soifnaegvbaoeaiegoaobgaiou Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 So, after being NC for over a week, I was doing quite well. She blew up my phone one morning and I was able to ignore it. Over the next couple days, the texts stuck in my head but I was able to stay NC. However, a few weeks ago on Friday I wrote a text, started to send it, but then cancelled it. I think, no harm, no foul. Wrong. While I cancelled the text, my phone showed it as not being delivered, she still received it. We talked for a bit, I explained to her I wanted to talk to her and see if we could resolve our issues, and she spent the night. (I slept in a different room.) Over the next few days, she talked about how much she missed me and wanted to see me and we spent more time in each other's company. Nothing serious, some kissing but nothing further. (Except for one morning, we slept together but afterwards mutually agreed it wouldn't happen again.) We spent a lot of time talking about our issues and working through things. There was one time we were hanging out with some friends, and were drinking, and I ended up trying to talk to her in front of everyone else which she can't stand. Otherwise, we've been doing well. Until yesterday. I've been under a lot of stress lately, with a lot going on in my life and she knows this. Yesterday, I found there was a half an hour period of time that would have been great to see her. Even just for a bit as I hadn't seen her all weekend. Well, she told me she was hanging out with this one friend of hers, whom I know is good friends with the other guy she was talking to. I demanded she come clean, and she admitted she was still talking to that other guy. A huge arguement ensued, and once cooler heads prevailed I asked her what she wanted. She said "I don't want you to cut me out of your life again." She knows I cannot be her friend, because of my feelings. She said "Why can't we just go back to our friendship and rebuild from there?" I don't think she ever forgave me for giving her the ultimatum that lead to us dating 2 years ago. I told her I wouldn't do it, and that our options were limited. Either we'd be together, and I'd be happy, or we'd be friends, and she'd be happy, or we'd not speak to each other, and we'd both be unhappy. She said she didn't like any of those options, I told her to come up with a new one. She couldn't, so I asked her what I should do. She said, "Just leave." So I did. Hours after that text, she said "Me and you will always be unfinished business." What does that mean? For what it's worth, I told her "Wrong, it's finished now. Please don't text me again."
Ale khun Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 That my friend was a very smart move because with this your are telling her that you are done with her drama but most important you are done playing her game of " unfinished business " you can't be friends with the person you love , that doesn't work in real life just in movies ,we only get hurt playing that it's hard to see them and not being able to touch them , kiss them blah blah blah . go NC with her no matter what.. IMO she will contact you , because I don't think she is happy with your decision of "its finished" I know it's hard but not impossible , just think that now you have a better perspective of the things you want in your life . You deserve to be happy not kinda happy good luck 1
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