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Old 16th March 2019, 6:43 PM   #16
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It isn't that you are attracting emotionally unavailable men it's that YOU are attracted to emotionally unavailable men. When you change your picker you will get different men. And, it doesn't look like you're new to dating at all.
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Old 17th March 2019, 12:02 AM   #17
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<snip> Instead of saying the empty "Its no you, its me" thing they should just say "I don't see us having a future together" Take the blame for what they are doing instead of trying to soften the blow.

I don't really understand this, because to me there is no distinction between the two. They both say "I want out of this relationship because I am no longer interested in you," to which my reaction is not "why?" but "BYE."

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Old 17th March 2019, 12:36 AM   #18
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Itís very simple really .....!

They arenít into you.

Thatís it

No real magic here they just arenít into you
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Old 17th March 2019, 12:02 PM   #19
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If there is one thing that I have learned about men is when they say "Its not you its me" or "You deserve better" is to believe them, run and don't look back.

I have learned this the hard way. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. About two months into our relationship, he told me I deserved better. He was RIGHT. Why it has taken me 6 years to realize this is another story.

I would have saved myself SO much grief if I believed him. Instead, I basically convinced him that we were in this together, that I'd help him be the man he wants to be, etc.

Truth is, if a man says this, he is right. If a man wants to be a better man for a woman, he will. He will crawl over glass to be the man she deserves.
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Old 17th March 2019, 10:08 PM   #20
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Preraph nails it in post #7;

Because you maybe have standards they know they're not going to stick with and would rather have someone maybe they could slip something by.

And yes, when I was single and dating I got a lot of this stuff from guys.

Be very glad they have told you this early on in the relationship, now you can move on and find a guy who wants to have relationship based on love, trust, care & respect.

Good luck x
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