waitlooknow Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 My boyfriend of 2.5 months randomly dumps me over Facebook by changing his relationship status... Called him up in the morning when I saw it and he seemed tired or sad and said "he didn't know why and was confused" We had a perfect relationship ... Well from my perspective ... He Loved me very much ... He was the first boyfriend I actually loved ... I knew he loved me a lot I could tell ...He tells me he wishes I was his first girlfriend and with me he forgets the past ... And he was going to buy us promise rings ... My friends said he either cheated, liked someone else or is emotionally ****** however he seems happy on the outside ... He cheated on his ex of 1.5 years and dumped her cause "he didn't wanna break her heart again" The day before we broke up though I was drunk with my girl friends ... he called and asked if I was with any guys several times. I know he gets VERY jealous! And called again at night but got angry and hung up. He has actual anger problems however he even went to the doctors about it ... So yeah I was so sad couldn't even cry... I feel miserable... I messaged him about 5 days later and asked why? And he read the message and didn't reply ... So confused ... everything was so perfect and then he breaks up with me randomly !!! Need some advice on this. Was I so love blind? **** I need help! Sorry if you think my relationship is young and stupid and if you think I am foolish and there is no way we could love each other after 2 months. But I have been really hurt.
mutant Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Doesn't seem like everything thing was perfect. He is immature, insecure, had anger problems, cheated on his ex and perhaps you, plus he's a coward: dumping you via Facebook WTF? People can fall in love for a lesser duration but your relationship is not worth fighting for. It's time you recognize it's OVER and move on. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I don't know if you love him or not to comment on that and won't. Let's point a few things out, and break them down. A) He's cheated on a girl in the past and ditched her(no excuses) B) Promise Rings. C) Anger and Jealousey. D) Way in which he left you. E) Friends' advice. Let us discuss these. 1) Cheating is never a good thing; the fact that he cheated, is a red flag. Then, he doesn't own up too it, just walks away, from his previous gf. That is another red flag. It shows he is a coward, and if he is unwilling to own up to it before, he won't again. 2) Promise Ring? I do not know how old you two are; I am guessing young. Although, a nice thought; it is childish one. You don't want immaturity on a relationship that will last. Seek maturity; once more: nice thought, just childish. 3) He is angry and jealous over you spending time with friends, drinking late or not. Believes you are messing around on him. It is common that one who is cheating, typically projects upon their partner, that they (partner) must be cheating. It is paranoid guilt. Truth is, you want a Guy, who will give you freedom(although he may not like what you do, he can respect that.) 4) He left you in an immature way. A cowardly way. He didn't respect you enough to even tell you: you had to see his childish FB status. That isn't even the meat of this point. He left you, the same exact way he left his previous gf; just left, no indication to her(or you) as to really why. 5) Your friends see things you cannot. When you're with someone, or care for someone, you usually don't see the really them. You ignore what they are or do. Essentially, you wear rose colored glasses. Your friends however, they do not. Their advice could be dead right. As they may see what he is and you cannot. Last: This Guy has poor character. He is immature and childish. He runs from his problems, and controls(albeit loosely.) Does that sound like the Guy you'd want to be with long term? Be thankful it was two months. Move on to someone who can accept and respect you like a man. With this all said; Welcome to LS. Use it for any and all advice now or future. 1
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