Jdawg37659 Posted January 17, 2015 Share Posted January 17, 2015 hi guys! my name is Jason, i'm a newbie here, so bear with me as I learn new things here. I need to talk to you all about a bad situation that has really turned worse for me. i'll try and not to make this confusing, but almost 3 years later, i'm still confused about it. they know for a damn fact i'm not the type that harasses and stalks. well, this happened in September 2012, I received an email from my friends son who was 15 at the time. it said 'leave us alone or we'll charge you with harassment'. well it did sound suspicious to me. I did ask several times with in a 2 week span of what the email was about. so, everyone now ignoring me and blocking me on facebook. I've been friends with these people for over 7 years, not one problem like this ever. They said I threatened there son and lied about it then confessed to it. I never touched the kid who was 15 at the time. If I said it it was out of anger over the email so, the step-mom decides to step in. she called me (2 weeks later) on the phone griping at me, calling me mentally crazy and all this crap. she went as far as voting me out on stuff with the whole family. then there friends mona/chucky decided to get in on the action. they went as far as to to 'file' charges on me for harassment. and said if I went to church or being caught talking to anyone there, they would go forward in pressing charges on me. i even tried to talk to my pastor on this, he didn't care about it, i was alone in this situation, so, I said F it. to me, that's going against god. I lost a whole lot of friends in this. ok, fast forward to 2013. I get notification from the sheriff of a order-of-protection by the step-mom, for harassing and stalking, oh and get this, i had no idea that they had moved again. I told the sheriff the truth on everything. then she the step-mom decides to go and get a court order on me for a mug shot, jail time and the whole 9 yards, she even went as far to put her daughter as leverage against me, I have not even bothered her. she wanted everything. so, got into a huge argument with mom and dad on this, dad got me an attorney. court date comes, she really humiliated me in front of my attorney, she yelled at my attorney for 20 minutes from what I heard by Tom. i was ready to commit suicide the day b4 court, i knew amy would get her way with things. i'm just thankful for my attorney that got me out of this. during the same time, i wrote an email to my pastor and told him i quit the church cause of the situation. it's was during this time, they're trying to contact me. they know they messed up. so, again fast forward to 2014. they try and contact me urgently (my friends) about something during my order-of-protection. that was a big NO-NO. about july of this year, i received an email from amy saying she was sorry for what she done i was in there prayers, "bull-****"! to me, i know she didn't mean it. i wrote her back, i was mad! she writes me back in august saying the same thing. i emailed her again, i was telling her how i feel on everyone and everything. I said to her if anyone don't like who i am then FU. told her i get tired of being crapped on by them and all this other stuff. let me tell ya, i was mad! they keep calling my name when i am work, i work at (walmart). I even told them if they ruin my good name like that again i'll sure for slander/defamation of character. that's what my attorney said this was. but, as of today, i am doing good. i lost over a dozen friends over this and a church. I feel like what ever amy says people follow she's in control. i told amy in email, if she didn't like for who i was then FU. it was a rather lengthy email. i'm still really furious with them today, i think they know it. it was about 4 weeks since my 2nd email, have not seen any of them. i think they know i mean business. i know it's a confusing situation. i feel like the step-mom (amy) had sat me up. or someone has. what should i do from now on and should i communicate with them. i'm more mad at amy than anyone else. i still feel amy is STILL in control of things. i still feel humiliated, i had to take counseling cause of it. but, what do i need to do? i'm sure there are people in a situation like this. i'm just trying to move forward in my life, it is really hard to! i just pray Karma hits them hard! i'm not the most perfect in the world, nor do i care to be. im me, no one can do anything about it! ok now to today in 2015...They finally say in email that pauls parents started this whole debacle with me. They said they had no reason for it. I mean really? They still hate my guys. I even said to them I'm really tired of everyone's attitude towards me. It's like they are living under the parents rule, they can't decide for themselves. They like to call me a little child, which really hurts. they need to look in the mirror. oh It's confusing! I don't need anyone to over power me. especially 2 women. Everyone is so damn selfish, that church is not my home church no more. I told them to F off. but, my friends are always right, i'm wrong. [COLOR=#1a0dab]Matthew 7:12 [/COLOR] Link to post Share on other sites
