sheena22 Posted January 30, 2019 Share Posted January 30, 2019 My husband and his mother used me. When we first met, they thought they hit the jackpot because I have a good job, and I travel a lot with my children. I fell in love rather quickly. He was a good man in my eyes! Everything was good until we got married. Then I started noticing his mother made all of his decisions. When he moved in with me, he left his car in his home state. I asked him NOT to lend it to anyone because when we moved back we would need 2 vehicles and I am against loaning things out that are worth a lot of money. Well, she told him to, and he did because she wanted the neighbor to use it. They both lied and I found out when I was on his IPAD and the message popped up from his mother stating the car insurance was due and she would tell said neighbor to pay it. That caused a fight between my husband and I. Long story short, I got him a job here, and he would send his mother money. $600a month for rent for his cats. He didn't tell me. He refused to put me on his bank account because he was sending her money. A woman who was receiving SSI checks and worked part time in a school. Income tax came, we filed.. as soon as it was accepted, he had put it to come in check form to our apartment, but as soon as it was accepted, he somehow "changed it" to go into his bank account, and had his mother buy him plane tickets hometo her. He took all of our income tax, and the child tax credit for my kids..not even his, and ran. I also found out he was here ONLY during the time his mother filed bankruptcy. Once that was done, he went back to her. I guess used me so she can file and not have anyone living there? I don't know how it works. He then got a restraining order on me full of LIES. Saying I overdosed on zoloft and threatened him, that I mentally abused him saying he wasn't good enough to be a manager, etc..and he actually got a temporary one! None of which was true.. He also had the cops escort him out of here. He pretended to go to work, kissed me goodbye said he loved me and an hour later knocking with cops. I believe it was to take whatever he wanted without me fighting it. Fast forward to now, we have a divorce hearing coming up. He tried to get one on default but I am fighting it due to the fact that he stole $4000 in income tax money when he never supported us. He sent his paychecks to his mother and with the rest he bought himself action figures. He stole games from my children. I have proof of the income tax thing. He sent me the paperwork but what he is asking of me, he left that out.. and I had the courthouse send me the paper.. and he is asking for my childrens gaming consoles..all which I bought using his gametop rewards card. I refuse to send him any of my childrens things. I am willing to let the games go. But he stole money. Can a judge make him give me my tax refund during a divorce or am I barking up the wrong tree? I was used.. by 2 con artists.. and I feel vert stupid Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted January 30, 2019 Share Posted January 30, 2019 I am not an attorney, but from what I know of the law, yes a judge can make him pay back what is owed you. Example, I had friend whose wife left him and cleaned out their bank accounts. Divorce judge was not happy over that, and ruled she had to pay him back with interest. This is a question you should be asking your lawyer. Next question. By the way he took your half of the tax refund, my guess he could be brought up on criminal charges, and why isn't your attorney taking this to the county attorney? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted January 30, 2019 Share Posted January 30, 2019 Can a judge make him give me my tax refund during a divorce or am I barking up the wrong tree? I was used.. by 2 con artists.. and I feel vert stupid Given the relatively small amount of money involved, you're in danger of having any recovery be eaten up by attorney's fees and judgement costs. You might have to consider chalking this up to (expensive) lesson learned. There's also some emotional value to putting this behind you and moving on with your life. Trust me, if I could have paid $4K early on to learn the truth about my ex-wife, it would have been money well spent. I know it hurts, but you may have dodged a bullet here... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 These type of questions are not suitable for an online forum. The fact is, with divorce, the judge (if it goes that far, which most don't) will look at the big picture. This tax refund that he allegedly took will be taken into consideration along with all the other financials of your marriage: both your incomes, outgoings, savings, debts, length of marriage, number and ages of kids, etc. It's simply not possible to look at one piece of the puzzle in isolation and ask what will happen to this? It also very much varies depending which country / state you're in. Your best option is to see a lawyer, who can tell you what is likely to happen in your jurisdiction. You should take all the financial details that you can, summarised on one sheet of A4. Many lawyers do a free initial consultation so you really don't have any reason not to do it. Be sure to ask the lawyer if using them will be worthwhile, or if their fees are likely to out-weigh any gains. They are duty-bound to answer that honestly. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 You need to pose these Qs to a lawyer not a forum but I agree with whoever pointed out that paying a lawyer several hundred dollars an hour to fight restraining orders & a multi-state divorce is going to cost way more then $4,000. Just don't be penny wise & pound foolish. All in all you seem better off without this mamma's boy. Link to post Share on other sites
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