Never even had a chance

[OregonFriendzoned]

Last night I told my best friend about my feelings for her. I've known her for for over 10 years and my feelings for her go back almost that long. Unfortunately pouring my heart out to her only led to me finding out that she has never felt the same way nor will she ever feel the same way even though she told me that I am everything in a guy she is looking for, except that the attraction isn't there. I feel like my whole life I have built around the hope that someday we would be together and in a conversation that lasted about an hour all of that hope was gone. The kicker is that she lives with me. So now I have to see her come and go and the nights she doesn't come home I know she is probably with the guy she is seeing who I know does not love her in the way I do. All of the small things she does... I've spent the last couple of weeks waking up in the middle of the night thinking of her and how I was going to tell her how I felt... and this morning I woke up with a physical pain in my chest/stomach that hasn't gone away until I just killed a flask full of whiskey. I know drinking doesn't help but how do I get over this? I feel completely crushed. I held these secret feelings in for almost a decade and now that they are out and I know that she doesn't feel the same way.... plus she just left to go watch a game with the guy she's with. If there is anyone out there that can give some words of wisdom.... I need them. I don't know how to cope with this. I've never felt like I feel now.

[sangel07]

Your message really moved me. I can only imagine how you feel and I know this is not what you want to hear right now, but if this wasn't meant to be, it means there is something else in store for you and you couldn't even begin moving towards it until you poured it all out and tested her reaction. Unfortunately it wasn't what you were hoping for, and I know, it sucks. But this means that now you can stop waiting for something that is never going to happen and slowly get used to the idea that your future lies somewhere else. It's a long and difficult process, but the sooner you get started with it, the sooner you'll be freed and it seems to me that you have already invested too many years in this.

 

I would seriously think about moving or looking for a new roommate, though. Living with her is going to make it so much harder for you... try to create a situation where you'll be able to heal. I'm afraid such a situation doesn't include her next room.

 

Btw, didn't you feel any relief at all by simply expressing your feelings, after all those years?

[Fac3Value]

Sorry to hear about it, my friend. I recently went through the same thing. One thing I can tell you is that you need to get away from her. sangel07 is right, you need to try to move out or otherwise get away from her. The more distance, the better. I went NC with my best friend, have been for a month now. It sucks because we were always there for each other, but this was the best way to move on for me personally. I know I would have been worse off staying around her with my unreciprocated emotions. When you've purged her from your system, so to speak, then maybe the two of you can start over.

 

Also...remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder. And now you've planted the idea in her head. "Nothing is more powerful than an idea who's time has come" (a little Victor Hugo for ya' ). I don't want to get your hopes up, though. This idea's time may never come. But it did for me. Unfortunately, that idea ran its course rather quickly, but that's life. I'm moving on, and I suggest you do the same.

 

Remember that the only way forward is, well, forward, and if she doesn't want to take that journey with you then it's her loss.

 

Good luck, my friend.

[OregonFriendzoned]

Thanks to you both. She will be moving sometime in the near future once she finds something suitable (not because of this, she has been looking for a while as she needs something closer to downtown) so that problem will resolve itself. We don't see each other much as of right now anyways because she works the night shift as a nurse so she's gone by the time I get home from work and doesn't get home until after I've gone to bed. I wrote her a 2 1/2 page letter the morning after I wrote my post here and I made her a CD with songs that always make me think of her. I didn't feel like I had said everything I needed to say when we talked so I did so in the note and then wrote her a page with descriptions of why each song on the CD makes me think of her. In the letter I asked her to try to find if there is anyway she can have feelings for me (she's always said I'm like her brother, which with that stigma makes me think she hasn't given it very much consideration so I'm hoping that this at least makes her think of me in a different way). We talked this morning and she said that she is going to gather her thoughts over the next few days and she is going to leave me a letter as well telling me how she feels. I pretty much figure her letter is going to tell me that she won't ever have the same feelings which I guess will help me get over this finally. It will be an absolution at least. I really do feel better now that I have this huge secret off my chest and know that she knows exactly how I feel. It's not easy living every day for 10 years with something like this... seeing her with other guys... having to give her advice on the a-holes she's dating knowing in my heart it should be me she's with because I would never do anything to make her hurt. If she tells me that she won't ever feel the same, then I will just be the best friend that I can possibly be because she needs that and deserves that. Anything I can do to make her smile. Even if that means seeing her fall for another guy, even if it does tear me up inside. Thanks again for your advice you guys, it's really helpful to know that there are people out there who know how I feel.

