freebird31 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 I think a reason a lot of relationships and marriages fail is because people arent informed about what "love" really is and that relationship is not just some fairy-tale. They dont know what a relationship really takes. The true components of any successful relationship are: hardwork, dedication, communications, love and more. not JUST love. And a lot of people seek out relationship after another looking for some "missing" component but are hit with the cold truth that theres no such thing! People should be more aware and informed that a relationship is no walk in the park. You have your good times and you have your bad times. But if there are more good times overall then bad, and/or the good times are just REALLY good, why would you give it up? When these problems can be worked out? People arent ready to commit to the work, thats why. Simply put, people are just lazy. Thoughts/opinions? 8
Grumpybutfun Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 freebird: True. I also would add that most people go into relationships without knowing who they are, what they believe and what they want. They also are immature and cannot focus on a relationship because they are emotionally stunted and are trying to hold themselves together. Therefore, a relationship will ultimately fail because their ego, pain, bitterness, lack of values and immaturity withers any goodness that a true relationship would entail. Love is an action. You cannot say someone loves you if they do things that knowingly hurt you. You cannot say you love them if you do things you know could destroy their happiness and their hearts. Good chat, Grumps 7
Vinsanity1307 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 I 100% agree with this. Short version of my story... My ex was mean and did some nasty things while together first two years When I bent over backwards for her and her kids.She left me for a month 10 days NC came back... dated for two months ..I realized she was still mean. So I dumped her she begged, and pleaded so I said it will take alot of work and time to gain my trust back (I knew we had a special connection and I loved her). So she did everything she could to prove it to me,and there were some very resentful phases during this time looking back at the **** she put me through...She was also going through job loss, car loss, phone loss for these years but I still stayed. Long story short the resentment and anger went away, and all good but things got rough for me and she bailed. There was no signs of her losing interest other than she just got a good job..and her life was coming together..said she didn't love me, and didnt feel the same ..so how do you explain all that connection and love just the night before and the past few years....whatever the reason I wasnt worth the work
Mz_sassy_77 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 At the end of the day I think a lot of people just don't want to put in any work. They have this expectation that it is going to be great all the time and it's just not the case. My ex BU with me repeatedly and it was always when things weren't "awesome or exciting" so he would just bail. I kept taking him back which I know now was a huge mistake and regret it. Who wants to be with someone who shows you they will not be there for you when i really counts 1
Amelie1980 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 I hear so many people saying when a relationship does not work out ...."it wasn't meant to be" The problem with that is that you are absolving responsibility and putting it in fates hands. You have to work at relationships and people tend to not bother make no effort and then blame fate when it doesn't work. 1
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