radiodarcy Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 After zero contact (no IM, text, phone calls) in over a year and not having actually seen him in close to three years I ran into the ex outside the grocery store yesterday. Of course the first time I see him I'd have to look like a train wreck with stringy hair, sweat pants and an overcoat. So much for the revenge against the ex by letting him see how great I look . But other than that it was pretty much a non-event. We chatted for 20 minutes -- he did most of the talking as I stood there perspiring and trying to figure out how I felt about the whole thing. But oddly enough now that it's been a full 24hours and I feel -- nothing. Not fine, not bad, not angry or sad. Nothing. I'm not sure if I'm numb or just indifferent. He did send me an email saying it was good to see me and that we'll keep in touch. But I'm not really interested. For one thing he is still with his girlfriend and I don't think that would be appropriate. And for another it just feels weird. Like he's a chapter in my life that I've considered over for quite some time now. 3
may_girl Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Good for you! This is a really inspiring post, it is where a lot of us would like to be in the future I'm sure. 3
cavalier99 Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Ha. funny how what would have been a huge deal post BU just turns into a weird encounter that doesnt affect you. Your just indifferent! Cav 2
Author radiodarcy Posted May 1, 2013 Author Posted May 1, 2013 Thanks guys! I have to admit that last time wasn't the first time I had gone NC but I'm glad I stuck to it! If I hadn't I'd be a wreck now
LostOne1 Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Good test for ya.. and it's good you feel great. It shows you have moved on and you're a much more stronger person now. 2
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Good for you! This is a really inspiring post, it is where a lot of us would like to be in the future I'm sure. TO THE OP: Your post made me smile 1
Author radiodarcy Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 Ultimately, I think it's quite sad really... I can see how it could be construed as sad. And in some ways it is. I'd like to say I felt something of the old feelings. But it was an incredibly unhealthy relationship where he never felt the same about me as I did for him. Against my better judgement I stayed hoping he would change his mind but he never did and eventually dumped me. Staying was a mistake but his dumping me helped me make the changes I needed to move on. So in that respect I see it more as lessons learned that have come full circle. 3
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