[SuperGeek]

Well, you should have told her your feelings about 9.5 years ago man. You kind of waited a bit too long here, lol. She basically sees you as a brother now and that would be just too weird, ya know? There is only one solution to this situation now. You need to get the hell out of there and get a new roommate or hell just get your own pad and skip the roommates. Let this be a lesson to not invest so much in a friendship of the opposite sex when clearly they are not reciprocating it back to you. I'm sure for the past 10 years she has known about your feelings all along and just didn't say anything and ate up the attention. It's very difficult to keep this kind of attraction hidden for 10 years man. Women are very very good at detecting this kind of thing anyway. Stop living with her and you will heal from it. Continue living with her and you will just keep torturing yourself. The choice is yours. Also, if you do move into a new place without her, you can still be her friend, but just in a less connected way and it will put some boundaries between you two. This is actually a good thing and probably what you need at this point. I'm in my mid 30s and wouldn't live with a female friend if you paid me. Too much drama, temptation, and no privacy. If I want to go out and have a wild night or have wild passionate sex at my pad, i can do so without an annoying roommate in the next room. Besides kitchen sex is great (hard to do that with a roommate around, ya know?). SuperGeek

Last night I told my best friend about my feelings for her. I've known her for for over 10 years and my feelings for her go back almost that long. Unfortunately pouring my heart out to her only led to me finding out that she has never felt the same way nor will she ever feel the same way even though she told me that I am everything in a guy she is looking for, except that the attraction isn't there. I feel like my whole life I have built around the hope that someday we would be together and in a conversation that lasted about an hour all of that hope was gone. The kicker is that she lives with me. So now I have to see her come and go and the nights she doesn't come home I know she is probably with the guy she is seeing who I know does not love her in the way I do. All of the small things she does... I've spent the last couple of weeks waking up in the middle of the night thinking of her and how I was going to tell her how I felt... and this morning I woke up with a physical pain in my chest/stomach that hasn't gone away until I just killed a flask full of whiskey. I know drinking doesn't help but how do I get over this? I feel completely crushed. I held these secret feelings in for almost a decade and now that they are out and I know that she doesn't feel the same way.... plus she just left to go watch a game with the guy she's with. If there is anyone out there that can give some words of wisdom.... I need them. I don't know how to cope with this. I've never felt like I feel now.

[SuperGeek]

If she tells me that she won't ever feel the same, then I will just be the best friend that I can possibly be because she needs that and deserves that. Anything I can do to make her smile. Even if that means seeing her fall for another guy, even if it does tear me up inside.

 

You are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too nice to her man. Seriously bro, you need to get away from this girl and don't ever make her a CD full of songs again. She clearly doesn't appreciate anything you've done for her and you just said she's attracted to the aholes. Why have you put yourself through this drama for 10 years? You've wasted so much time on a single girl that hasn't responded to you at all. Why do that to yourself? Pack your sh*t and get out of there as soon as you can. Do not wait for her to leave, you need to leave first and show her that you got a damn backbone. Do not ever give her dating advice again and it is not your responsibility to make her smile, because do you think for one second she thinks the same way about you? She's likely out right now whoring it up with another guy. Call me cynical and bitter if you want, but I know i'm right in what I'm saying. This is why men and women can't be friends if one party has strong feelings for the other... it just doesn't work.

 

Grow a pair of balls and move out as SOON as you can. Live in your car if you have to. Just get away from this woman. After that examine why you did this to yourself.

 

In the letter I asked her to try to find if there is anyway she can have feelings for me (she's always said I'm like her brother, which with that stigma makes me think she hasn't given it very much consideration so I'm hoping that this at least makes her think of me in a different way).

 

Newsflash: You remind her of her brother. You have ZERO chance with this girl EVER. Hell could freeze over 20 times and you still would have no chance. Do yourself a favor and move out ASAP. She was telling you all along that she wasn't interested, but you wern't picking up the signals (or lack of signals). I'm telling you this harshly because you need to hear it. Move out ASAP!!!!!

