lovestruck234 Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 I just found out last night that my mum has bowel cancer. This is such a huge load I haven't managed to let it sink in yet. I didn't even sleep last night. Well, I got a BIT of sleep but I was up all night, just crying, and crying... Why is it that it always happens to people who have never done anything wrong? My mum has been sick nearly all her life, since she was 17. She has Chron's Disease, as some of you probably know. She went up to the specialist yesterday in Sydney and they told her the news. The specialist said that along with all the CT scans they are doing for her Chron's, they came across this. They have to do the whole chemotherapy thing as well.... along with getting rid of all her infection regarding her Chron's. She has been under sufferance for too long. This isn't fair. You know how things like this happen and you're sort in dis-belief cos you've always been like "No, it won't happen to me or someone I know"...then it does, and it hits twice as hard. I was talking to her about it last night and she told me she is in good hands with the specialists up there. She is dealing with a Professor, Gynocologists, a Plastic Surgeon, a Chron's specialist and a Chemotherapy specialist. She also said they said bowel cancer is one of the easiest forms of cancer to treat. I told her they better do a pretty damn good job... I am so scared though. She told me not to be and that Cancer is just a word. She said that after all she's been through throughout the years, that she won't let this pull her down... I haven't stopped crying all day. Writing this now and I'm crying... Why does all this BS happen to me???? Link to post Share on other sites
TheSilentType Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 Oh wow..sorry.. I think cancer is one of the possible complications of bowel problems like Crohn's. Hopefully they caught it early and can physically remove the affected bowel part. And damn, she has been suffering with this since she was 17!!! That really sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 I'm sorry Lovestruck. You have the comfort of knowing that bowel cancer is among the more treatable cancers. I know that doesn't make it easier, but like your mother said, cancer is just a word and the number of people who beat cancer these days is actually quite high. I'll keep you and your mother in my thoughts Link to post Share on other sites
BamaLady Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 I am so sorry to hear this. Sounds like your Mom has a very positive attitude and outlook on her condition. That is certainly a plus for her. She and you are in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep us updated. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovestruck234 Posted September 7, 2006 Author Share Posted September 7, 2006 Thank you everyone... Yeah, I think they have caught it in it's early days and also it is stationery so it hasn't moved to more serious parts like bone marrow or anything... It is such a long process. That is what's bothering me. They have to do all these tests; heaps more tests and everything...I kinda wish they could just start the chemo/operation now so they can just get rid of it... But I guess it's better to be safe than sorry... I think the fact that she's been through so much has mellowed her down alot and into a more positive attitude... As much as my mum does things I wish she didn't...she is still, and always will be my hero!! Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Oh, sweetie, I am so sorry. But the good news is: MANY people have beat cancer. And this is the easiest cancer so she has good chances to live a long and happy life. I hope for the best. It's great that your mom is not giving up and is determined to fight this disease. She is a strong woman obviously. And she is trying to protect you from more pain by staying strong for you! Everything will be OK. Your mom will fight it and beat it with her family's support. Don't forget to help her with her daily chores and spend time with her. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 honey, I'm sorry too, to hear this about your mom. But keep the faith – if this is the most easily treatable variety, then you know they've got things down pat to get her on the path to healing as quickly as possible. As hard as it is, try not to let yourself worry more than need be ... take your cue from your mom, and remain as upbeat as you can. Every day that goes by is one day more that a better treatment is made possible. in the meantime, y'all are in my prayers ... q Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 I'm sorry to hear that news, but I can tell ya, with the new chemo treatments these days, the fact they've caught it early AND I see from your posts that your mom is a strong woman, she's a fighter - So she isn't going to let this get her down. I know how hard it is to see a parent go through something like this, so if you need to talk, or you want to ask any questions, feel free to PM me. Stay strong, find out all you can about this type of cancer and just keep a smile on your mom's face... My thoughts are with you and your family. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovestruck234 Posted September 11, 2006 Author Share Posted September 11, 2006 Thanks again everyone for your support. I didn't come into work yesterday. I was really sick. I think all the stress is making me sick. I am still pretty sick at the moment... I was talking to my dad this morning about it and he tols me that I have to be positive cos mum needs to draw from our stengths...it's so hard, but I'm trying as much as I can. He said that I need to talk to him about how I feel all the time. That I shuldn't bottle it up. But I don't really like talking real serious with people. I'm the type who bottles it up. (Unless, with you guys!! )... Rhys doesn't really understand. I try talking to him but he just doesn't get it, he's not very sympathetic and doesn't really know what to do....dad said I'm best off just to not discuss things with him (Rhys) and talk to him (Dad) about it... So she'll be in hospital Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday for tests and radiotherapy. Then she'll come home. Then she goes back up there for more tests, then comes home. Then goes up there for the operation....the HUGE operation, then has to stay there for another week for the Chemo. Cos she was telling me with the radiotherapy and chemotherapy that the doctors gave her two choices. That she could go with a long method which is for 6 weeks of the radio and chemo or just a week of it, which then requires her to recieve chemo and radio twice a day. I don't know. It's all a so overwhelming and confusing at the moment... Don't really know where to go or who to turn to.... Link to post Share on other sites
