Mr. Spock Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 Ok so me and my ex of 2.5 years have been broken up for 2 weeks, the first week I was going no contact but she kept txting me and calling me saying that she missed me and missed being around me, you know all the typical after break up stuff that goes through you're mind. She broke up with me mind you. Well the second week I couldn't take it anymore so I broke no contact and we pretty much talked and hung out like every other day, she even came over my house for a party the other night, we also had sex twice since the break up also, okay so getting to the part where I think I screwed up. I thought things were going well I thought we were reconnecting and I was mentioning every now and then if she would want to get back together, but every time I brought it up she would just be like idk I still don't know what I want right now, and I would just be like okay and we would just talk about something else, so I got a new job at pacsun as asst. manager and it's a significant pay raise over my last job witch is something that lead to the break up with the first place, she thought I wasn't doing anything with my life and kinda just costing by, so I stopped doing drugs cut out bad friends of mine she didn't like, lost like 25 pounds and got this new job, I thought these were all things that she would love and would reconsider getting back with me but after I got this job she never said anything about how proud she was for me doing all of this stuff for her, the other night she said to me in a txt I'm so glad you it this job, and I said why? She tells me so I can hook her up with clothing discounts. Okay so this kinda ticked me off, it just made me feel like she was just stringing me along this whole time and that we were never actually going to get back together, so I kinda went off the handle and txted her what I was feeling witch now I instantly regret because I feel like I just pushed her further away from me, it almost feels like I was broken up with again, this is what she told me "You really think I'm that shallow? I can get whatever clothes- I want if I really want it. I was just kidding about it. But that's fine. You're also right, I shouldn't string you along. I hope that you don't think that this was easy for me too. I gave everything I got for this relationship, but it's time to let go. Thank you for everything you've done for me and for all the happy memories together. I guess this is it" it just sounds like I screwed up any chance of us getting back together, but I didn't know how to take the comment like we aren't dating and her comment is something that a dating couple would joke about not two ex's? Ugh sorry this was a long post I'm just curious what anyone on here would think of this whole situation, should I just go back to no contact, should I apologize for what I said?
Mr Carson Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 I don't think she really cares for you the same way you care for her. Your just familiar and it's easy, shes just stringing you along until she finds a new guy. NC
Author Mr. Spock Posted May 7, 2015 Author Posted May 7, 2015 I don't think she really cares for you the same way you care for her. Your just familiar and it's easy, shes just stringing you along until she finds a new guy. NC Yea I realize now that I should have just kept up with no contact from the beginning, and honestly I do feel like she was being super shallow, like she was basically using me to get over me. Thanks for your input!
Mr Carson Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Hay man the good news is your making more money and you lost 25lbs, so focus on you and move on. I know your hurting but time heals it really does.
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