 

SuperGeek

Edited January 7, 2013 by SuperGeek

[Fac3Value]

Thanks to you both. She will be moving sometime in the near future once she finds something suitable (not because of this, she has been looking for a while as she needs something closer to downtown) so that problem will resolve itself. We don't see each other much as of right now anyways because she works the night shift as a nurse so she's gone by the time I get home from work and doesn't get home until after I've gone to bed. I wrote her a 2 1/2 page letter the morning after I wrote my post here and I made her a CD with songs that always make me think of her. I didn't feel like I had said everything I needed to say when we talked so I did so in the note and then wrote her a page with descriptions of why each song on the CD makes me think of her. In the letter I asked her to try to find if there is anyway she can have feelings for me (she's always said I'm like her brother, which with that stigma makes me think she hasn't given it very much consideration so I'm hoping that this at least makes her think of me in a different way). We talked this morning and she said that she is going to gather her thoughts over the next few days and she is going to leave me a letter as well telling me how she feels. I pretty much figure her letter is going to tell me that she won't ever have the same feelings which I guess will help me get over this finally. It will be an absolution at least. I really do feel better now that I have this huge secret off my chest and know that she knows exactly how I feel. It's not easy living every day for 10 years with something like this... seeing her with other guys... having to give her advice on the a-holes she's dating knowing in my heart it should be me she's with because I would never do anything to make her hurt. If she tells me that she won't ever feel the same, then I will just be the best friend that I can possibly be because she needs that and deserves that. Anything I can do to make her smile. Even if that means seeing her fall for another guy, even if it does tear me up inside. Thanks again for your advice you guys, it's really helpful to know that there are people out there who know how I feel.

 

No. No, no, no, no. Hell no! Listen, if you want to try to continue being there for her, then that makes you a better man than I'll ever be. And you must have a much higher threshold for emotional damage, because you will never heal this way. If you're willing to put yourself through that then do not, DO NOT, make her regret her decision. You don't want to make her hurt? Well, making her feel like she has done something wrong by assaulting her with letters and CD's about your unwavering love sure will. You can't make her love you, and if you want to continue being her friend, stop trying to force it. If something between you is ever to happen, it must do so on its own.

 

Eventually, you two might be able to get back to something that resembles normal. Set some boundaries, stop accepting all of the duties of the boyfriend without the benefits, and eventually things will stop being awkward. You'll still be emotionally wrecked, but at least things will appear to be normal on the outside. Trust me when I say that rejection by your best friend isn't as bad as being left by someone who was once your best friend but became girlfriend and now wants to be best friends again. Which brings me to the next bit:

 

You say that she is taking a few days to "gather her thoughts" and that she'll get back to you. That's exactly what my friend told me, and then she gave it a try for my sake only. This is going to be terribly hard to hear, but I sure wish someone had told me this before I destroyed my friendship. If this girl is 1) single, and 2) really your friend, then she will give this a try, just as my friend did. She figured that it would be stupid to turn down someone who cared about her so much. She said "why not?" just as your friend probably will. You may be thinking "Sweet! I get the girl!" Well hold on. This is the hard part. Your relationship will be short. "Why not?" is a horrible foundation upon which to build a stable relationship. The feeling of infatuation that powers couples through early stages of relationships is not felt by both parties here. You may be thinking that 10 years of friendship have created a more stable foundation than "infatuation" could ever do. I certainly hope you're right. That's what I thought. And I was wrong. In the end, she told me that she couldn't make herself feel something that just wasn't there. You will feel like you're on top of the world, and then that world will come crashing down around you.

 

If being flat-out rejected hasn't destroyed you yet, then the inevitable breakup in the above situation will certainly do the job. I've been through a few breakups but this one has hurt me more than all of the others combined. It's because I'm mourning the loss of both a girlfriend and, more importantly, my best friend. Someone who stuck with me through thick and thin. Someone who has seen me at my worst, lowest moments, and helped me move past them. Someone who has changed my life in more ways than I care to count, to whom I am eternally grateful, and who I will never forget (I actually had to wipe a lone tear from my trackpad just now).

 

Listen to me, and do not forget this if this moment ever comes, if she ever comes to you saying "why not?". I hope I'm not too late. Ten years is a long time. If you value your friendship at all, when she comes to you saying "why not?" you will REJECT HER. You will tell her that you will not put your friendship on the line for anything less than mutual attraction from both parties. You tell her that "why not?" just won't cut it when so much is at stake. You will, in effect, tell her everything that I should have told my best friend, but didn't, because I didn't have the foresight to. It's going to hurt, but not as much as the inevitable breakup will. And you will move on. The two of you. Together. As best friends. If any romantic relationship is ever to happen between the two of you, you will get one shot at it. DO NOT waste your one chance right now, when only one of you has feelings for the other. Wait it out. You may find that she begins to feel attraction towards you now that you've put the idea in her head. BUT. WAIT. UNTIL. THEN.

