msalek89 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 My ex and I will have a year of broken up in January (we went out for 8 months). 6 months after we broke up we hanged out here and there for a couple of days until 2 months ago. The times that we saw each other we enjoyed our company like we did when we were friends which came before we started dating. On those occasional times out he said he loved me and other things. He is always the one reaching out to me since I tempt to have a bit more pride. However, I decided to cut things out because at the end of the day I still have feelings for him and didn’t want things to escalate and make those casually outings into casual sex. I was forward with him and told him that we can’t have this “friendship” because it can turn to something else that I don’t want. I told him that either we are together or we are not. I told him that I know him and that he probably wants me around because he enjoys my company but that’s all he wants from me. He told me that where all this coming from that he didn't understand me. I didn't bother to answer back. 2 months passed and on Thanksgiving Day he text me saying “happy thanksgiving”. I didn't bother to answer again. Later on at night he called me and I decided to pick up. He said happy thanksgiving and told me he was with his family, asked about what I was doing and then said that he wanted to talk, when he could see me. I told him that if he wanted to talk he could call me some other time but he said that it was better face to face. I told him to let me know when and I will tell him if I am available or not. He told me he had to go and he will text me in a bit. I said okay and hung up. Minutes passed, hours and until today I haven’t heard a word from him. He managed to disturb my peace and have me thinking about him all over again. I have not contact him or plan to ever. I just don’t understand why he does this. Does he genially want to talk to me or no? Just very confused and frustrated. Any opinions?
RDawg Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Sounds like he has no idea what he wants. Cut him off I say.
Author msalek89 Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 Yea I think he has no idea. I have cut him off... I answered his call because I didn't expect him telling me that. I thought it would just be a "hello, happy holidays" type of call. I really wish I could know what goes through his head sometimes.
LostConfused123 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 He definitely sounds confused. It's good that you are cutting him off though. I know how hard that is. He may also want to "backburner" you. I hate that!!! it's just plain selfish and cruel!! You sound really strong though and definitely not a push over. It's so hard to say what could be going through his mind. That's the million dollar question for most of us. . WHY??? I go over and over the WHY?? becoming less and less thank God!! I would continue pushing through. You seem to have a handle on it even though it's infuriating! I would be frustrated too! Come vent to us just like you're doing. You're doing awesome, even though it probably doesn't feel that way. ((hugs))
Canadiangirl78 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I agree 100% with the poster above, it sounds like you are doing great. You sound like a very very smart gal with a good head on her shoulders. Trust your gut and do whatever you think is right for you. I have no doubt you'll be fine! Come here and get it all out, mad, sad, whatever it is, people here will help in anyway they can. It's a great group of people on this forum and all with amazing insights. Chin up, I wish you all the best!
Canadiangirl78 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Oops..I thought it said this was your first post, noticed you have been around a while...so you already know how great this forum is! That's what I get for not having my glasses on! Lol
Author msalek89 Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 I appreciate everyone's support ... I am just going to get back to my usual routine and see what happens. I guess if his intentions to talk were good he would of contact me.
letsplaygofish2 Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 I have to agree that he probably doesn't know what he wants. But you also said, "He told me that where all this coming from that he didn't understand me." That makes me think that you wanted to talk about this and share your feelings, but you chose to not respond. Is there a reason why couldn't you explain this to him? It seems that he wanted to know and was trying to understand, but you decided to hold back instead. I can perceive that as being confusing and misleading to him too...
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