eddyctv Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Thought we could have a little fun here... I had a girlfriend in high school that treated me like garbage, but I was whipped, and stayed with her my senior year, and my first year of college. She was a total jerk in every way. A liar, immasculating, user, etc...While in college, she got mono, and I came to visit her at her house a few times, trying to keep her spirits up. Then I got mono, and she said "I'd love to come over, but I'm sitting by the pool and working on my tan." REALLY!?!? So we broke up after the first year of college. She was done stringing me along and cut the cord, but I wasn't too broke up about it by that point. About 4 years later, we ran into each other at a club, said hi, danced together, whatever. By that point I was no longer insecure, had an ego, etc, so I blew her off after hanging out with her a bit. A few days later she called to see if I wanted to hang out. My parents were out of town and I was having a party so I told her to stop by. She came to the party, got drunk, and I wound up sleeping with her. The next morning, I woke up and she had cleaned the ENTIRE house for me. I said "Thanks! See you later!" and she left Hahaha... A few days later, she invited me to her house, she said she would make dinner for me. I said "sure" and went to her house. Her parents were out of town, and she was tipsy already by the time I got there. I didn't drink anything, she served me dinner, I ate, and left. Hhahaha That weekend she called me and asked me to come over. I said "maybe, I'm hanging with friends". I was at a friends house, partied till 2AM, then called her and said "Im coming over". I practically fell into her house, I was so drunk, had sex with her till the morning, then left. We had one more episode where she invited me over...she answered her door wearing all this lingerie stuff. We had sex, and she asked if i would stay the night. I said "no" and i left and went back to college. A few days later, I got a letter from her in the mail, saying she wanted more out of our relationship (RELATIONSHIP!?!?) than just sex. I threw the letter out and never talked to her again. Anyone else have stories like this?
Ajax Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I'm not sure what kind of response you expected to receive from this post, but you're not exactly portraying yourself in a positive light. In the four years since you broke up she may have matured. But even if she hasn't, it seems you've lowered yourself to her level. 9
Sugarkane Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 (edited) When someone doesn't have a conscience about treating you like garbage and does everything to justify it, I admit it's tempting.Especially cheaters who will say and do anything to look like the victim. Good on you for rejecting this callous women. I hope you were cold about it. Edited June 26, 2013 by Sugarkane 2
hoping2heal Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Thought we could have a little fun here... I had a girlfriend in high school that treated me like garbage, but I was whipped, and stayed with her my senior year, and my first year of college. She was a total jerk in every way. A liar, immasculating, user, etc...While in college, she got mono, and I came to visit her at her house a few times, trying to keep her spirits up. Then I got mono, and she said "I'd love to come over, but I'm sitting by the pool and working on my tan." REALLY!?!? So we broke up after the first year of college. She was done stringing me along and cut the cord, but I wasn't too broke up about it by that point. About 4 years later, we ran into each other at a club, said hi, danced together, whatever. By that point I was no longer insecure, had an ego, etc, so I blew her off after hanging out with her a bit. A few days later she called to see if I wanted to hang out. My parents were out of town and I was having a party so I told her to stop by. She came to the party, got drunk, and I wound up sleeping with her. The next morning, I woke up and she had cleaned the ENTIRE house for me. I said "Thanks! See you later!" and she left Hahaha... A few days later, she invited me to her house, she said she would make dinner for me. I said "sure" and went to her house. Her parents were out of town, and she was tipsy already by the time I got there. I didn't drink anything, she served me dinner, I ate, and left. Hhahaha That weekend she called me and asked me to come over. I said "maybe, I'm hanging with friends". I was at a friends house, partied till 2AM, then called her and said "Im coming over". I practically fell into her house, I was so drunk, had sex with her till the morning, then left. We had one more episode where she invited me over...she answered her door wearing all this lingerie stuff. We had sex, and she asked if i would stay the night. I said "no" and i left and went back to college. A few days later, I got a letter from her in the mail, saying she wanted more out of our relationship (RELATIONSHIP!?!?) than just sex. I threw the letter out and never talked to her again. Anyone else have stories like this? No, two wrongs don't make a right. 2
Sugarkane Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Still really tempting when the dumper acts like a psycho and turns everyone against you. Never got an apology years later or any sign of remorse.