 

I don't want to find you in the same boat I'm in. It's small and dark here, my friend, and it creaks with every passing wave, like it's going to fall apart. And it's taking on water from a hole I can't seem to find. I feel like I'm slowly sinking to my watery grave. Don't end up the same way.

 

Sorry for the long post. Sorry things got so heavy. But seriously, stop with the letters, stop with the CDs. Don't waste your one chance. Oh, and don't listen to anything SuperGeek told you. He seems to be hung up on hot kitchen sex rather than the finer points of a long lasting relationship (be it with a best friend OR a girlfriend ).

 

Best of luck to you, my friend

[OregonFriendzoned]

DO NOT waste your one chance right now, when only one of you has feelings for the other. Wait it out. You may find that she begins to feel attraction towards you now that you've put the idea in her head. BUT. WAIT. UNTIL. THEN.

 

This is exactly why I wrote the letter and made the CD. And like supergeek said, she looks at me like a brother. She always has. I really don't think she ever sensed the attraction until lately. The reason I wrote the letter was basically to plant a seed in her mind to make her see me in a different way. I told her straight up in the letter "I don't care if it takes you a day, week, month or a year to feel anything for me. I'll wait because you are worth the wait." I'm not looking for instant gratification here. I've thought about if she decided that she did want to be in a relationship with me JUST because I'm good to her. I wouldn't go for that. I couldn't do that to her, or myself. It would have to be mutual no matter how much I would want to say yes if she said "why not." I'm not at all trying to make her feel bad for not feeling the same for me, and I'm definitely not trying to force her into anything. I'm just trying to get my ass out of the friendzone.

 

BUT... I know she is trying. Two nights ago I changed the oil in her car, and when I got in to pull it into the garage guess what was playing on her car stereo... track 3 of the CD I made her. The other night I woke up when she pulled into the driveway and layed there for a minute but didn't hear her come in, so I went to the window to see what was up and I saw her sitting in her car just listening to the songs and she stayed there for 15 minutes.. So that tells me that she could have been listening to the songs for her whole 1 hour commute plus 15 minutes after she got home. That tells me that a part of her wants to be with me, she just needs to break past the friends barrier. That I don't think she has seen the guy she was dating since this all came about. Sure maybe I'm a sucker. Maybe I waited too long. I don't think so, I think I waited the perfect amount of time. For us to both be mature enough to know what we really feel without all of the hormones in the way. If I had told her how I felt 10 years ago she probably would have shot me down, I would have gotten all hormonal and emotional like a 16 year old would and I probably wouldn't have talked to her again. Supergeek, I know you're trying to help but you're wrong on multiple levels. First, she's not out "whoring" around. I can count with less than half the fingers on one hand the number of guys she's been with. I know because she talked to me about each one when they broke her heart. She doesn't sleep around for fun. Hell, she made her first real boyfriend wait for 6 months for their first kiss, just to make sure it was right. Second is I can't afford to move out, and neither can she right now until she finds a suitable place with roommates.

 

This girl is very analytical and thinks things through very thoroughly before making any big decisions. Hell, it takes her an hour to decide between what shirt to buy. I'm not expecting an answer anytime soon, and if it takes her a year to feel something for me then that's ok. I'll wait. But like I said earlier, I won't just jump into something with her and she won't jump into anything with anybody before really thinking it through. The letter wasn't meant to get me into a relationship with her, it was just meant to tell her the truth and get that "brother" stigma away from me. If it leads to a true relationship with real feelings on both sides then it will have served it purpose. If it gets her to think about it, it will have served its purpose. And if we just end up as friends in the end and gives me an absolution then it will also have served its purpose.

[OregonFriendzoned]

...aaaand right as I finished that post she texted me telling me she needs some space for a while. K, so either she is really thinking about it and needs time and space, or I just totally f**ked things up. If this goes south I'm afraid I'm going to become a very bitter person...

[SuperGeek]

She's playing you like a fiddle. Go ahead and get more tore up about her. Seems that you need to learn the hard way. I certainly had to I suppose and there wasn't a soul that could convince me until I got my heart torn out.

