Pisces13 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 It's now been 7 weeks since the breakup, in which my girlfriend broke up with me. We have still been in fairly regular contact since, we probably see each other once or twice a week. Anyway, last night I went out on the town with some friends of mine from my old job, and my ex was also out with some of her new "good time" friends. I was having a great time, not thinking or worrying about the ex at all, when all of a sudden she called me and wanted to come meet up with me. I obliged (I was ready to go home anyway), we met up and then headed back to my place. We were both pretty drunk, and ended up getting in to an argument, after she asked me if I had hooked up with anyone since we had broken up. I told her about how I had a met up with a former female colleague of mine couple of weeks earlier and that we ended up making out. My ex told me that she had sex with some guy she used to go to school with when she went back home at Easter time, but that it was crap and she berated the guy and fell asleep mid way through it lol. She got quite upset though when I told her how I made out with the girl, like she got really upset about it. I didn't have much of a reaction to her and the guy, I didn't like hearing it of course, but I mean I expected that that was going to happen after we broke up, and I told her she should've expected the same the other way. She ended up apologizing to me about the whole thing this morning after she sobered up, saying that she completely overacted and that she didn't expect she would react like that when hearing about it. My question now is, how do I interpret this reaction? She says that she isn't "in love" with me anymore and that she doesn't regret the break up, however if that is the case, then I would've thought that she wouldn't have cared when I told her about it, if that is really how she feels?
Simon Phoenix Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 Just because they don't want you doesn't mean they want others to have you. She could have been pissed because if you are hooking up with other girls, then you aren't under her thumb. I wouldn't read anything more into it at this point. 1
swiftly333 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 It just hurts to think that your ex has moved on with their life. It hurts to think that maybe you're ex has moved on you. That they might be happier without you. It's selfish, it's a knock at your ego and said esteem, but it's a feeling and it can really mess you up emotionally....it's not really anything to look in or interpret. I know because I'm feeling this now and I hate it.... now you know; you shouldn't have this conversation with an ex, ever! You might be curious, but no one really wants to know and it doesn't make, anyone feel better.
Author Pisces13 Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 It just hurts to think that your ex has moved on with their life. It hurts to think that maybe you're ex has moved on you. That they might be happier without you. It's selfish, it's a knock at your ego and said esteem, but it's a feeling and it can really mess you up emotionally....it's not really anything to look in or interpret. I know because I'm feeling this now and I hate it.... now you know; you shouldn't have this conversation with an ex, ever! You might be curious, but no one really wants to know and it doesn't make, anyone feel better. Yeah, but she broke up with me... When I broke up with my first girlfriend, she could've told me she was banging some one new that same day, and I wouldn't have cared, because I no longer wanted to be with her, and I was 110% sure about that. Isn't that the choice we all make when we break up with some one? We no longer have "those feelings" for them and don't want to continue a relationship with them, there fore why should finding out they've been with some one else come as some sort of surprise, or hurt so much? We both knew we would see other people when she broke up with me, and if she doesn't have any feelings for me anymore like she claims, well why get so upset about it? I do still have feelings for her, and I wasn't upset at all when she told me she slept with that other guy, because I expected that that was going to happen after we broke up, that is obvious though isn't it? Maybe I'm just too "black and white", but I just don't get it... Anyway, fast forward a few hours and she sent me a text saying that she was still real upset about it, and had been crying all afternoon after I had left her place, she said she felt sick and had this real bad feeling in her stomach.
McGriff Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 The old "I don't want you, but I don't want anyone else to have you either" syndrome. That sh*t is so annoying! Personally, I wouldn't feel bad about it---you've done nothing wrong---she broke up with you and expected you to sit and cry while she felt entitled to do whatever? Screw that. 2
Author Pisces13 Posted April 27, 2013 Author Posted April 27, 2013 The old "I don't want you, but I don't want anyone else to have you either" syndrome. That sh*t is so annoying! Personally, I wouldn't feel bad about it---you've done nothing wrong---she broke up with you and expected you to sit and cry while she felt entitled to do whatever? Screw that. Oh I don't feel bad about it at all, I'm just more confused as to why she has been so upset about it, especially after she says things to me like she isn't in love with me or that she doesn't have romantic feelings for me anymore. I also thought it was kind of hypocritical, seeing as though she actually had sex with another guy like 3 weeks after we broke up, where as I just made out with a girl 5 weeks after we broke up, and because she broke up with me. I've long thought that she has been putting up a front with me, I can see through her pretty easy and I don't think her life has been all that great as she tries to make out that it has been since the break up. After we were texting back and forth last night, she confessed that she does still love me, and I do believe that she still does (I always have) but I'm not taking that as a signal that we're going to get back together, not any time soon at least.
Simon Phoenix Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 Oh I don't feel bad about it at all, I'm just more confused as to why she has been so upset about it, especially after she says things to me like she isn't in love with me or that she doesn't have romantic feelings for me anymore. I also thought it was kind of hypocritical, seeing as though she actually had sex with another guy like 3 weeks after we broke up, where as I just made out with a girl 5 weeks after we broke up, and because she broke up with me. I've long thought that she has been putting up a front with me, I can see through her pretty easy and I don't think her life has been all that great as she tries to make out that it has been since the break up. After we were texting back and forth last night, she confessed that she does still love me, and I do believe that she still does (I always have) but I'm not taking that as a signal that we're going to get back together, not any time soon at least. It's a means of control. Nothing more, nothing less.
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