Steve11 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Probably went a bit overkill, I said how I felt about her (again) and that I know she doesn't want to see me, but I need my stuff & she can leave it on the doorstep. Ill be over next week. What if she doesn't reply?
CarrieT Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 What if she doesn't reply? Then you won't get your stuff back. Have you used an intermediary (mutual friends) to obtain your stuff?
TailSpin75 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 I have someone going to get my stuff this month... exposure = pain
Author Steve11 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 Luckily it didn't send! I asked her for a drink the other day, she replied today saying she doesn't think she can, maybe when things are less raw. I'm not doing very well with this breakup. I know I've been given the right advice, but I just haven't used it.
Author Steve11 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 She still hasn't given it to the mutual friend, either. I've told her I have some of her belongings but she hasn't asked for them.
Renard99 Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Steve, unless you really need the stuff she has or it has special value to you, then assume that it's lost forever. If you do need it, demand that you have it back and give her every opportunity to do so, like sending a friend or suggesting somewhere secure she can leave it. Otherwise, the pain of proceeding with the above can just be too painful to continue to pursue. It's often easier and better for you to just assume that you'll never get it back and write it off, along with the relationship itself. I remember when my ex left and she had some of my stuff. Her wealthy father funded most of our move so when it came to the break up she took about 80% of the furniture and appliances as her dad had paid for most of it. Problem was, she obviously just pointed to areas of the room and the removal guys took everything in the rough area, including some of my stuff. Trying to get it back did my head in and probably would have been easier, from a psychological point of view, to let her keep it and I replace it.
TaraMaiden Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Look - I told you how to do it in your other thread - why don't you just try to follow the darned advice? You said yourself - You've been given good advice, but haven't followed it - why?? People may slam me for this, but I really hate it when this happens. Guys come in with their hearts broken and spill their emotions out - so they get umpteen, countless posts of good, supportive, well-meaning advice - from BOTH genders - and actually, that seems to simply have the effect of rendering them pathetic and spineless.... We have too many threads to count, from too many guy members, which are just.... limp and whiney.... I don't get it - what the hell is happening to men nowadays? Where the phukk is your chutzpah? Jeesh, grow a pair ferphuk's sake and get a grip! The sympathy vote here is rapidly running out of gas.... Just bloody well go round there with all her stuff in a box, knock on her door, the moment she answers it, thrust it into her arms and say "Right! Here's your stuff! Now give me mine and I can leave!" Just do it! Get a damn grip, grow a spine, stop whingeing and man up! Fed up, fed up, fed up.... No wonder men can't get Women - they act like girls more than girls do!! Am I Mad? Do I sound mad?? God, I'm so mad today!!! :mad: :mad: 1
cavalier99 Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 (edited) Look - I told you how to do it in your other thread - why don't you just try to follow the darned advice? You said yourself - You've been given good advice, but haven't followed it - why?? People may slam me for this, but I really hate it when this happens. Guys come in with their hearts broken and spill their emotions out - so they get umpteen, countless posts of good, supportive, well-meaning advice - from BOTH genders - and actually, that seems to simply have the effect of rendering them pathetic and spineless.... We have too many threads to count, from too many guy members, which are just.... limp and whiney.... I don't get it - what the hell is happening to men nowadays? Where the phukk is your chutzpah? Jeesh, grow a pair ferphuk's sake and get a grip! The sympathy vote here is rapidly running out of gas.... Just bloody well go round there with all her stuff in a box, knock on her door, the moment she answers it, thrust it into her arms and say "Right! Here's your stuff! Now give me mine and I can leave!" Just do it! Get a damn grip, grow a spine, stop whingeing and man up! Fed up, fed up, fed up.... No wonder men can't get Women - they act like girls more than girls do!! Am I Mad? Do I sound mad?? God, I'm so mad today!!! :mad: :mad: Cdt76 isn't a pussy. He needs sensitivity and anger counseling. Lol me too i think See tara there are some of us with our testicles intact but severely bruised ...kidding cdt76 Edited March 13, 2013 by cavalier99
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