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Old 12th March 2019, 8:29 AM   #1
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My sister in law having an affair ??

I found out a few days ago that my sister in-law of 5 years is cheating on my brother with their neighbor in their apartment complex. I've even seen him come out of their place a few times which makes it even more ****ed up. aMy brother makes all of the money in the marriage while she sits at home and is either watching tv or inviting the boy to their place doing the deed. If you think it couldn't get any worse the guy is in his 19 while she is 31.

I personally think it's a fantasy but who knows? It's all messed up cause she isn't really thinking clearly and only thinking of herself and not how this affects everyone else. Especially my brother because he has self esteem issues and if he finds out it might drive him over the edge. He is seeing a therapist but it doesn't seem to be helping. And for those curious about how I . Apparently he was bragging about it to some neighbors. and since me and my sister in law get along each other she confided in me.

tl;dr: My 31 year old sister in-law is being unfaithful to ny suicidal brother with a 19 year old boy.

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Old 12th March 2019, 9:45 AM   #2
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Blood is thicker then water. You have to tell your brother what you know / suspect. If he finds out later that you knew & didn't tell him it will ruin your relationship.

Speak up but then be quiet no matter what he chooses, even if he decides to stay with her.
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Old 12th March 2019, 11:55 AM   #3
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I hope you DON'T sit and do nothing. You must inform your brother ASAP!!!
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Guess it's unanimous, your brother has to be told. Your SIL will be angry with you, it's the cost of doing business...

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Yes, tell your brother.
This is all on her, so help him keep the right frame of mind and not turn it inward on himself.
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Old 17th March 2019, 8:22 PM   #6
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OP, if your brother is suicidal, I would be concerned that you telling him could result in a suicide attempt. Seems like his life is more important at the moment than sharing the news without a lot of thought about how it might affect him. How do you think he will respond? When you say he is suicidal, how at risk do you think he currently is?
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