Seeing real Love...

[all_cats_rgray]

Sometimes I realize what a shell of a relationship I had with my ex.

 

I see my aunt dealing with cancer and her husband dealing with the worst side of her in strides.

 

I see boyfriends and girlfriends dealing with fights with understanding and communication.

 

I see commitment, and love; where I had one sided co-dependence relationship.

 

I see one partner may have trouble controlling other impulses or simply not show much interest in the partnership. Then the other partner -- who is the codependent one -- goes all-out to try to "fix" the problem.

 

I see a relationship where only one of you is ever asking to get together or making moves toward the other one.

 

I see me placing a lower priority on my own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.

 

I see narcissists, with their ability to "get others to buy into their vision and help them make it a reality," are natural magnets for the "'co-dependent"

 

I see behaviour who is especially 'independent' exerts an especially fascinating effect on all ... dependent persons ... [who] struggle to participate in the 'omnipotent' narcissist's power.

[Infnitysign]

Ahhhh

 

I wouldn't put it in any other way.

[siankat]

thanks for the really interesting post....i recognise some bits and will be more aware in future!