CarlyMarie Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Ill try and make this as short as possible. From the start, she was very worried about getting into a relationship. Long term talk would scare her, etc. Mostly because of her past. This is a girl I met in 2010 and quickly developed feelings for. We lost contact and started talking again in late July of last year, so 2012. I fell for her so quickly, and because of the situation, I decided to wait. I knew I could prove myself to her, and she was worth the wait. We got into the relationship, and things were going incredibly well. I then started a new birth control (we are both female, I started birth control to avoid periods) which gave me a zero to none sex drive, and I had a very short fuse, easily got annoyed with affection. This obviously caused problems. The birth control I was/am on was a shot, therefore its in my system for a few months, so I cant just switch the birth control quickly. We agreed that there were problems, but we were going to wait things out and see how they would be once the birth control changed. Last weekend, I had told her I loved her for the first time. She told me she wasnt at that point yet, which I understood. Then, all of a sudden all of these problems came out of nowhere. We almost broke up that night, and then almost broke up again the next day. For a little while, things were okay, until last night when we got into an argument, which was my fault, but I did apologize. Then all of a sudden she broke up with me, for the reason of the birth control. All of a sudden she said she didn't want me or the relationship anymore, and she doesnt want to wait. I honestly don't think this has anything to do with the argument last night, I think it was an excuse for her to end things because I scared her when I said I loved her. Now, shes just being a complete jerk, as she always is when she is upset because she tries to hide her emotions. Her best friend keeps telling me that she is gonna realize her mistake and come back. I just am so confused at the moment, and im very hurt. Its hard for me to let go, knowing these things shes saying are an excuse, and knowing that things will be good again in a month when im on the new birth control. Since I stopped texting her back, after her ignoring me, shes texted me telling me to stop texting a friend of hers, whom texted me first making sure I was alright. From there, the conversation just kept going, and later on in the night she took her friends phone and texted me on it, just being a jerk. I tried to call her this morning, hoping she would be calmed down and I could actually get an answer from her, because im positive theres a reason she isnt telling me, and she told me she was about to go to work, and she already told me the reasons. A few hours later, she texted me "Hey im home from work." And I replied basically telling her if she isnt gonna be truthful with me, I have nothing to say to her. She didnt reply. Why would she be doing these things? Im so confused. Any advice would be amazing.
Author CarlyMarie Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 I completely forgot we have tickets to a concert in August together. I texted her asking if she was still going and we got into a conversation about us. & here comes the true depression. :/ I really need any advice I can get, guys.
roaminghart11 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I wish I had some good advice to offer. It does sound like she was pressured by the "I love you" the way that everything got out of control so soon after that conversation. You mention she was worried about long-term relationships because of her past. I would think that your break up has a lot to do with that. Best wishes!
Author CarlyMarie Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 I don't know if the saying I love you to her did anything, to be honest. I definitely did not pressure her. This just sucks all together.
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