JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Hey guys I blocked my ex from facebook the day we broke up.. but I might have a little problem when we are together she made an account for her dog.. using her email and a password.. The problem is I memorize this email and password in my head even before we broke up so I just can't delete the account or change the password of it because that's her account. Every damn day I stalk her profile using this account. This might be a serious problem and I don't know how to stop it. I keep telling myself I will not look anymore but I just end up logging in everyday to check her profile if she posted new pictures or what she is doing and where she is going.. This is going on for 2 months now.. I really need to do something about this. Any suggestion?
Trapito Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Sorry to see you are hurting. You need to occupy your mind with something else, I know it's hard. -Come on here every time you feel the urge to log on her dogs fb account. -Go jogging/work out -Call a friend or a family member -Read a book -Clean your house -Maybe some therapy -Watch a movie Basicly, do anything BUT check that account. 1
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 Actually I am already doing all that. It sucks! It's hard to stop the urge sometimes.. Sorry to see you are hurting. You need to occupy your mind with something else, I know it's hard. -Come on here every time you feel the urge to log on her dogs fb account. -Go jogging/work out -Call a friend or a family member -Read a book -Clean your house -Maybe some therapy -Watch a movie Basicly, do anything BUT check that account.
cavalier99 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 (edited) Login multiple times with the wrong password and force a reset. Or change it yourself with a long series of random number and letters that you write down then burn after. I did this with all my exs accounts soon after the BU because she wouldnt change her passwords...man was she pissed. One of the best thing i did post BU!! Cav Edited December 20, 2013 by cavalier99 4
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 If I do the force reset.. she will fount out I'm logging in on that account right? cause she knows that it's only me and her knows that account.. But she doesn't know I'm logging in there since we broke up. I can't change the password because the account its hers.. even the email. Login multiple times with the wrong password and force a reset. Or change it yourself with a long series of random number and letters that you write down then burn after. Cav
cavalier99 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 If I do the force reset.. she will fount out I'm logging in on that account right? cause she knows that it's only me and her knows that account.. But she doesn't know I'm logging in there since we broke up. I can't change the password because the account its hers.. even the email. So what?? This is the nuclear bomb of no return. Who cares if she is upset. This is survival time. Just do it. If she gets pissed so what. Im serious. Your sanity is at stake. Cav 4
organizedchaos Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I've been going through a similar situation with Instagram. I blocked her from seeing mine but that doesn't block me from seeing hers. I still look and while haven't seem anything that could really hurt yet, its delaying my ability to move on. It just reminds me of what I don't have anymore. It brings me back down. So I'm making a conscious effort not to look anymore. Been a few days now. I just remind myself of the pain it resurfaces every time I look and I'm tired of that pain. 1
cavalier99 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Stop going online? This is too hard for him to do. Ive been there. He has month of this habit addiction under his belt. Changing it will stop him. Its either that or a 12 step program. Cav
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 I'm a web developer and I am online like 12hrs a day.. it sucks because I work at home like 5 days a week.. It sucks because the temptation is just right in front of my face everyday.. It's just very hard.. especially when I started missing her Stop going online?
cavalier99 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I'm a web developer and I am online like 12hrs a day.. it sucks because I work at home like 5 days a week.. It sucks because the temptation is just right in front of my face everyday.. It's just very hard.. especially when I started missing her Do it right now!!!! It will be an immense releif. No thing bad will happen.
Goomba Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 The thing that helped me to stop looking was seeing something I didn't want to see. It was her in a new relationship less that 2 weeks after she dumped me. Once I saw that something changed in my mind. I was angry and upset. But it helped me move on. I have looked again a few times since this, but more time has passed. The less you know the less likely your brain will go into over drive and torture yourself about the details. 2
Trapito Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 It is called willpower. I know it is hard, when my ex broke up with me 2,5 years ago I stalkes his fb for some time. You feel releived when you see she doesn't do anything special. But when she starts dating? Do you actually want to see happy, smiley in love pictures? Do you want to torment yourself? It will get better. You will survive this. 1
strive Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 If I do the force reset.. she will fount out I'm logging in on that account right? cause she knows that it's only me and her knows that account.. Hmm, she might already know that you've been logging into that account. Maybe. If she has the notifications turned on, every time someone logs from a computer that the account doesn't recognize (meaning from your computer) it sends an email to her saying that someone has logged from so and so computer, using so and so browser, from so and so location. Something like that happened to me once and I immediately changed all my passwords.
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 Thanks to everyone.. I didn't check at all today.. I just go here and read the messages instead. Hope I did post this way before. 4
Lilo85 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Ask someone to change the password for you. I did that. It's worked so far...
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 Can't that's her account not mine.. If that my account I would like delete it straight away lol.. Good progress so far.. Hope I keep going like this.. I realize that I'm only hurting myself and delaying my healing doing this checking on facebook. Its really just up to me. Ask someone to change the password for you. I did that. It's worked so far...
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 Hey guys.. Bumping this thread cause I'm tempted to check her facebook especially it's Christmas weekend. but I'm posting here instead. Stay strong to everyone!
Trapito Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Be strong! You can do it. Take a rubber band, put it on your wrist. Snap it every time you want to look. 1
Goomba Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I was temped to make a new thread about this but thought I'd post here instead. To everyone who can still see their ex online, don't look over Christmas. It will only bum you out. Especially if your reading posts like, I have the most awesome bf/gf ever, thanks for all my presents, I love you lots and lots, your the best xxxxxxx ect ect ect when just days/weeks/months ago that would have been you. I'm done following someone's life as an outsider who doesn't want me, so why waste time wanting them? Happy Christmas 2
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 That's really great I am not alone.. It's been 2 days since I posted this thread and I haven't check her profile.. It's like when I get the urge I go here instead.. I'm really happy I made this thread.. Yea definitely be strong especially this Christmas a lot of pictures and stuff.. I was temped to make a new thread about this but thought I'd post here instead. To everyone who can still see their ex online, don't look over Christmas. It will only bum you out. Especially if your reading posts like, I have the most awesome bf/gf ever, thanks for all my presents, I love you lots and lots, your the best xxxxxxx ect ect ect when just days/weeks/months ago that would have been you. I'm done following someone's life as an outsider who doesn't want me, so why waste time wanting them? Happy Christmas
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