NM09 Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Things had been getting kind of weird between me and my boyfriend. Towards the middle of December, he started to hang around with the wrong crowds and started doing weed. I told him that it was his choice, I'm not his mother, so I can't tell him what to do. But I did say that I really wanted him to stop now before it gets too serious or he gets in trouble. I saw an immediate change in him. He went from someone who always wanted to spend time with me, to someone who rarely ever started a conversation or asked to hang out. On Friday he was out with friends, and I told him to text me when he wasn't busy. I never heard from him that weekend. After school we usually meet at a certain hallway and walk to the parking lot together. I stood there for a long time before I realized he wasn't coming. I texted him later and asked him what was wrong. He told me he wasn't emotionally or mentally stable for a relationship right now, that he was depressed and just never felt like doing anything. I tried so hard to save it. I said he could always talk to me about anything, and that's what I was here for. He just couldn't. It hurts so bad. Especially the fact that it was in a text and not in person. And I didn't even get a simple "goodbye", he just didn't reply to me. I am so devastated. Everyone asked me about him today, and I would just burst into tears. I've cried non-stop since last night. I just can't do this. I miss him more than anything. He was my best friend and there was always something really special between us. I just really want him back, and I don't know what to do. I feel so helpless and I wish I could have gotten an actual reason as to why it had to happen this way. I was looking forward to spending Valentines Day with someone (I actually already bought him something, that I'm going to have to return), and was really looking forward to prom, but not so much now. I'm just so upset, and I just want things back the way they were before. I feel like a part of me is missing. I just don't know how to deal with this..
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 I'm sorry you are hurting. He sounds immature. Well, he is. You might care for him, but he's not the type of Guy you should be with. He neglected you. He cares for his new life more than you. He doesn't even love you, I am sorry. If he did, he wouldn't have neglected you. You will eventually move on to a better person, trust me.
BarbecueMan666 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I'm sorry that you're going through this right now. I just came out of a year and a half relationship, where my ex-gf pretty much told me nothing, and the same thing with her slowly/suddenly drifting away from me without messaging me, and yes, it's heart breaking knowing they're disappearing, but I guess the worst thing is knowing you can't do anything about it (then there's the regret of not doing something, but honestly it's out of your control so don't feel bad about that part!) What you're gonna go through is going to suck, and that's something you're going to have to accept. You're going to cry, you're going to have days where anything that is said is going to remind you of him, you're also going to have patches where you barely think about him, then suddenly go back to thinking about him again. It's not going to be easy. But from what you've said, you did what you could, you sound like a lovely young girl that obviously cared for him, but again things were beyond your control. You need to learn to focus on you again. What you enjoy, what you love doing, reconnecting with old friends or spending more time with your current friends. Distract yourself, ultimately you'll realize you were someone before him, and through sharing experiences with people, you usually gain from the experience positively. You know what you like, and you know what to look for in the future. Take things easy and focus on you.
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