Emilia Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 A few days later, I got a letter from her in the mail, saying she wanted more out of our relationship (RELATIONSHIP!?!?) than just sex. I threw the letter out and never talked to her again. Anyone else have stories like this? Not really. I avoid passive aggressive little boys like you 4
Sugarkane Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Not really. I avoid passive aggressive little boys like you Why isn't that what everyone says to do on here? Don't make it easy to Be sucked in and strung along? Or called a psycho just for answering or even worse. 1
Emilia Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Why isn't that what everyone says to do on here? Don't make it easy to Be sucked in and strung along? Or called a psycho just for answering or even worse. I'm sorry you are hurting Sugarkane. People called all sorts of things after a break up. I was called worse than psycho once if that helps
Giha Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 In many ways you have successfully become worse than her. Kudos to you, sir. 3
JustAReformedGirl Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Thought we could have a little fun here... I had a girlfriend in high school that treated me like garbage, but I was whipped, and stayed with her my senior year, and my first year of college. She was a total jerk in every way. A liar, immasculating, user, etc...While in college, she got mono, and I came to visit her at her house a few times, trying to keep her spirits up. Then I got mono, and she said "I'd love to come over, but I'm sitting by the pool and working on my tan." REALLY!?!? So we broke up after the first year of college. She was done stringing me along and cut the cord, but I wasn't too broke up about it by that point. About 4 years later, we ran into each other at a club, said hi, danced together, whatever. By that point I was no longer insecure, had an ego, etc, so I blew her off after hanging out with her a bit. A few days later she called to see if I wanted to hang out. My parents were out of town and I was having a party so I told her to stop by. She came to the party, got drunk, and I wound up sleeping with her. The next morning, I woke up and she had cleaned the ENTIRE house for me. I said "Thanks! See you later!" and she left Hahaha... A few days later, she invited me to her house, she said she would make dinner for me. I said "sure" and went to her house. Her parents were out of town, and she was tipsy already by the time I got there. I didn't drink anything, she served me dinner, I ate, and left. Hhahaha That weekend she called me and asked me to come over. I said "maybe, I'm hanging with friends". I was at a friends house, partied till 2AM, then called her and said "Im coming over". I practically fell into her house, I was so drunk, had sex with her till the morning, then left. We had one more episode where she invited me over...she answered her door wearing all this lingerie stuff. We had sex, and she asked if i would stay the night. I said "no" and i left and went back to college. A few days later, I got a letter from her in the mail, saying she wanted more out of our relationship (RELATIONSHIP!?!?) than just sex. I threw the letter out and never talked to her again. Anyone else have stories like this? While I understand she was a total bitch when you were dating, how are you any better, or any different from her, now? 4 years can really change a person; sounds like she became less of a bitch, at the very least-and you became a complete a-hole, at the very most. Well, once you're done congratulating yourself, I'm sure your own bad Karma will come along to kick you in the 'nads. Have fun with that. You became exactly what you hated about her. 4
Author eddyctv Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 Wow, I didnt expect this kind of backlash...sorry to ruffle people's feathers. She was a complete jerk to me, and I got revenge. I was a jerk back. Big deal.
JustAReformedGirl Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 There are consequences for every action. You post about doing something like that, and what did you expect? A congratulatory banquet? Let's put it this way; no one is denying that she was a b*tch to you. But that was four years ago. In those four years, you noted that you had changed, yourself. Was it really so inconceivable that she did the same? Furthermore, did it really change anything? No. The past is the past, you can't change how she treated you, nor how you let yourself get walked all over. You know what most sane, mature people do, when they come across someone that once made their lives hell? They let it go. In your own, demented way, you just proved to her that she still holds power over you, for the events of the past. I'm not sure whether to find you sickening, or to pity you. Guess I'll settle for both. 1
Ajax Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Wow, I didnt expect this kind of backlash...sorry to ruffle people's feathers. She was a complete jerk to me, and I got revenge. I was a jerk back. Big deal. People can be jerks. Granted. And I'll confess that after my girlfriend at the time unceremoniously dumped me three years ago I relished in the idea of her coming back for a second chance, only to be told to pound salt. But that was during the depths of my pain. And to actually seek retribution by leading someone on, that's not my idea of justice. In your own, demented way, you just proved to her that she still holds power over you, for the events of the past. I'm not sure whether to find you sickening, or to pity you. Guess I'll settle for both. To behave in this way four years after being aggrieved is the sign of a small and bitter person. A person who was beaten by their pain rather than overcoming it. So yeah, I feel sorry for him. 1
Author eddyctv Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 I'm not sure whether to find you sickening, or to pity you. Guess I'll settle for both. Well this was also about 20 years ago...I would NOT do the same thing now. I am NOT that person anymore. I am going through a heartcrushing breakup right now (which is what led me to this website)...I dont know, thinking back to getting that revenge gave me a bit of a smile. But, no, I am not that person now.
CannibalQu33n Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Kay 1 props on you I really wish I could do that with my ex. I TRIED that and no go what so ever......he just ended up hanging out at my house for 2 weeks...so awkward my roommate called him a a little puppy dog and he left........but then a month later surprise surprise he's knocking on my door and brought me grocies and chew toys for my dog, I took all of it and told him hes kind but I have to think about things before I let him back in my life.........So any ways......Like you saw that your ex was different did it not ever click in your brain that maybe she was sorry for how she treated you soo many years ago?....via do you think I should give my ex another chance?....I know I commented on your story and am asking for advice all in one.
