KansasChica Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 So my ex and I dated for about 4 months- I was trying to take it slow and get to know him. Things were really good for about 3 months and then the last month, things fell apart. I felt him withdraw and then run hot and cold. I wasn't getting my needs met at all and tried to communicate, but then just stepped back and didn't pressure him. Finally, he told me that things weren't right and he left. I was really hurt, obviously, but had learned from previous breakups to go no contact immediately. Two months have passed and I have completely cut him from my life. I didn't check his FB profile once and the only time I heard anything about him was when someone told me they saw him at a bar with another girl- right after the breakup. I started dating immediately and have clicked with someone else, although I don't really see it going anywhere. So my ex texts me this week and wants to meet for coffee. I told him I would- I don't hate him, but I have no real desire to get back with him. The trust that we were building is gone. We're supposed to meet for coffee tonight and he sent me flowers to work today. Do I thank him? I just don't know what to think. I've never had an ex that dumped me reach out. My friend told me that he just wants the chase- that he knows he wronged me and wants to see if he can get me back.
Zahara Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 (edited) I'd tread very carefully with this one. There was a reason why he could not commit to you before. Two months later, I'm pretty sure nothing much has changed. And be careful when they come back and start laying it on thick. Red flag. And if you don't want him back, what's the problem? Treat this as a casual coffee meeting and done. Edited August 6, 2013 by Zahara
Leigh 87 Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 He may like you as a person, but after 4 months of being with you, he just wasn't into you enough to continue. . Nothing has changed. 4 months is ample time for a man to know if he's falling head over heals in love with you. He's back because he couldn't find anyone else worthwhile. Or he may have gotten rejected by a girl he was truly into. I guarantee that he's not back because he realized that he was madly in love with you. Guys who are that into a girl Don't dump them aftdr just 4 months, the honeymoon period, and then go to bars with new women.
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