OCFlorida Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 Hi everyone, I posted here last week in regards to a break up that my girlfriend and I had that left me stranded with questions because it was out of the blue (see thread on profile). Since then NC broken due to her retrieving her things and myself retrieving my things. I asked the real reason to our breakup, and she gave me an answer that gave me all the closure I needed. In our relationship, my first and main concern was always her well being and happiness. My parents and I being on iffy terms, I would still drive home on the weekends despite arguments with my parents just so I could see her and make her happy after a stressful week. I never realized how right she was when she said "You're an unhappy person". It made perfect sense. I'm not an unhappy person, but my happiness hadn't been my priority and it had therefore affected my personality and well being. I feel like an idiot for not catching on the signs, but I truly thought to myself that as long as she was happy, all would be good between us, and honestly doing things for her and seeing her smile was how I achieved my own happiness. Unfortunately due to my latest company nearing full launch, it became overly difficult to find time other than with her or with my work, therefore fully minimizing time for me to go out with my own friends and just be happy. I feel silly for only now realizing all of this because I truly wanted a future with her... Since then, I have removed myself from FB-Twitter-Instagram despite those being necessary publicity places for my businesses. I've decided to do so to refocus on myself for a while. Go out, but some new clothes, get a fresh haircut, workout, and most importantly find my own happiness. I still hope once my new company is running and my stress levels are decreased that one day she will see that I am back to my happy self and realized the mistake I made, I'm expecting the worst and hoping for the best. Until then., I'm on the road to better myself. O. 1
Mz_sassy_77 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 I can relate to that. I spent all my time planning around my EX, wanting him to be happy, trying to make him happy. And at the same time I became very unhappy but I didn't even realize it. I forgot about myself and stopped doing things for myself. I don't think its healthy to be a in an RS and always be thinking of someone else and never yourself. It is easy to do if you are that sort of person. I hope to never do this again. In my next RS I am going to make sure I still do things I want to do - take care of myself, catch up with friends and family, plan things to do - rather then spending all my time focusing on them.
j.gman Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 Oh, ok. Whatever floats your boat. You're quite lucky, most people don't get closure from their ex.
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