weebird Posted August 25, 2005 Share Posted August 25, 2005 My ex's brother in law was lecturing to me at one point when my ex and I were having our problems. His example he used for making a point is interesting and his decision bothered me. I will post the situation used as the example here: "I have been married for three years and have two baby daughters ages 8 months old and 2 years old. I live in the same city where my in-laws, my wife's entire family, live. There are two family events going on during the same weekend that I have to decide which one I will go to. The two events are my Aunt's funeral and my Father-in-law's birthday party. They are both on the same day but are too far apart so I can't go to both. Should I a) go to my Aunt's funeral or b) go to my Father-in-law's birthday party What should I do?" Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted August 25, 2005 Share Posted August 25, 2005 strive to do both if you were close to your aunt. Attend the funeral, then haul *ss to the birthday party. Because even if you cannot be there the whole time for either, you can be there long enough for both. otherwise, if you were close to your aunt or her family, go to the funeral. Your FiL should understand that some things outrank a part. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 25, 2005 Share Posted August 25, 2005 You won't have another chance to say goodbye to your aunt. You will see your FiL again. So what was his decision/reasoning? Link to post Share on other sites
Author weebird Posted August 28, 2005 Author Share Posted August 28, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 You won't have another chance to say goodbye to your aunt. You will see your FiL again. So what was his decision/reasoning? His decision was to go to the the FiL's birthday party. The reason he gave is that his blood relatives will "get over it" and that his wife's family are his new family now. Needless to say, that answer disturbed me... Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 28, 2005 Share Posted August 28, 2005 Yeah so every guy who gets married has to abandon his blood relatives? huh? he's the disturbed one lol Link to post Share on other sites
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