alec007 Posted November 20, 2017 Share Posted November 20, 2017 I've gotten sick and tired of him and his drunkenness, he's always shouting and swearing at me and my mother, not towards my sister who is 12, but the fact that she's exposed to this is pissing me off. He's a severe alcoholic and its made him lose his job and friends - and now he's taking the anger out on us - and every day I just feel so scared to live in my own home. Who has dealt with this? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2017 Share Posted November 20, 2017 Call the police and/or child protective services. Also start going to Al-Anon meetings & send your 12 year old sibling to Al-Teen meetings. They are support groups for people with family members who are addicts. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
homesickclutter Posted November 24, 2017 Share Posted November 24, 2017 I've gotten sick and tired of him and his drunkenness, he's always shouting and swearing at me and my mother, not towards my sister who is 12, but the fact that she's exposed to this is pissing me off. He's a severe alcoholic and its made him lose his job and friends - and now he's taking the anger out on us - and every day I just feel so scared to live in my own home. Who has dealt with this? I understand that dealing with a relative who is an alcoholic can be real difficult. I guess, your father needs a professional help since behavior is a big problem already. Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted November 24, 2017 Share Posted November 24, 2017 I did. He didn't live long - one day he just dropped dead as a consequence of the liver damage. Which is sad because he was extremely strong and would have probably lived 30+ years more if he didn't self-poisoned with alcohol. How old are you? I just fled away from home, never turned back, as soon as I was independent enough to do it. I'm so glad I did. I have my dream life, and all the drama, abuse etc is just a blurred image in the distant past. Life is in front of you but you need to remove yourself, and ideally your relatives from this toxic household. I've gotten sick and tired of him and his drunkenness, he's always shouting and swearing at me and my mother, not towards my sister who is 12, but the fact that she's exposed to this is pissing me off. He's a severe alcoholic and its made him lose his job and friends - and now he's taking the anger out on us - and every day I just feel so scared to live in my own home. Who has dealt with this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author alec007 Posted November 24, 2017 Author Share Posted November 24, 2017 I did. He didn't live long - one day he just dropped dead as a consequence of the liver damage. Which is sad because he was extremely strong and would have probably lived 30+ years more if he didn't self-poisoned with alcohol. How old are you? I just fled away from home, never turned back, as soon as I was independent enough to do it. I'm so glad I did. I have my dream life, and all the drama, abuse etc is just a blurred image in the distant past. Life is in front of you but you need to remove yourself, and ideally your relatives from this toxic household. I live with my sister who is 12 and my mother, I cant leave them alone with him there, just not an option. he's strong and intelligent as well, except alcohol is destroying him mentally and physically. Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 I live with my sister who is 12 and my mother, I cant leave them alone with him there, just not an option. he's strong and intelligent as well, except alcohol is destroying him mentally and physically. You can try with AlAnon but I don't think this will be a permanent solution. Is there a chance for your sister to go to boarding school? IME the only way to completely recover from such a toxic situation is to physically remove from it, but I understand you may need more time to do it to get your mom and sister out. You can talk openly with your mom about it all: she's probably more concerned than you... I'm not sure you're helpful to her being there - you just all are in the same sinking ship, one needs to step out at some point and quite possibly it has to be you because your sister is too young and your mom is likely too codependent. Link to post Share on other sites
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