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Old 30th January 2019, 8:38 AM   #46
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Also, seems like you were on and off with this guy for a year. Maybe this is you doing the same song and dance in hopes of resurrecting what seems to be broken. I suggest you go back and read your past thread and remind yourself as to the reality of what you had with this guy and who he truly is. Doesn’t sound like he was at all invested in you. Hard pill to swallow but once you find acceptance, the need for you to seek his validation will disappear.

Special is consistent. It’s not volatile, with bouts of highs and lows.
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Old 1st February 2019, 8:03 PM   #47
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Let us know how it goes.

Sooooo I did end up messaging him.... He did respond but I'm not sure what he means?



"I am very disappointed in myself that I couldn't see how different you are."
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Old 1st February 2019, 9:12 PM   #48
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Sooooo I did end up messaging him.... He did respond but I'm not sure what he means?



"I am very disappointed in myself that I couldn't see how different you are."
He doesn’t know how “different you are” as in your value seeing that he’s dated you in the past year? You ended it once because he told you he didn’t want to commit or have a relationship with you. He came back for a second round and proposed commitment. Then made no attempt or effort to properly date you. He then disappeared and only after your prompting responds with this nonsense? This guy discarded you and you felt the need the reach out to him? Does it really matter what his words mean? I don’t even see an apology in there other than some manipulative words to soften you.

You need to learn how to let go when there are very clear signs that something is wrong for you. Work on your self-esteem. When you raise your standards and demand more for yourself, you won’t keep dragging yourself with dead weight.
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Old 1st February 2019, 9:31 PM   #49
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He doesn’t know how “different you are” as in your value seeing that he’s dated you in the past year?
Get that - I’m more confused as to why that is disappointing?
Is he saying he regrets having tried again

As for the rest of your reply, really appreciate it thanks - they are non-refutably true largely. Will keep in mind.

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Old 1st February 2019, 9:36 PM   #50
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Get that - I’m more confused as to why that is disappointing?

Is he saying he regrets having tried again?
What did you text him?
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Old 1st February 2019, 10:03 PM   #51
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Sounds to me like he's trying to throw some blame your way to deflect you.
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Old 1st February 2019, 10:05 PM   #52
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All I said was - Wish it ended differently but guess we were too different. Hope you are well.
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Old 1st February 2019, 10:09 PM   #53
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All I said was - Wish it ended differently but guess we were too different. Hope you are well.
I can read it two ways. If you went off on him, I can see him saying that to jab you. But since your message was kind, heís likely saying heís disappointed in himself for not appreciating you more or seeing your value. I see the latter as his way of trying to soften you up in hopes youíll look past it all and hit the reset button.

Either way, itís not worth it.
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