Minarose Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 (edited) It's over but I don't want to hurt him. Edited June 20, 2014 by Minarose
iris219 Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 You haven't given any details, so you're going to get general answers, but staying with someone in a dead marriage is painful for both parties as well. If it's really over as you say, divorce will allow both people to move on and have better, more satisfying lives. Remember that he is an adult. You are not responsible for making sure his feelings never get hurt. You will feel guilty. He will feel hurt. But you will both eventually move on and be happier than being in a marriage that's over.
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 (edited) Pain, guilt, regret, sorrow are just part of the package when it comes to divorce no matter what end of your on. Unless you never had one happy moment in your marriage, you should feel those things. It's only natural. There is no way of escaping it. You have to allow yourself to grieve it all and then be done with it otherwise you will have a very hard time moving on with your life. You are both adults and you are NOT responsible for his happiness, only yours. With enough time, it does get better. Trust me on this. I would just encourage you to remain compassionate and kind towards your ex and your marriage if only to honor the parts that were happy and good. It helps with making peace and moving on mentally, emotionally and spiritually healthy. Good luck. Edited June 20, 2014 by Michelle ma Belle
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