 

Girls that are interested in men don't say 'I need space'. They'd be at your place rocking your world right now if she was interested. She's been rocking it with other men though, but why not you? Ever wonder about that ? After TEN YEARS? What is it going to take to realize you're friend zoned and her brother at this point. TWENTY YEARS? THIRTY? How long man?

 

Look at her actions, not what she says and think long and hard about what you're doing. Time is precious and you're wasting it on a girl that is playing head games with you just so she 'doesn't hurt your ego'. I'm even going to make the assumption that she's not straight up with you because she values the friendship and knows that once she comes clean and says you're basically like her best BFF, you're gonna split and she likes the support you give her while being able to bone other guys. It's a really nice set up for her really. Kind of selfish too if you ask me.

 

Doesn't the fact that she's out boning other men and not you for the past TEN YEARS give you any sort of a clue?

 

Good luck, and this is my last post on this topic. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe she'll come running back tonight and you'll get married. In that case my apologies, but considering the evidence, I'd give that a very low probability. You'd be more likely to score a date with Taylor Swift instead mate.

 

SuperGeek

Edited January 14, 2013 by SuperGeek

[SuperGeek]

Oh, and don't listen to anything SuperGeek told you. He seems to be hung up on hot kitchen sex rather than the finer points of a long lasting relationship (be it with a best friend OR a girlfriend ).

 

Hey there is nothing wrong with kitchen sex, okay?. Try it before you knock it! Or knock it while trying it. Anyway, whatever. ...

 

I know you disagree with my posts, but I'm essentially saying the same thing you are in that huge diatribe you posted above. The OP is coming on too strong and 10 years later? C'mon man? Girls don't wait that long to be interested in a guy? They just don't. At least i hven't met one yet. They don't got that kind of time to be screwing around. And this girl has already been screwing other guys. Why are you giving him hope for? Do you want this poor bloke to get even more hurt or what?

 

Anyway, no offense taken mate. I'm proud of my kitchen sex and I don't wait ten years for it to happen either. It happens usually within about 2 weeks - 2 months after meeting a new girl. I can't even imagine sex for the first time with a girl I've known for 10 years... Most girls come/go much faster than that

 

Good luck OP. I hope I was wrong and you get the girl of your dreams.

 

Cheers,

 

SuperGeek

[todreaminblue]

Sorry to hear it didn't work out for you when you first tried, your post was very moving.It must be hard for you to see her and keep hope alive.The cd was a thoughtful gift,music is where the heart is, in lyrics and in the melody.Music has powerful emotive qualities.Hope it works for you.

 

You did the right thing by telling her,watch the collateral damage from waiting and the slow decline of hope and happiness, if you feel it declining dont wait forever before you move on......i hope you find the happiness you seek...best wishes....deb

[OregonFriendzoned]

Haha thanks Supergeek. Yeah I'm coming around to it. I'm not sure if she's playing me as much as I'm just ****ing myself thinking there could be something. Not really sure why I've held on to the feelings all these years, guess somewhere in me there is a hopeless romantic. But if I don't get some sort of answer out of her soon (e.g. a yes, or I'm thinking about it or no I'm not interested etc.) I'm just going to say **** it and move on. Like I said, I don't mind being her friend, I just couldn't not take the chance of telling her. I'll always be her friend because she's been there for me and I've always been there for her through all the bull**** life throws your way... But now that it's out there and she's been giving me the cold shoulder for the past week my feelings are swiftly fading. Guess hope is an amazing thing to keep those feelings alive for so long, and now that I'm coming to the realization that it won't happen my mind is letting it go. And thanks todreaminblue, yeah we'll see. But from what I'm seeing it's not going anywhere. I won't let it eat me up, if it's not there it's not there.

[SuperGeek]

I wish you the best of luck OregonFriendZoned. Make sure regardless of the outcome that you take care of you, even if that means putting in some distance from her for awhile. Be her friend if you can handle it, but boundaries probably are a requirement at this point. It's going to hurt watching her date other men after you've expressed your desire to be with her -- it was painful for me when i went through a similar situation.

 

I know you said you can't move out due to financial reasons, but i dismiss that argument. You could find another roommate to live with if you put some research into it. Or perhaps just scale down your life a bit and get a smaller place to yourself? Get a second job, which actually might keep your mind busy while you get over this event.

