for any woman who has trouble with boundaries. Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan Posted July 19, 2003 Share Posted July 19, 2003 Oh PLEASE! End phone calls first? Silently count to five before answering yes if he asks you out? Don't discuss "The Rules" with your therapist?!?!?! I think not. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted July 19, 2003 Share Posted July 19, 2003 No, my favorite is don't accept a Saturday date after Wednesday! Har. Whatever. I think many of the rules are really stupid. But as I said, for girls with boundary, needy, clingy problems or insecurity issues, I think others of them can help some women. Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted July 19, 2003 Moderators Share Posted July 19, 2003 Huntgoddess, Please just follow your own heart. It's interesting that this thread really has a lot to do with another that is in a heated debate over the way dating should go. I refer you to the following, which has plenty of discussion on the whole matter of getting a date, keeping a date, what to do and what not to do...ETC. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t22440/ Curt Link to post Share on other sites
PurpleAngel Posted July 19, 2003 Share Posted July 19, 2003 Yes I agree Curt, people should go back to following their instinct and heart. And stop listening to the ‘tribe’ we, or books can give advice but (a) doesn’t make it the right advice for you and (b) always best to follow your heart and discover ‘your own’ rules (so to speak) It’s ok to read stuff like that as suggestions IF they are constructive ones... BUT either way I don’t think it should EVER be used as gospel, I think its very important as a woman or a man to get into YOUR OWN! Light and Love ~PurpleAngel~ Link to post Share on other sites
huntgoddess Posted July 23, 2003 Share Posted July 23, 2003 "I think the Rule Book has some merit. But if a person is so pathetic they have to read it in order to conduct themselves in the romantic arena, then they probably won't be able to keep a partner." I disagree that women who read this book for whatever reason are pathetic. Men play rules too, and a male friend of mine admitted that he puts on an act to get women to sleep with him. Anyone has use for strategies in any field. Also, women don't "have to read it in order to conduct themselves in the romantic arena", they are reading for expores to ideas they may or may not already know about. Books are about ideas, and in no way are people who read them pathetic. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 23, 2003 Share Posted July 23, 2003 I wish I had written the book - I would be independently wealthy now! Link to post Share on other sites
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