youngnlove89 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 How do I make that mental decision to block him once and for all? I awoke in a dreary dream last night and called him half asleep, he answered and wanted to know why I was ignoring him. I was half asleep and I don't remember anything else! That is bad! I screwed it up. It's time... How can I mentally prepare myself to block him and accept that I will never see or talk to him again? It will be like he is dead and I don't know how to accept that... I will miss him so much.
WhoreyBull Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 The pain of loss will fade with time, you can't linger with the memories of the dead forever. You'll mourn, you'll won't forget, you'll always love them, but in time you'll find someone who brings you back into the world of the living. 1
Author youngnlove89 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 The pain of loss will fade with time, you can't linger with the memories of the dead forever. You'll mourn, you'll won't forget, you'll always love them, but in time you'll find someone who brings you back into the world of the living. Thanks. But I'm scared of that pain, of not feeling wanted by someone I love.
richard9 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 How do I make that mental decision to block him once and for all? I awoke in a dreary dream last night and called him half asleep, he answered and wanted to know why I was ignoring him. I was half asleep and I don't remember anything else! That is bad! I screwed it up. It's time... How can I mentally prepare myself to block him and accept that I will never see or talk to him again? It will be like he is dead and I don't know how to accept that... I will miss him so much. The only way ive found to mentally prepare was to start making plans for the future without her which focus on self improvement. You have the time now to better youself, set yourself challenges, little things you know might be difficult to do. write down a schedule for each day with what you are going to do the next day. Its all about structure and order snd creating new routines without them. Hope thst helps!
WhoreyBull Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Thanks. But I'm scared of that pain, of not feeling wanted by someone I love. Well, the good thing about it being someone you dated rather than someone who really died is eventually you'll realize what an ass that person really was, and you'll still be allowed to tell everyone about it. If you get your hand caught in a combine it's destroyed forever, the nerves are ruined so the pain is dull. It might be less painful to ignore it, but if you aren't willing to take the pain of snipping off that dead limb then you're going to get dragged into the machine and consumed entirely.
ARMicheals Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I don't think there is a person in this board who doesn't know and understand the pain you are feeling. It SUCKS! It hurts and and feels like it it never going to end. YOU need to end it in your head. Walk away. Wrap your head around NC forever. He does not want to be your friend. He doesn't want you ignoring him because it is a blow to his ego. If he was truly your friend, he would understand that NC is best for YOU because this is hurting you. The pain is going to ebb and flow. Some days will be good and some bad. Some day the good will outnumber the bad. Someday a week or month will go by without you thinking of him... Not today or tomorrow but someday. Unfortunately you have to get thru today and tomorrow to get there. He IS going to get another GF.... Do you want to watch that? You think it hurts now? Wait until that happens and then he tells you you need to stop calling/texting/emailing him. Take back your power... One day at a time. Hanging around isn't going to make him want you back... It's just going to hurt you more. Much more than you are hurting now. 1
Author youngnlove89 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 I don't think there is a person in this board who doesn't know and understand the pain you are feeling. It SUCKS! It hurts and and feels like it it never going to end. YOU need to end it in your head. Walk away. Wrap your head around NC forever. He does not want to be your friend. He doesn't want you ignoring him because it is a blow to his ego. If he was truly your friend, he would understand that NC is best for YOU because this is hurting you. The pain is going to ebb and flow. Some days will be good and some bad. Some day the good will outnumber the bad. Someday a week or month will go by without you thinking of him... Not today or tomorrow but someday. Unfortunately you have to get thru today and tomorrow to get there. He IS going to get another GF.... Do you want to watch that? You think it hurts now? Wait until that happens and then he tells you you need to stop calling/texting/emailing him. Take back your power... One day at a time. Hanging around isn't going to make him want you back... It's just going to hurt you more. Much more than you are hurting now. Gosh, you are so right. I'm going to go and block him RIGHT NOW!! Thanks for that because you made me realize i do NOT want to know who he starts dating and all that. That will be worse than not talking to him!!!
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