How likely is it that he'll be back? And why DID he break up with me?

[purplemania]

Met a guy in one of my classes at college this semester. He almost instantly added me on Facebook and got my number. We went out on a date a month and half later, and right away he told me he wanted to be in a serious relationship. I was rather surprised since we hardly knew anything about each other.

 

Not even two weeks later, I lost my virginity to him. No, not to prove myself to anyone or to ''earn his love.'' I think a lot of the initial attraction between us was just lust. We both wanted it. We both spent a crazy amount of time just talking about sex.

 

For the month to come, he was stressing how much he would never get into a relationship if he didn't think it was going to have long-term potential. Told me he loved me, was serious about me, and yatta yatta...

 

An incident occurs where we get caught having oral sex on school campus (I know, we sound irresponsible as hell but we're actually good kids; the fact that we were both honor students made the establishment go easy on us). But after that, he just started withdrawing?

 

He would text me a lot less, and eventually came out that he had had a lot of doubts about things in his life such as career, his family, etc. Basically, he was in a situation of stress and uncertainty while I was acing all of my classes and knowing exactly what I was doing with myself. And two weeks later he broke up with me saying: ''For some reason, I just think we're better off as friends. I really like you, but I don't think I love you enough to be with you.''

 

Huge slap in the face. :/

 

He previously told me that, had he met me before his two other girlfriends, I would have been his first and not them. He told me this was hard for him because he felt bad for putting me in this situation and that this was the first time he had to break up with someone he thought was really great. His first girlfriend of a year and a half cheated on him, his rebound after that was basically really bossy and selfish so ending it with them was easier or so he claims.

 

We broke up a month ago and have maintained NC for 10 days now (even though we initially said we were going to remain friends but I realize this is going to be difficult now).

 

This might sound stupid but I don't get it, why the break up out of the blue? Why did he get cold feet? And is it likely he'll come back to me seeing as we ended the relationship in a civil manner, that I really didn't do anything wrong to drive him away, and that I left him with something positive in the end(I think)?

 

(I think I should mention; he's the type of guy who has trouble being on his own. There isn't that big of a time lapse between me and his two other girls. Also, he has some self-esteem issues and was basically really possessive and jealous with his first girlfriend, telling her how to dress and stuff, which is what drove her away.)

 

FORGOT SOMETHING

 

One of his best friend texted me two weeks after our breakup to tell me that his friend was stupid and that I'm really hot, and I promptly told him to stop texting me. Was I being tested?

Edited June 2, 2013 by purplemania
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[purplemania]

I think he just got a little lost.

You just need to give him some time to get back on track.

About the friend, if it's a really good friend then may be it's a test.

More likely though it's just his friend taking advantage of the situation

and hitting on you.

 

By the way, you sound very mature. How old are you?

 

Yeah, seems very convenient for him to pursue someone until he's sure he has her invested, and THEN take the time to analyse his own feelings.

 

It was kind of weird though because when I texted my ex to tell him to stop giving out my number to his friends, he denied doing it period. Although I don't have a hard time imagining he was lying.

 

I just turned 18.