WhirlwindGuy Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 Well after what I thought had been a great month (5 weeks really) of knowing a girl, she broke up with me out of the blue today. Over the past month we had spent a great deal of time together, went out, stayed in, went to the beach on a road trip. We just truly seemed to enjoy spending time together. We had great sex, talked about the future occasionally. It felt like things were moving along well. Last week I brought up "exclusivity" she said that same day that she had deleted her dating profile already and that she was OK with that, but that she still wasn't ready to introduce me to family yet. I thought that was fine. We had plans to meet today. She called me at 9am and I went and got us tacos and coffee and head over. We had a great morning, we ate, talked, talked about our plans for the day. Discussed going to the store and what we would make for dinner that night. We groomed her dog, which we had planned a few days prior. Went for a walk, took a shower and began to have sex. Halfway through sex i could tell something was up. I stopped and asked her if she was OK. She said she felt like something was missing. She then went on to say that she really enjoys spending time with me, but she doesn't "see us together in a romantic sense"...And that was that... We went from fixing to go out and buy groceries for the week and possibly have a drink somewhere to broken up...We went from spending a great 3 day weekend last weekend together at the beach to not talking anymore today... She really didn't explain much else, just that she felt like the romantic spark wasn't there. I packed up my things and I left. I asked her if she was just not attracted to me, she said that wasn't it. I asked if she was seeing someone else, she said no. I asked her what all of this past month was to her then, why do all of this. She said she really enjoyed herself and loves spending time with me... yet...here we are...she just doesn't see us together in a "romantic sense" Im completely floored. From making plans for the day to broken up in less than 30 minutes. I have no clue what this means. I really saw a lot of potential with her, I was starting to really fall for her. Im completely lost here. This totally sucks...
smudge21 Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 That sucks... no two ways about it. People can be really odd at times. No idea what to tell you here. All I can suggest is make it clear what you want from her, where you are, and then walk away. It's only been a short time but I get how you can develop feelings for someone. Whatever her reasons for changing her mind are hers and hers alone. Don't over think it and just try your best to let it go. Seriously thought, that sucks big time.
Author WhirlwindGuy Posted June 12, 2016 Author Posted June 12, 2016 What sucks is that I think if you would have asked me a week or so ago, i would have been OK. I would have thought it sucks, but sometimes thing happened, and moved on. We had a really awesome time last weekend at the beach. I felt like we really bonded a lot, shared stories, laughs, and just a lot of fun. She apparently agrees...yet this anyway. I felt like i kind of fell for her last weekend. I just don't really get this, at all... Im so tired of dating...I really thought this could maybe be it.
smudge21 Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 I get you. It always seems to go wrong the moment we feel it's going right. I know that had the one that first brought me here ended things earlier I'd have been fine (probably never have found LS). Yet it happened just when I reached that point where she was in my heart as well as my mind. I seriously would now just walk away, total no contact. Let her miss you. See how things work out. Chasing her will just push her further away (how I wish I'd known that years ago). It's sad when this happens but if it is truly over than better now than years down the line. I know it's tough, but stay strong.
Gaeta Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 You need to learn from this. It lasted 5 weeks and you have 7 threads about her. It felt wrong from the beginning but you kept ignoring the red flags. A relationship is suppose to develop smoothly, no anxiety, no doubts and no questioning. I really really hope you can assess your part in this. 2
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