Compromize Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 I know I shouldn't have responded but after waiting for a response and having pretty much given up on one she texted me today. I responded because what she said hurt me, made herself out as the victim, she truly felt she wasn't enough, didn't give me enough, etc. Then she loves me and wishes me happiness and that I am an amazing man. I waited a while and responded, told her that hurts to hear, that I valued her and the time we had together and this was her response to my question about reconciling, another goodbye. It went south big time from here and we ended up throwing texts of hurt at each other, it's like all she wanted to do was hurt me. And I fell for it and was upset about it and finally ended with goodbye. The "good" thing that came of this I guess was I KNOW without a doubt that she is never coming back, we are never getting back together and this hope that I had just lost it's supply of food and water and is dying. It's time for me to really and truly move on. I started NC with the hope in the back of my mind that maybe we would reconcile if I just kept my shut and waited to see what happened but with the reality that it may never happen. I now know that it will never happen. My dreams of a future with her are really and truly over, it's clear to me know. I will go NC on the path that is to true healing. For myself. Not for hope. There is much wisdom here. Sometimes it takes the reality and finality of the experience to truly learn the lesson. I don't know what I would have done without the encouragement, guidance and just having someone out there that cares experience that I have had on here. My heartfelt appreciation to all of you who have listened to me and I thank you very much. 1
McGriff Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Sorry to hear that man. Same thing happened to me last week. I heard from her, but she ended by saying she was sorry for hurting me and wasn't in love with me and didnt miss me. It's a cold world. Haha---but at least the hope is gone. I'll probably never hear from her agin, but I guess that's better than holding on to a dream. I'm sorry that you went through that. Just know that you'll have some tough days coming up. Prepare yourself mentally, and just take it one breath at a time, one foot in front of the other. You are not alone in grief. 1
Author Compromize Posted March 31, 2013 Author Posted March 31, 2013 Thanks man. Our relationship has pretty much been on life support since the beginning of December. I have had LOTS of hard days. Ready to be done with them and grief and missing her and pointlessly pining. I had her for a while, I am trying to be happy with that thought. I read another thread that said a BU is the answer to the question of will we be together forever? Obviously not. It sucks that the question has two answers depending on who you ask. Man relationships suck. My heart is going to look like the grinch's soon, out of pure self preservation. http://blog.codepen.io/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/grinch-heart.jpg 1
Am4Real Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 We have done what you just did sometime in our experiences. Your answer from her is a blessing in that you finally know for sure - no more hope to misguide you. You are right to recognize the wisdom of NC for healing and not "getting your EX back". With your new found wisdom, make the best use of it. Stay strong! We're here for you. 1
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