MissX Posted July 3, 2014 Share Posted July 3, 2014 Hi everyone, I have this problem of giving all of myself and getting attached too soon especially after being intimate. I develop strong feelings for the person i am with and tell them i love them very soon into the relationship/dating. I started txting a woman i had met online. She seemed interested and we both met in person about 2 weeks later. 2 weeks later we made love and i was very happy and felt like this woman was as interested in me as i her. We had alot in common and want the same things. I was open about my life and feelings and i was looking for a life partner. Due to the distance between where we live and work we could only see each other once a week. We did have miscommunications through txt and talking on the phone but for the most part i felt it was going in a good direction. Then i dropped the "I love you". I did not hear from her for 2 days and finally today she called and said that it was over and i had scared her off. I managed to convince her that i was sorry and would not say it again and back off. She said she will call me in 3 days and give me an answer as to what her decision is regarding us. Am i being delusional in thinking i can salvage this relationship and what should i do? HELP please Link to post Share on other sites
David87 Posted July 3, 2014 Share Posted July 3, 2014 There's nothing to save here. You scared her of. Next time you'll know not to say the magic words that early. Link to post Share on other sites
life-is-short Posted July 3, 2014 Share Posted July 3, 2014 I recommend you read this book: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find-and Keep-Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. Look up the category of anxious-attached and see if it can be helpful for you. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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