loveiswar101 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 How I feel hurt, after a chat with a good friend who is around my ex he has shed a little light. While not confirming but he's been getting the vibes that it's a good chance that because i'm not wealthy (ex is well off and comes from well off family) or have much that there wasn't a future even though we loved each other. Just goes to prove love is not enough. I have never owed, borrowed or had welfare. Have always worked and paid my way honestly. I have a good heart and a loving one, my friend reckons she had jack potted with me due to my loving nature and care for others and one day when she has all the money she needs she will look back and go wow I made a mistake. I personally feel shocked and first word that comes to mind is shallow. I honestly thought she was a better person than that but if what he says is right I'm flabbergasted, distraught and feel used. Since everything has happened I thought she just needed space but now for the first time I actually have a little anger against her even though my heart and mind still pine for her. Love is not enough....
Mariposa10 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 From your post, sounds like you dodged the bullet, if she cares so much about money. But yeah, I agree sometimes love is not enough. 2
Author loveiswar101 Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 Guess I'm just stunned, I never had feelings for one person like the ones I had for her, even at my age. Saddened by the last text "you are in my thoughts", our last phone call when she told me she loved me. Guess she was trying to let me go easy. I feel so used, can't get the happy times out my head and since break-up, just over 2 weeks ago I had my first dream of her last night. I'm a broken man but guess I need to toughen the F*** up.
Mariposa10 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Guess I'm just stunned, I never had feelings for one person like the ones I had for her, even at my age. Saddened by the last text "you are in my thoughts", our last phone call when she told me she loved me. Guess she was trying to let me go easy. I feel so used, can't get the happy times out my head and since break-up, just over 2 weeks ago I had my first dream of her last night. I'm a broken man but guess I need to toughen the F*** up. You don't need to toughen the **** up. You're not a robot, you're only human. Feeling all this is what makes us human. 3
LadyM Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Yeah, love isn't enough for some people. My ex left me for a wealthy woman from a famous family. He also left me saying "he'll always love me" and texted me that he "thinks of me often." I know he'll do whatever it takes to marry this woman. It makes me feel so inadequate.
Author loveiswar101 Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 Life sucks. Part of me feels I just had the best 15 mths of my life with someone I really loved in the end. Now I feel I am already forgotten by her and that the only thing she left me with is pain and plenty of it. $$$ who needs it. Even though I still love her and will for a long time yet I know deep down now if money was a factor we could never of worked out, as I say. Love is not enough. LadyM...if he will do what ever it takes I think you can be grateful that maybe that things didn't turn out and like me maybe find someone who loves you for who we are.
Amaury Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 I remember my ex used to say the same thing, "some times love isn't enough" in the beginning of our almost 2 yr relationship. I thought it was just a quote she liked or a way to make me show her more love. But after a great yr and a half of literally almost no fighting and then a sudden out of the blue break up and showing signs of gigs, I realized that to her love wasn't enough, and honestly she isn't worthy of the love I have to give but someone will be and the same goes for you. F*** her man if she truly cared love is all you need to keep you together everything else is just a bonus.
InnocentMan Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 It's naive to think that love is enough to keep 2 people together. There's a million other things that part us. Money is just one of them. You might even find yourself leaving someone you love one day, then you might understand why she did. It sucks, but it is what it is. 3
MoooOinkBaaa Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Love is not enough, last words from my ex. I guess it doesn't conquer all.
justadudehere Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 (edited) I believe that people who really think "Love is not enough" are people who really know nothing about what real love is. Real love is about finding a way. The problem is in this day and age, everything is considered expendable. "If I don't like it, well let me get rid of it and find something else" It is easier to get out of a marriage than it is a cell phone contract. Commitment seems to be thing thing of fairy tales. If love is not enough, then it was not love to begin with, just my two cents. I found this on someones blog and it sums it up "Saying you love someone is not enough to keep you strong through hard times. Proving that you are truly there for someone through thick and thin, being the rock when your partner stumbles and taking care of one another, that's true love. And only true love is ever enough." Edited December 21, 2013 by justadudehere 1
Author loveiswar101 Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 MMM. Well when 2 people love each other and at this point I believe we do, but with society these days I feel my ex believes even though she loves me we were not compatible or has been caressed into thinking we are not compatible in the future and jumped ship. Then again maybe she didn't love on the flip coin. If did though I honestly believe love isn't enough to keep two people together. I still have a little hope like we all do as I have a long way to go before I will be healed. I just hope she has the courage to fight back her surroundings and hopefully maybe contact me one day so we can talk and communicated like we should of at the end. 1