Ducktape Posted January 17, 2015 Share Posted January 17, 2015 i know it's a confusing situation. Ironically, that's the only thing I understood in your text. Wish I could help. Maybe you could provide us with a flowchart? Good luck, I think? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted January 17, 2015 Share Posted January 17, 2015 you need to let it go...still angry after three years....let it go...you left the church ....you dont see them ........your anger is twisting you and your perspective on life ......pray for strength to get over it.....and believe in those words from matthew that you posted....find a church that your heart believes in....because if you truly believed you would not leave....no matter what happens....find a church where your heart feels joyful not angry.........good luck....deb Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jdawg37659 Posted January 17, 2015 Author Share Posted January 17, 2015 I think that's why it happened like this. so, they can think I am crazy. maybe I am crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jdawg37659 Posted January 17, 2015 Author Share Posted January 17, 2015 but, I sure as well won't let anyone be over me. i'm stronger than they are, I think they know. I won't let none of them silence me either. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jdawg37659 Posted February 14, 2015 Author Share Posted February 14, 2015 well guys, a lot has happened since I last posted here. Remember my confusing story about my friends/church stabbing me in the back the past 2 1/2 years? well, they finally told me the truth on this but they still want me out, but that's ok, I stood up to them. I got there email mid January. They said the her husbands parents started this whole thing with me, they gave no reason for it. the dad is supposed to be a preacher? Why did they let a 15 year old email me that I was harassing them, I did no such thing, at least I was minding my own business, they could've come to my face. The step-mom is still controlling the situation. She is still mad about my little slip I gave out on the son for the email, I admitted it was an accident cause I was angry that no one was telling me what was going on. No harm was done, she is using that against me, she's calling it a threat and said I lied about it, while THEY threatened me with a crime and wanted me for jail time and did all this stuff behind my back as if they didn't do anything. She's also called me a child and they have moved on, miss know-it-all. then why did they wait 2 1/2 years to tell me? WHY? the step-mom even threatened me to court if I had contacted them again. That's when I had enough of her crap. I eventually stood up for myself against them. I even stood up against my former church that went along with this to. I sent my email to them to. this is the email I sent to them on January 19th, 2015. As of today 2/13/2015, I have not seen or heard from anybody since then. here is my email. "I just want to take this moment and say goodbye to you, I am willing to let this go, but it's time I stand up to you. I just want to make it clear to you that this will be the last time that I will let people like you and mona stomp on me and tear my life apart. I will not allow no one else to do this to me no more. I know I am easy to get, but I am putting my foot down and standing up to you. I don't need 2 women to over power me. I know you're upset over that one little thing, all I say is 'get over it...accept it' no harm was done, you all lied to me in the beginning for not answering me to what was going on. I know to be careful in the future and pay attention to my surroundings. cause from now on, I refuse to let anyone think they are over me, better than me, smarter than me in my life again. I will not let 2 women SILENCE me either. I will not let someone's parents run me off, I hold them accountable for everything. as for them, they need to learn to keep there in noses in the own business and leave everyone else alone. you and mona are not my bosses and will never be. I already shown dad your email from the other day. he's willing to take action if any thing else arises, they will NOT talk to you on the phone, I can't believe you did that. I am really sorry I even hooked up with you! I reject that I have now, I reject that I even hooked up with Rock church. but, I do wish you the best in life. I do thank you for telling the truth. Have a good life! I will not let any of you ruin my life again!" I've heard from other people they know, after this thing happened, Amy's (step-mom) dad died in 2013. Last year at thanksgiving Paul dad had a major heart attack and almost lost him a couple of times. Just here recently there 2 dogs ran away from home, I haven't heard anymore on that. but, I know God is dealing with them right now. HE needs to be harder on them. I feel I l've been used and schemed on. But, did I do the right thing of standing up to them liars? and backstabbers? I feel I did and not ashamed of it. Please let me know, what would you do in a case like this. Link to post Share on other sites
seminoles84 Posted February 14, 2015 Share Posted February 14, 2015 Really would like to help but you're right this is one of the most confusing post ever. Maybe another forum area? Not sure this has anything to do with a breakup? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jdawg37659 Posted February 16, 2015 Author Share Posted February 16, 2015 guess no one cares. I tried to be as specific as I could. I guess I wasted my time here. sorry to bother anybody. Link to post Share on other sites
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