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I've "dated" quite a lot of girls in the past, we have had chemistry etc but never anything anywhere close to how I was with this girl. She was someone that we could talk for hours and hours and hours and never get bored, meet up for an hour, look at the time and it has been 10 hours. Still feeling butterflies in your stomach every time you see her walking towards you after almost a year.

 

Then there is one thing that you ask them to never do because of what has happened in your own past that puts you off anybody involved in that for life. She promises she will never do it, you tell her for the whole time you are together that if she ever got involved in it then you would leave because it is something you could never deal with. She says that she values you so much more than that and would never do it, she did it before and hates it and has no interest in it and would never want to lose me for it anyway.

 

Then 10 months in, her friend tells her to get involved because and kept calling her boring, she didn't even hesitate, she said yeah and did it.

 

10 months of telling you that she doesn't want it, would never do it, would never want to risk losing you because of it. And then she does at the first ask. You feel like those 8 months she just lied to you, she told you all this stuff because it was what you wanted to hear ad it wasn't her. You feel like the girl that you loved was this fake personlaity that she has lied about because it's what you wanted and now in one night that whole charade has come down and she revealed the truth. You are so confused, you don't know the real her and you don't know if it was real before and this was a one off. But you had made it so clear in the past that you would be gone if she did and then without any regard to you she does it.

 

When she tells you, you storm out of her house and go home, she doesn't chase after you. She sends a text saying "please come back" and leaves it there. For half an hour she sends apology texts saying how sorry she is, but you are so angry you tell her to go away and you don't believe her. You tell her that you think she's put on a fake persona the whole relationship and that is what you loved. As soon as you say that she gets angry and starts blaming you, telling you that it is your fault for over reacting and you clearly don't care about her for walking away. Then she goes back to being apologetic, and then gets angry again when you are so angry and hurt that how can she do this to you, you refuse to accept her apologies.

 

The next day and your less angry but yo still feel sick and hurt that she did this to you. She has stopped apologising and is now saying she can't be bothered to apologise anymore because I rejected her attempts the date before. She doesn't want to "grovel" to me because she isn't a "beg" and "there is no point for someone who cares so little they can walk away over this". The tables turned here, you are now fighting for her to fight for you. Practically begging her to show she cares and that you just want to see that she is truly sorry. But she doesn't show she is actually sorry because she gave up apologising after half a day and walked away.

 

The day after this and she is now attacking you for what she has twisted into "I don't love the real you" as opposed to the true meaning of it "this hurts so much I feel lied to for 10 months and that everything you ever said was a lie and for 10 months that's the girl I loved". She tells you that you need to think about what you really want, as if it is your job to sit on the naughty step and think about what youve done. But you do because you value the relationship and want to fight for it because she is your best friend and all you dream about.

 

While "thinking about it" all you do is sit looking at her Facebook so you deactivate your Facebook account. You keep getting friends message you on WhatsApp so you hide your picture and "last online" so they think you have blocked them. She immediately texts you to tell you that you have blocked her on everything and that it's over for good because of that. You let her know that you have deactivated your Facebook and hid your WhatsApp but she is definitely not blocked.

 

She is now being ridiculously stubborn, she has changed her mind that seems wants it to work out but you to apologise and make her feel better for hurting her and for rejecting her apologies to it will never work out, she wants someone new who will accept her and what she does and that just makes you try and fight even more for her. Despite this originating from her doing something you asked her to never do nd her promising she wouldn't. She done it, then told you that she hates you, your nothing to her, your not "the one" that she thought you were, she wants someone else. You try and meet her and call her to talk like adults because all conversation has been over text. She refuses because "it doesn't work". When it worked perfectly well for 7 months until she pulled out of moving into a house together leaving you with the whole agency fees bill and moved 200 miles away to live with her friend who loves what you asked her to never do,who calls her boring if she doesn't join in with it and makes her do it.

 

You arrange to meet her, you buy a ticket to see her and then she calls you to tell you there's no point coming all that way when you are just going to argue and break up.

 

When the girl that you gave everything to, anything she asked you did for her, the only girl you have been with that you dreamed of spending your life with, you wanted them every second of every day and when they weren't around you would text 24/7 because she was always on your mind. The girl you would never wrong because she was the girl you considered your one. And she finds it so easy to cast you off like nothing, tell you that she cares and loves you etc but you have to let go of what you love. All because she did something that you asked her not to, told her you would leave if she did, that she promised to never do because she doesn't want to lose you. But she does it and you still give her a chance to fight for you, show you that you can get over the bump, but she gives up after 30 minutes and walks away. ShowING how little she cares.

 

 

It is so heartbreaking.

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It's not meant to be.

 

Cross it out with a red pen and move on.

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You realize you made a mistake about her being the One & you move on.

 

I'm sorry she broke your trust but the rest of this is just dramatic BS. You're relationship ended because whatever it was, she did & it hurt you. You clearly know where you stand with her . . somewhere below her not wanting to seem boring to a different friend who dared her. Ppffffftttt. Puh-lease. Bye Bye.

 

Unless your "don't do this" was something ridiculous like don't wear purple shoes she knew that her doing this would end you guys. She did it anyway & then tried to blame you for it. Not a good, mature, reliable person.

 

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