Author eddyctv Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 Kay 1 props on you I really wish I could do that with my ex. I TRIED that and no go what so ever......he just ended up hanging out at my house for 2 weeks...so awkward my roommate called him a a little puppy dog and he left........but then a month later surprise surprise he's knocking on my door and brought me grocies and chew toys for my dog, I took all of it and told him hes kind but I have to think about things before I let him back in my life.........So any ways......Like you saw that your ex was different did it not ever click in your brain that maybe she was sorry for how she treated you soo many years ago?....via do you think I should give my ex another chance?....I know I commented on your story and am asking for advice all in one. I DIDNT see my ex as any different. At all. She was still a liar, still talking about how great she was (she was an expert in this category - she was a singer, and always talked about getting a record deal...PLEASE). And no, I NEVER thought she was sorry for how she treated me. Ever. She didnt change, she was a piece of garbage, who probably became attracted to me again because I was much more sure of myself when she ran into me 4 years after we initially dated. Yes, I was a total jerk to her. No, I didn't regret it. Regarding your situation, you should start a thread with your story, and add more details (like who broke up with who and why)...you'll get plenty of advice from everyone on here...
hotpotato Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Ive been tempted a time or two...I have a really big issue with guys dumping me for other women then wanting to come back. Id say about 1/2 the time they dump me they come running back eventually. Case in point "Jerry." I had been casually dating Jerry. He decided he wanted to have sex with other women. He said he had to have sex with this girl because she was short. He drove 2 hrs ~through my city~ to get to her. Meanwhile he would nitpick me. He didnt like it when id text "u" instead of "you." Yet he would still try to call me over for sex. One night I fixed him. I texted him all day saying how much I wanted to see them. "Jerry I miss hugging you. I miss your smile and pretty blue eyes." Later that day he asks when I was coming. I looked at his message and went on about my business. He knew exactly what I did. Thats the closest ive come to revenge. I used to fantasize about taking my other ex back. Then I could cheat on him and dump him, too. I had the opportunity to do so, but I didnt.
simplyamazing Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I always thought that if my ex contacted me asking to get back together, I'd say yes... only with the intent to end it a month or two later in a similar fashion that she did to me, basically vanish off the face of the earth. Then I thought, why bother? She ain't worth my time. During that time I could actually be forging a relationship that could matter to me. 4
Goodbye Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Honestly -- and I'm sure I won't elicit many fans by saying this -- but I have no problem doing this. People gain closure in a multitude of ways and you know what, sometimes vengeance is definitely one of them. Or are you really just trying to get his attention, because he is done with you? I suspect you hope to piss him off to wake him up so he'll come running back to you after passing out from boredom?
ForeverHopeful1 Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 You both sound like little childish brats. You deserve one another. Clearly..
Author eddyctv Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 You both sound like little childish brats. You deserve one another. Clearly.. HAHA well we WERE childish brats back then...like I said, this was 20 years ago.
Author eddyctv Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 sounds like karma got you 20yrs later... I'd say karma got HER 4 years after we dated...
starlet86 Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 That may have been the case, but how do you know that 20yrs later she isn't happy and in love and doesn't even think about you and you are the heartbroken one. Two wrongs don't make a right. You used her to fuel your own ego. That doesn't make you a better person, it makes you worse, it shows you were still hung up on what she done to you. The bigger person wouldn't have given her the time of day. My ex from many moons ago, contacted my doctor and told him I was off my meds, which was completely untrue and had me hospitalise as a last ditch attempt to control me. 6 years later I saw him, I was happy and healthy and he tried to speak to me at a social gathering. I smiled and said hello and walked away. I won, he didn't.
Author eddyctv Posted June 27, 2013 Author Posted June 27, 2013 That may have been the case, but how do you know that 20yrs later she isn't happy and in love and doesn't even think about you and you are the heartbroken one. I don't care if she is happy now...why on earth would I care about her now? Two wrongs don't make a right. You used her to fuel your own ego. That doesn't make you a better person, it makes you worse, it shows you were still hung up on what she done to you. I used her. It was awesome. And I didn't give a rat's arse. My conscience was clear. The bigger person wouldn't have given her the time of day. I wasn't trying to be the "bigger person". I was out for revenge, and I got it. My ex from many moons ago, contacted my doctor and told him I was off my meds, which was completely untrue and had me hospitalise as a last ditch attempt to control me. 6 years later I saw him, I was happy and healthy and he tried to speak to me at a social gathering. I smiled and said hello and walked away. I won, he didn't. Using her up and throwing her away was much better experience for me than if i just said "hello" and walked away. Why are you so intent on making me out to be such a bad person? I had a great time at the expense of a woman that treated me like garbage for years. BIG DEAL. I thought everyone would have a laugh at this story. We've all experienced being treated like a door mat. I turned the tables. It was GREAT.
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