msalek89 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 My ex and I broke up a month and half ago. For that first month I did my best to get him back and all he did was ignore me and not give me a response of why he was acting the way he was. He would text every other day about certain things such as mail and a credit card we shared together. About a week ago, I decided to go see him and I walked out the same way I walked in, with nothing. In the beginning, we talked about random things but nothing about us. He was acting sweet and telling me he missed me and loved me, but still nothing. It was getting late so I decided to get up and leave. I thought that maybe walking towards the door will trigger him to give me a response or mention something but he didn’t, so I did. As soon as I touched the subject he changed his attitude. I told him that if he really didn’t want to be with me to tell me and he said he didn’t say that, that he was living his life day by day. I took that as “I want to do me own thing” excuse. While all this was occurring I was having flashbacks of the day we broke up. I decided to just stop talking about it and leave. I told him that I understood what was going on and that I apologize for bringing "us" up and I left. I haven’t had contact with him since then. I ended up hurt of course and having a bad time getting back on track again, but that made me be stronger and commit to NC with him. That to me was my breaking point to say move on completely, there is nothing left. It’s been exactly a week and I have been doing great. I missed him at some point of my days but I manage to flush those thoughts out. When I woke up this morning, I saw a text from him from 1:30am saying “U up?”. I looked at the text and deleted the message. I don’t plan to contact him, I know where I stand, but I am just curious. What do you guys think that he wanted? I honestly hate the fact that he texts me because it kills my peace of mind. I am following the NC rules and I know it said that unless he doesn’t do the complete 180 apology, then I there is any need for me to contact him. I guess if he wants me back he will work for it and won’t give up right?
316 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 You're doing the right thing! Great job! Besides the begging and pleading you're making all of the right steps towards getting over your ex. Sounds like he just misses you is all. You've put the power back in your hands. Now that he doesn't have you anymore he's more likely to realize what he has lost. I guarantee you he's going to regret not fighting for you sooner or later. By the time he does come around you'll probably be over him by then so it won't even matter. Keep it up!
gonefishin Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 He may just have wanted to talk ... If he wants you back and is serious He will try again . If its worth it . He will fight for it.. But not at 1.30am cause he's lonely or feeling sorry for himself .. Well done you done better than most on here do Pat yourself on the back
mammasita Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 No way to know what he wanted. An ego stroke maybe? Block his number and you won't have to wonder.
candie13 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 why block him? nope, leave him alone. From your pov, you've done everything you could to save this relationship. it's his time to try. one pathetic little text at 1 in the morning isn't trying. Hang on tight... I don't think it's over, yet.
Author msalek89 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 why block him? nope, leave him alone. From your pov, you've done everything you could to save this relationship. it's his time to try. one pathetic little text at 1 in the morning isn't trying. Hang on tight... I don't think it's over, yet. Thanks for the feedback. Yes I don't block his number because I feel like there might be still some hope for him and I. Obviously my NC plan is not to get him back, it's pretty much because I got fed up of trying and begging. I am strong enough to not text him or have any contact with him. I guess if he does want me back he will do something more than text me at 1am and just saying that. I know that me not answering will make his pride stronger and he will probably be battleling with the decision to get in touch with me again or not. But like everyone saids, if he wants to be with me he will do whatever he can for that to happen because eventhough in the beginning he ignored me and said hurtful things to me, I still did everything I could to show him that I loved him. It's up to him to try or not. As for me the NC is working fine.
Author msalek89 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 He may just have wanted to talk ... If he wants you back and is serious He will try again . If its worth it . He will fight for it.. But not at 1.30am cause he's lonely or feeling sorry for himself .. Well done you done better than most on here do Pat yourself on the back Exactly how I felt... And maybe he did wanted to just talk but for what? It would of probably just been a "hi, how are you?" conversation and that's not what I want to hear. Thanks for the feedback.
destroyed4sho Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 My ex and I broke up a month and half ago. For that first month I did my best to get him back and all he did was ignore me and not give me a response of why he was acting the way he was. He would text every other day about certain things such as mail and a credit card we shared together. About a week ago, I decided to go see him and I walked out the same way I walked in, with nothing. In the beginning, we talked about random things but nothing about us. He was acting sweet and telling me he missed me and loved me, but still nothing. It was getting late so I decided to get up and leave. I thought that maybe walking towards the door will trigger him to give me a response or mention something but he didn’t, so I did. As soon as I touched the subject he changed his attitude. I told him that if he really didn’t want to be with me to tell me and he said he didn’t say that, that he was living his life day by day. I took that as “I want to do me own thing” excuse. While all this was occurring I was having flashbacks of the day we broke up. I decided to just stop talking about it and leave. I told him that I understood what was going on and that I apologize for bringing "us" up and I left. I haven’t had contact with him since then. I ended up hurt of course and having a bad time getting back on track again, but that made me be stronger and commit to NC with him. That to me was my breaking point to say move on completely, there is nothing left. It’s been exactly a week and I have been doing great. I missed him at some point of my days but I manage to flush those thoughts out. When I woke up this morning, I saw a text from him from 1:30am saying “U up?”. I looked at the text and deleted the message. I don’t plan to contact him, I know where I stand, but I am just curious. What do you guys think that he wanted? I honestly hate the fact that he texts me because it kills my peace of mind. I am following the NC rules and I know it said that unless he doesn’t do the complete 180 apology, then I there is any need for me to contact him. I guess if he wants me back he will work for it and won’t give up right? Oh GURRRRL.....so your getting the am textes huh? Yeah I was getting those from my first boyfriend for 5 YEARS.....they never lead to anything.....its just either a drunk text or lonely sentimental text. Its their inner gremlin that comes out at night to cause havoc. In the cold light of day, they don't even think about you.
Author msalek89 Posted February 13, 2013 Author Posted February 13, 2013 Oh GURRRRL.....so your getting the am textes huh? Yeah I was getting those from my first boyfriend for 5 YEARS.....they never lead to anything.....its just either a drunk text or lonely sentimental text. Its their inner gremlin that comes out at night to cause havoc. In the cold light of day, they don't even think about you. Lol... You could be right, numerous things can be assume by this action. However whatever his reason is I still plan to stay in NC with him for my own good.
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