Alfie Posted February 7, 2001 Share Posted February 7, 2001 OK! My wife of 36 years suddenly and unexpectedly died on me almost two years ago. I have since established a nice relationship with a lady who lives relatively nearbye. Our relationship hinges mostly on mutual interests and general personality. Problem is, she wants me more than I do her at the moment! I loved my wife very much, and was devoted and faithful to her throughout, and those memories will not leave me! My lady friend is very understanding of all my feelings and foibles, but I want to be able to give her more! Including sex, which has been impossible for me as of yet! (I'm 60 years old!) Viagra works only so far. But the "libido" has to be there as well! But it ain't! Hormone replacement? Any thoughts to help me would be greatly appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted February 7, 2001 Share Posted February 7, 2001 A 60 year old man in average health has a number of years of virility left. I think your problem is that you are still in a grief period. Deep down, on some level, you probably feel you would be cheating on your beloved deceased wife. It will take time to work through that and you need to be patient with yourself. It also doesn't sound like you are absolutely crazy about this lady you're seeing. Perhaps she fills the bill right now. But you are still capable of feeling passion for a woman. A marriage which ends in the death of a spouse after 36 years is an emotionally devastating event. However, once you have fully recovered from this trauma and once you are ready, I promise you that you will find someone you'll be excited about, who you can love passionately, and you won't need Viagra or any other medication to handle the sex department. Perhaps as you see this current lady more over time, more intense feelings will develop. Who knows? But don't settle for less than you feel you deserve...and be kind and patient with yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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