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Old 2nd February 2018, 4:54 PM   #16
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Originally Posted by Matty2323 View Post
Hi again,

So after the previous advice I received here, I decided due to the fact that my situation with my SO is so multi faceted and complicated, counselling before divorce would be a wise decision.

I am still separated, living separately but see my SO twice a week because I'm still moving stuff out and I do help where I can. My SO told me she wanted me to move back in today, I told her I'd only do it on the condition that we received proper counselling and advice beforehand. She actually refused surprisingly (we both have access to free counselling from various sources) because she said we'd had it years ago and I didn't commit, I don't remember that but anyways. I'm not continuing without proper counselling, so I guess we're still separated. She curtly said "well don't move back in then." but she made it clear again that she doesn't want divorce.

There's plenty of time to think about it though because legally a couple must be separated (not sleeping in the same house) for twelve months before the courts will grant divorce in my state.

Any further thoughts would be appreciated, for eg, how can you convince someone that counselling is helpful, should I? etc. Thank you.
She's refusing counselling because she doesn't care about anyone/thing except whatever SHE is currently going through. Whatever is best for HER at any given moment(cheating,ect..). Bluespower nailed it with "She WILL become her mother". My ex would always say she hated the way her mother acted and then I started to notice a crazy resemblance in the two's behavior/actions.. My ex IS her mother,just a younger more filtered version,for now. RUN!
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