Have To Work With Abusive Ex And Her New Boyfriend This Week.

[TCD23]

Hi.

 

Basically it's been three months since I broke up with my ex who literally put me through hell with a constant barrage of emotional abuse for a year. I finally got the strength to walk out (I stupidly lived with her for half a year) and have started over again. This girl was clever as she isolated me so people on the course are less than friendly to me except three. This is a specialist course so there's less than fifty of us spread over three years.

 

Anyways my ex did not take it well or act like an adult to say the least, acting generally psychopathic and she's had two new lovers including this one in the span of three months (one four days after we broke) and made it very known to me as well as the fact they're rebounds (she came round to tell me that). We've had no contact for around two months now which I intitated as she was actively going out to hurt me when I was trying to be nice. Nearly broke me but I recovered.

 

I've had to build myself again and I've surrounded myself with friends not on the course who are positive. I haven't dated anybody although I had the opportunity at a couple of times but I would be alright now.

 

Anyways it turns out that next week on set, I'll be working not only with my ex but also her new boyfriend. This is awkard for obvious reasons. I don't regret breaking up with her but I still have anger at the abuse I suffered and I know she'll be flaunting this in my face.

 

My question is does anybody have any advice on how to act and what to do when she inevitably does start flaunting this in my face, trying to make me jealous? I'm going to remain calm but practical advice for my emotional wellbeing would be very welcome. Only two people on this set are nice people, the rest I either don't know or are dicks (having only become that since the break-up)

 

So any advice?

[learning_slowly]

Forgive her, she's probably got problems, that she may not even realise. Try to be polite and try to let her know you're happy she has somebody else in her life that can make her happy.

 

If you did like her alot at some stage, you probably do want the best for her.

 

It's hard to have a battle with somebody who is being nice to you, so be nice to her. In a few years you will probably have forgotten about her, so try to leave her the best image of you possible.

 

You never know what will happen in the future, she maybe in a position to say negative or positive things about you which could decide if you get a job, so it could be for your benefit too.

 

If the whole world thinks you're an ass but you are true to yourself in being a good person, they will eventually see it, and in the mean time, you can live knowing you lived a better life than them.