Tracyb80 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I split with my husband of 13 years in September after finding out that he was having an affair with my friends 20 yr old niece we are both 33. I was devastated we have two children together, this break up has made me so ill that I have been treated for serious depression, I left my friends and family to move 250 miles away as I felt I needed to get as far away as possible. I was in my last yr of uni but had to leave that too. I feel I have lost almost everything. My husband during this time has treated the whole thing as a big game, playing me and this girl against each other I begged him to tell me he no longer loved me as I hoped this would make it easier to move on but he wouldn't he continued to sleep with me until I moved away. This girl has now moved in with him which was very hurtful especially as her 2 yr old son has also moved in. In January I took the kids back to see him for the weekend and slept with him on numerous occasions over that weekend, we had tried for a baby for yrs but it had never happened again, however I am now 9 weeks pregnant. I was so happy as I thought this may be a second chance for us until I found out she too is pregnant she is 17 wks he didn't even have the decency to tell me I found out on facebk. She does not yet know I am pregnant I know many people will say have some self respect and run a mile but I have loved this man for 13 yrs I wish I could hate him but can't I'm broken hearted this behaviour is totally out of character I don't know where the man I loved has gone.
fixing Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Damn. Really sorry to hear this. But, he is a scumbag. Cheat. You must leave him imo. He will never change. I cant imagine the pain your in. But i know it will be a lifetime of pain if you stay/get back with him. You deserve better. There are plenty of men out there who will treat you and your child right. Go NO CONTACT AND GO BACK TO YOUR FAMILY OR FRIENDS IF POSSIBLE
mallory.song Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Tracyb80, I'm so sorry that you have to go through all this. This guy is a complete a-hole and it sucks that you had to sacrifice your uni and move out to handle this. I agree with the other poster that you should cut off contact with the jerk no matter how attached/in love you were. Out of concern, why did you let him sleep with you while you found out he was cheating? It feels like that added more to your wounds. Anyway, I'm deeply sorry for you. Though it doesn't compare to what you're going through, I recently left my bf for similar reasons and I still miss him bc the breakup is fresh. I think you have more residual feelings to cleanse since you've been married for 13 years so I think the best thing to do is completely cut him off and surround yourself with family/friends... the people who actually care about you and should matter to you most.
NewPerspective93 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I'm sorry you're going through this, this is one messy situation. This guy is no good, not even to tell you the other woman is pregnant. Things will get better, you better believe that. Moving on will now be your next goal; do it for yourself, you owe yourself the peace of mind.
Author Tracyb80 Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 Thank you for your kind replies. Malory. Song you are right I hurt myself more by continuing to sleep with him, that's why I moved away as I knew I could not be around him, however I am now looking to move back as I feel I need the support of my family. No contact is impossible if I go back as the other two children will be visiting him, also with this new baby I feel I will never get away from him or the situation, I don't know how to get over someone when you are carrying there child. I do agree though this man does not deserve my tears.
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