punk666 Posted September 11, 2006 Share Posted September 11, 2006 hey, i am sorry to hear the news. i know how you feel. My mom has colon cancer. Just stay strong and positive. What helped me was to think positive and try to support her the best i could. Remember comfort is the best medicine. Link to post Share on other sites
luvncurls Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 I usually hang out in the relationship related rooms, but I need to talk about this one and say that there are many people out there who sympathize and care about you and your mom. My mom has had Chron's for over 30 years now and she is often doubled over because of the pain that it causes her. Often in bed for days and often on Vicadin or some sort of other thing that does not make her herself. However, the only thing that I can say is that if your mom is anything like mine, you have to give her some major props. She has been around for this long and is probably one of those amazing women who was able to raise a family and be amazing even through her illness. Trust in that everything will be ok and trust in the survivor spirit that women like our mothers have. They have been around for a long time and I am sure that if they have anything to say about it, they will likely be around for alot longer. Suerte y mucho amore Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovestruck234 Posted September 12, 2006 Author Share Posted September 12, 2006 Wow....reading that gave me shivers up my spine. Thank you so much for your wise and kind words. My mum too, spends days on the couch and has pretty much spent the last 5 years on it, just because of the pain...she also suffers from depression because of all of it, so it makes it even harder on her. I had depression for just over 4 years, I know exactly how hard it is to have to deal with day to day things when you are suffering like that, but the fact that she has an illness she has to deal with makes it harder to watch... Sometimes I'll tell mum I'm going to see friends but I'll really just go driving to a secluded spot...to the beach or something and sit in the car and cry for hours. I have never cried in front of my mum...I've never cried in front of anyone. I mean, even when I was a kid mum would tell me that I would dissapear for ages sometimes and she never knew where I went.....it's cos I would go and cry somewhere where no-one could see me. Don't know why...I've just always been like that... Hmm....it is hard. Very hard. My dad would be suffering the most as his previous wife had passed away from cancer.... He was telling me that his whole world crumbled when the doctor gave the news....man....so did mine. I remember when mum told me I was stting on the couch and I could literally feel my heart just sink....I was so speechless. So numb. Link to post Share on other sites
Rumbabe Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 Oh shame man, how sad! Please be strong for your Mom's sake as she is going to need all the strength she can muster from you and the family to recover. Thinking of you. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 *hugs* People beat cancer sweetie. She will get through this. Just be strong for her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovestruck234 Posted September 18, 2006 Author Share Posted September 18, 2006 Thank you... *sings Destiny's Child Survivor* I'm a survivor, I'm gunna make it...I'm a survivor, keep on surviving! hee hee.... Link to post Share on other sites
Tomtabear Posted September 22, 2006 Share Posted September 22, 2006 It's so hard to let go of someone you love. I choose to believe God just needs more angels. She sounds like she is probably tired of struggling and being in pain. Sometimes parents will not show there true degree of pain for the kids sake. She'll always be there for you in spirit. Sometimes we can be selfish wanting to keep people with us. But you must remember the pain she's endured and how that will all go away. Take the time now to reflect on the good things and memories you have and share with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovestruck234 Posted September 22, 2006 Author Share Posted September 22, 2006 It's so hard to let go of someone you love. I choose to believe God just needs more angels. She sounds like she is probably tired of struggling and being in pain. Sometimes parents will not show there true degree of pain for the kids sake. She'll always be there for you in spirit. Sometimes we can be selfish wanting to keep people with us. But you must remember the pain she's endured and how that will all go away. Take the time now to reflect on the good things and memories you have and share with her. Geez, I'm not really thinking about her leaving us just yet. She has hung in there for this long, and after all the operations and the hard next few months, there's going to be that light at the end of the tunnel she has been waiting for and I reckon she'll hang through that as well! She's a pretty strong woman!! Golly, I don't want to be thinking of death JUST yet. I know and understand just how much pain she is in, but I also know and understand that she will get through it!! The more positivity the better! Thank you for your kind words, anyway!! Link to post Share on other sites
colonman Posted October 4, 2006 Share Posted October 4, 2006 Just read your blog, sorry to hear about your mum, am 46 and was diagnosed with bowel cancer in July this year, **** scared when told, soon as you hear the word 'CANCER' you immediately think of the end, but I've come to terms with it now, it takes time and support of friends and family. Lucky they found mine it it's early stages and after the indignities of have a troop of things shoved up my ar*e by different doctors, I'm due to have surgury in November to cut it out and some of my colon. what I'm trying to say is your mum is not alone, there are unfotunatley lots of people like us around, bowel cancer is one of the most common types but somehow isn't as sexy as some others, i.e. breast cancer. Hopefully they have found it early and they can sort her out, Good luck to your mum, and you keep strong, being at the recieving end of this it helps having people around you how understand but try and keep things 'normal' for you. Sorry about the ramble GOOD LUCK Link to post Share on other sites
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