McGriff Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Went on my date last night! Lovely girl, soooooo much different from the ex, and that was weird at first, but I started to appreciate her differences as the night went on. Had sushi, went and saw a live band, just a really good time, ended with a long kiss. Sooooo, I wake up this morning to a text from the ex: "Hey! Hope all is going well for you!!" I kinda panicked, (I know, I'm such a wuss when it comes to her right now) and I answered "thanks, you too :)" I should have ignored it dammit. Am I now back at day 1 because she initiated and I sent a response? I mean, I don't feel bad, if anything, at least I know she's thinking about me, as I had my doubts. Doesn't really matter I know.
Author McGriff Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 Ok, now I've gotten another text from her: "Everything is horrible!!! Life sucks soooo bad. I'm prob going to slit my wrist and bleed out tom right after work...." Hahaha---I don't even know how to respond to this. What do I say my brothers and sisters of heartbreak??
Starrdust Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Glad you had a lovely time on your date. Nice to see how there's light at the end of the tunnel. Does your ex suffer from depression? Cause that text was really extreme. I gotta say tho I don't think it's right for u to get caught up in her emotional mess but at the same time she might just want a friendly farmiliar person to speak to. Do what's right for yourself and I think just a neutral response would be ok. Is she being serious about wanting to cut herself?
Hope737 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Do what's right for yourself and I think just a neutral response would be ok. Is she being serious about wanting to cut herself? My ex used to text me similar things but she was just being over the top and would never actually harm herself. It's pretty important to establish if she's being serious or not. It's always difficult when you get a text from the ex, especially when it seems like they're reaching out to you. Just keep things civil and keep cool. Congrats on the date going well! Focus on that for now, sounds like potential for a good relationship there.
geegirl Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 This is the ex that dumped you a month ago and went back to an abusive ex? Things are bad so she's reaching out to you because she's needing the good guy for a soft landing, an attention ploy. Tell her you hope the she seeks help and figures out her problems. Give her the number for the suicide hotline and tell her to seek support from her family or friends. If you know of a family member, share your concern and let it go -- google for the hotline number, send it and let it go. There is nothing you can do to fix her. My guess is she's seeking attention. People that are serious about suicide don't announce it over text and in such a callous fashion.
Author McGriff Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 Ok she was kidding: "Hahaha just joking" I think she's just playing games---trying to see where my head is at. I just replied "dork"
KatZee Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Agreed. NC. She's like desperate for attention now. Why is that exes always sniff around when you're dating someone new?! This is crazy! LOL Who in their right mind says, "Life sucks soooo bad!! I'm going to slit my wrists! HAHAH JK!" Yeah, OK. I'm willing to bet her life IS a gigantic heap of garbage right now. Definitely not as good as your is. But, alas is life. Not your problem anymore. NC, NC, NC! 4
Jono85 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Ok she was kidding: "Hahaha just joking" I think she's just playing games---trying to see where my head is at. I just replied "dork" so you went from breaking NC, to light-flirting with her? nice... she wins yet again. your balls are still in her possession. 1
Author McGriff Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 so you went from breaking NC, to light-flirting with her? nice... she wins yet again. your balls are still in her possession. No doubt about it. BUT, I'm definitely in a better place than I was a few weeks ago. I went out last night and forgot my heartbreak for a night, AND I scheduled a cruise vacation in about 3 weeks. And then another mini vacay shortly thereafter. So I'm doing everything I can to get my balls back in my own possession. I miss them 1
KatZee Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 AND I scheduled a cruise vacation in about 3 weeks. And then another mini vacay shortly thereafter. So I'm doing everything I can to get my balls back in my own possession. I miss them Totally jealous of you right now. 1
Damsel in Distress Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 First off, OMG McGriff... that little joke about bleeding out... not funny! Gosh! I find it so interesting that it's when you went on a date (congrats!) that she texted you. I would HOPE that having been on a date would help you stay strong! I'm sure you were excited to hear from her, but these are not the kind of texts that you should be responding too... and especially if she is making crazy jokes about suicidality, thinking that's funny or will get a reaction from you, then you absolutely don't need to be interacting with her!! Reading this makes me feel even more strongly that you should not respond, or if that feels like you are being a prick, then say something about continuing to give each other space. Weird breadcrumb exchanges like this - completely out of the blue - are not going to do anything to help you with healing or with getting her back. If she does decide she wants you back it's not going to be "what's up".. I hope you wouldn't even consider taking her back until she was doing some serious apologizing and explaining. And I wish you didn't respond to the first text! But I can imagine the rush of feelings seeing her name in your inbox. Hard to stay in control. Just consider the ramifications of responding to things like this, McGriff. Please stay strong! 2
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