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MeadowFlower

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Who here throws away gifts (not expensive), letters, or things the ex made and gave to you? If you do, are you regretful later on?

 

I have them in a box in my wardrobe currently.

 

There's always fire to burn them.... Or crush the gift with a sledge hammer......

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I have.

 

I threw away all gifts from my last relationship. I originally intended not to but after a few weeks, decided it was best for me. I couldn't stand having any of it in the house with me. It hurt. So, I boxed it and threw it into the trash bin about a month and a half after me and her ended. It was my way of affirming to myself it was over. The only thing I regret is I should have donated the clothes. Other than that, I didn't regret a damn thing because in the end, she left me for her ex and married the guy.

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Some stuff I kept, other stuff which I found disingenuous I threw out with no regrets. Liberating, in fact. The stuff I kept has no sentimental value to me anymore.

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If the gift was practical, I kept it. If it was a dud present or strictly emotional, I tossed it.

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For the things I valued, I hid them away until they no longer triggered emotions in me. But, eventually, I got rid of most of them. No regrets.

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I box everything up & stick it in the closet for at least year. Then I go through & cherry pick what I want to keep, especially the expensive stuff but most of the rest I discard. I have regretted disposing of some stuff that belonged to my parents but that regret comes from delegating the responsibility to others at a time when I was not functioning. Otherwise I have not regretted the decision but I'm not overly sentimental.

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I boxed things up and hid them away for a few years then I figured why was I keeping them, so I had a bonfire and it was great. As someone has done it was liberating. No regrets about it.

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If they make you feel good and remember happy times, keep them. If they make you sad, get rid of them.

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I had a T-shirt of his I used to love- it was so soft to sleep in. But afterwards I couldn’t stand the sight of it. So I put it in with the kitty litter when I cleaned the cat box. Petty, but I felt better. I’ve got other shirts.

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keep photos, they are good as a keepsake and bring back memories

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keep photos, they are good as a keepsake and bring back memories

 

Yes, I keep photos too.

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