 

My situation is different than yours, but I've been no-contact from my ex for nearly 2 1/2 years now (except a pathetic attempt on her end to get me back over a two week phone conversation). No-contact and getting myself away from the pain has been the best decision i've made in the last 3 years. It's allowed me to feel the pain, get over it, and move on.

 

The hard truth is that living with someone you feel so strongly about that doesn't reciprocate the same feelings is going to drive you insane. Put some distance in man, do it for yourself so you can heal and not drive yourself crazy.

 

SuperGeek

Edited January 15, 2013 by SuperGeek
Got rid of the diatribe - re-wrote the post

[fallenheart]

All you will ever be is this girl's emotional tampon. She will use you for attention, validation, and a shoulder to cry on but she will never love you or respect you the way you want her to.

 

this is you:

 

http://xkcd.com/513/

 

She isn't some wonderful unique snowflake.....there are millions of girls JUST LIKE HER. You don't "need her in your life, even as just a friend." Screw that. You have other friends right?

 

Forget her. Forever. And not in a vain attempt to make her jealous or miss you. Forget her cause she's poison and poison will kill you and you're better off without it in your life. Go find another girl that actually likes you instead of wasting an entire precious decade of your life on a girl that never did and never will like you.

[Stoic44]

Right. Move out and move on. Get on with your life. Find a girl who can appreciate all you have to offer.

[OregonFriendzoned]

K, so she never gave me an answer like she said she would. Instead, last night during a casual conversation she brought up the fact that the guy she was "seeing" as a rebound after a breakup is actually taking her on a proper date. As if I had never told her how I feel, or wrote the letter or any of that stupid bull****. WTF! In literally one second all of my feelings for her turned into anger. Mostly at myself for ever wasting so much time caring for someone who would do that ****. I can't believe she would just disregard everything that's happened in the past couple of weeks and act like nothing had ever happened, probably hoping that she wouldn't have to tell me that she doesn't feel the same. All I wanted was a simple "not interested" or some sort of response to me pouring out all of my feelings I've been keeping in FOR 10 ****ING YEARS! The least she could have done was have the balls to tell me.

 

If anyone is reading this thread looking for advice on trying to get out of the friendzone here is my advice to you: Take your stupid emotions and kick them down the god damned stairs. She won't go for you. She'll keep you around just to basically be her bitch. Her boyfriend with no benefits. Go find someone else. I'm out.

[fancy feast]

You're gonna have to move on. And when the next one comes around, make a move. Ask her out on a date. Don't wait and then confess your feelings. That hardly ever ends well.

[SuperGeek]

Yes, she's selfish as she doesn't care about the impact of leading you on for 10 years. She likes the support you give her without giving anything back. As stated before, she knew you had feelings already, it was probably written all over you in body language without you even saying it NINE years ago.

 

Do yourself a favor and go no-contact with her immediately. Just literally cut the relationship for awhile and take a break for at least a few months. I'd say at least 90 days. At that point evaluate whether you want her back as just a friend or not.

 

I'm willing to bet after this cooling off period you'll arrive at the fact that you can't be friends with her anymore. It's extremely hard to be friends with a girl you have strong feelings for that does not reciprocate it back to you.

 

I've been in your exact same position (though much less time invested) and had to completely cut the friendship for awhile because i couldn't move on.

 

I know it sucks, some of us have to learn the hard way. If you still live with her, you're going to be in hell until you move out. Find a way to get out of there as soon as you can so you can heal from it.

 

SuperGeek

 

K, so she never gave me an answer like she said she would. Instead, last night during a casual conversation she brought up the fact that the guy she was "seeing" as a rebound after a breakup is actually taking her on a proper date. As if I had never told her how I feel, or wrote the letter or any of that stupid bull****. WTF! In literally one second all of my feelings for her turned into anger. Mostly at myself for ever wasting so much time caring for someone who would do that ****. I can't believe she would just disregard everything that's happened in the past couple of weeks and act like nothing had ever happened, probably hoping that she wouldn't have to tell me that she doesn't feel the same. All I wanted was a simple "not interested" or some sort of response to me pouring out all of my feelings I've been keeping in FOR 10 ****ING YEARS! The least she could have done was have the balls to tell me.

 

If anyone is reading this thread looking for advice on trying to get out of the friendzone here is my advice to you: Take your stupid emotions and kick them down the god damned stairs. She won't go for you. She'll keep you around just to basically be her bitch. Her boyfriend with no benefits. Go find someone else. I'm out.

Edited January 19, 2013 by SuperGeek