seminoles84 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Dated for 1.5 years and I always afraid of her ex before me would show up again.. Luckily he moved away. My luck She wont admit it.. but I know she's staying with him.. and looking for jobs in the same city.. when a few months ago she was suppose to move with me. Sigh. I feel used.. I feel like a 1.5 year rebound. She always told me she would never get back with him.. and that she loved me.. well that didn't last very long. Worst part is being lied too.. and the guy is a total prick to her. I always stood up for her after we broke up and all my friends told me she's a bitch.. Now I actually think I'm starting to hate her. How do people hurt people like this? I feel like this is going to cause me major trust issues in the future. What do I do..? Extra sad today.
ahhhchooo Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 NC her... and move on. Feeling used really sucks, I can relate right now.
Meaplus3 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Dated for 1.5 years and I always afraid of her ex before me would show up again.. Luckily he moved away. My luck She wont admit it.. but I know she's staying with him.. and looking for jobs in the same city.. when a few months ago she was suppose to move with me. Sigh. I feel used.. I feel like a 1.5 year rebound. She always told me she would never get back with him.. and that she loved me.. well that didn't last very long. Worst part is being lied too.. and the guy is a total prick to her. I always stood up for her after we broke up and all my friends told me she's a bitch.. Now I actually think I'm starting to hate her. How do people hurt people like this? I feel like this is going to cause me major trust issues in the future. What do I do..? Extra sad today. IMO.. some just don't realize the amount of hurt they cause until it's too late. I would try and forget about this one with NC beign your best bet. I realize you are hurt and that hurt can lead to trust issues with future R's, but try not to think that way. There are plenty of decent ladies out there.. it's just a matter of finding the right one. Hang in there and Best wishes to you. AP:)
Author seminoles84 Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 Normally I'm doing ok.. but I guess today is just another one of "those" days. I'm pretty sure I don't have to worry about contact.. I burnt down that bridge this weekend. Kinda made me feel better about myself.. sadly. I think it was a lot of built up anger from taking the lies for so long.. Just sucks.. because I'm a typical "nice guy." And I don't date just anyone.. I thought she was different and special.. and I guess it was for a little over a year.. but I guess life knows how to throw curve balls. I'm afraid I'm going to be waiting another 3 years before I find someone I like again. Wish I had better dating skills.. I'm way to shy... unless I'm drunk lol *SIGH* Maybe if I win the lottery this week.. I'll be happy again.
blackandblue Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 (Why) do people hurt people like this? Because they are selfish. They do whatever it takes to make themselves feel good and don't give a damn about the collateral damage (which would be you, me etc).
tealeafbud Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 seminoles, we all have days like that, you know? Just yesterday I was cleaning the floor and looking at how clean it was, then BAM, I was staring off, drifting thinking about my situation and the ex, etc. I felt sad, but liberated at the same time. Anyhooo, rebound or not, it was a relationship, and you shared some good times. Let it go at that. who knows, she might rebound to you once again, but then you'll be over her to slam the door on her selfish face. My ex is in a rebound, not that I really care, and am basically over her. I still think about certain aspects of it. Even things said "afterwards" but it's getting to be more rare with each passing day. Be brave, you'll get there. Take care O you.
watermeloncandy Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Because they are selfish. They do whatever it takes to make themselves feel good and don't give a damn about the collateral damage (which would be you, me etc). i COMPLETELY agree. my exboyfriend is exactly like that. and the funny thing is, if you were to do something like that to them, they'd probably be just as upset as we are. it's so hard to NOT let it hurt. it's because we still care about them, (i know i still love him) and we wouldn't think of doing something like that to them, so we don't understand how they could do it. maybe too we start thinking that we really didn't know them..misjudged their true character since they've gone and done something so selfish..."how could he do this to me?"... i know i've wondered that...then i start the spiral of, "what else didn't i know about him?" "did he do things during our relationship that i don't know about??" - that's a bad train of thought to start. i think though, the reality is that this is how they are dealing with the break up and there's nothing we can do about it. just be glad that this person is out of your life now...do you really want to be with someone who could be so selfish and disrespectful to you? they aren't worth it. (easier said than done..i know)
0hpenelope Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 IMO.. some just don't realize the amount of hurt they cause until it's too late. I would try and forget about this one with NC beign your best bet. I agree with this wholeheartedly. Some don't even realize at all the amount of hurt they inflicted. In the case that Meaplus3 mentioned, by the time they do... you've cried your tears, you've built your bridge, and you're over it. It comes when we don't want it anymore... whatever "it" is: the reason, the problem, the solution, etc.
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