Tony T Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Love is never, ever, ever, ever, never, ever, never enough!!!!! Loving feelings, which can neutralize at almost anytime, bring two people together into a union that may or may not result in a lifetime situation. Parts of the puzzle that are required, and the failure to consider them are a fast way to divorce, are elements of: caring, commitment, communication, open mindedness, even temperedness, shared views about children (whether or not to have them, how many, when, how to raise them, etc.), shared views about money (how much to spend, how much to save, how to decide on major expenditures, what type of lifestyle, etc.), similarities in education, shared views about drinking (frequency, etc.), shared general interests in common (politics, sports, entertainment, etc.), shared interests in travel, similarities in overall lifestyles, etc., etc., etc...... You can love someone more than anything in the universe, which is nothing more than the release of chemicals in the brain caused by sexual, physical or some similar attraction, but if you don't have all those other things you can just forget it. Chemistry may carry you to first base but it won't take you in for a home run. If you don't have a partner who is understanding, compromising, forgiving, and so many other things required of a lifetime partner, you are truly in BIG TROUBLE. Understand, mother universe ONLY cares about one thing....procreation. That's what the chemicals are for. Getting people together to have babies. The chemicals are blinding and almost always keeps you from either seeing or failing to act on danger signs that you know you won't be able to live with all your life. Sometimes the idea of regular sex with some person is so overwhelming (although it seldom stays that way) that we just don't want to listen to our friends who tell us about the big mistake we are making. Once the babies have arrived and home is set up properly, it's up to the parties involved to keep things going...mother nature is out of there at that point! If somebody ever told you love was enough to get you to the finish line, you should go back and shoot them! Yikes, I think I can get banned for encouraging violence on this site....so go back and poop on them.... 1
singme2sleep Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 When my ex ended things with me, he was going through his own personal struggles. And not to make excuses for him but a person's previous ex or even their life experiences in general can hugely effect their relationship with you. I remember his words "my life is such a mess and I've learned that even in tough times, being in a relationship doesn't help". Well that really stung yet it also shows how effed up one can become. Though we al have baggage and we've all been hurt, remember that not everyone you fall for intends to rip out your heart. 1
AnyaNova Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 How I feel hurt, after a chat with a good friend who is around my ex he has shed a little light. While not confirming but he's been getting the vibes that it's a good chance that because i'm not wealthy (ex is well off and comes from well off family) or have much that there wasn't a future even though we loved each other. Just goes to prove love is not enough. I have never owed, borrowed or had welfare. Have always worked and paid my way honestly. I have a good heart and a loving one, my friend reckons she had jack potted with me due to my loving nature and care for others and one day when she has all the money she needs she will look back and go wow I made a mistake. I personally feel shocked and first word that comes to mind is shallow. I honestly thought she was a better person than that but if what he says is right I'm flabbergasted, distraught and feel used. Since everything has happened I thought she just needed space but now for the first time I actually have a little anger against her even though my heart and mind still pine for her. Love is not enough.... That is shallow. Especially if she has it. I guess my philosophy with that is, is that a) money isn't the most important thing in a relationship, love is. and b) Though I don't think I would count us as "wealthy" I would say that my family is probably going to be pretty well set, and so it doesn't matter how much any guy with me has, so long as he has a drive to be self-sufficient and has goals in life, I am not particular on him having a certain amount of money. My particulars seem to center around particular personality traits, if anything. Go find yourself someone who cares about who you are. That is the most important thing. 1
Author loveiswar101 Posted December 23, 2013 Author Posted December 23, 2013 (edited) so long as he has a drive to be self-sufficient and has goals in life, I am not particular on him having a certain amount of money. I was self-sufficient in earnings but I guess I lacked the goals and desires she wanted from a man. Basically i was not an Alpha, she wanted an Alpha. I was changing (for me, not just her) but obviously not quick enough. So in one way I believe she was shallow as money will never would be an issue for her, but end of day I honestly think that even though she loved me I just wasn't compatible on a relationship basis now and in the future. Now i'm just stuck in a massive hole, tired, weak, emotionally stressed to breaking point, unworthy to the world and above all lonely... Edited December 23, 2013 by loveiswar101
AnyaNova Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 I was self-sufficient in earnings but I guess I lacked the goals and desires she wanted from a man. Basically i was not an Alpha, she wanted an Alpha. I was changing (for me, not just her) but obviously not quick enough. So in one way I believe she was shallow as money will never would be an issue for her, but end of day I honestly think that even though she loved me I just wasn't compatible on a relationship basis now and in the future. Now i'm just stuck in a massive hole, tired, weak, emotionally stressed to breaking point, unworthy to the world and above all lonely... What do you mean by this? Why do you feel this way? You have much to be proud of. --Just from what you've said you are 1) self-sufficient 2) honorably employed 3) Strong enough in your masculinity to be who you are, instead of trying to be some uber-masculine stereotype (don't go changing for her, though, find someone you can be yourself with!) and 4) Have enough depth to want someone else who also has some depth Those four things are huge and you should be proud of them. Why do you feel like you are unworthy before the world?
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