Broken

[Cjd03]

Feeling pretty desperate atm so any feedback it would be much appreciated. I have recently just been dumped. When we first started seeing eachother we discussed how important it is to not intentionally hurt others and to always be honest and open. However it's now come to light that I was probably being used as a rebound and the pain is absolutely excruciating. I found out the day they dumped me that they were asking for their ex back. I got in touch asking for an explanation, they said I love you but can't be in a relationship, promised they didn't want the ex back and that they finished with me as I made them feel like an option and not a priority. Which I know isn't true as the ex told me different, I stupidly messaged them on facebook. Why not just be honest? Would feel so much better if they just told the truth or even a sorry would suffice but I'm just ignored and cut off with nothing. If I had experience and knew the warning signs of someone in a rebound relationship I would never have bothered with them! Just feel so dirty and used, why won't they admit what their intentions were and apologise for causing such grief?

[Ieris]

He is just a loser who lured you in with an illusion. Now you can see him for what he really is, a piece of trash who you do not need in your life. He was out to use you from the start, all those nice things he ever did was just an act. I know you are angry and hurt but when all your emotions subside you will see what he truly is, and you wont want anything to do with him because you deserve so much better.

 

I had this happen to me before, I turned all the love I had for him into hate (not healthy but it did work!) I found out he has deep issues and was always messaging other girls because he craves the attention (talk about insecure). I am glad that I'm not the girl who has to "fix" him. Regarding the ex, she had to do weekly inspections on his phone because he was a liar and a cheat, plus she was also insecure (perfect match). I do feel sorry for her because she is still being played like a fool. I hope she wakes up like I did, but whoever ends up with him will lead a very sad life so I know I'm not missing out on anything.

 

Cut him off completely and move on with your life. I know you have questions and want answers but he is never going to admit to anything. You already know as you can see from his actions. I suggest letting all that anger and sadness out in some way, maybe even take up boxing and stick his face on the punch bag and get it out your system.

 

Do not worry, karma will slap him in the face before you do!

 

I had a hard time getting over this one so I know it's not easy... *HuGs* x

[Satu]

You should go total no contact, and invest your energy into making yourself feel better.