Ex had suddenly started using Twitter. What is the best thing for me to do?

[Beatrixx]

I'm a Twitter user. I don't have a Facebook. My ex was the opposite. He's a Facebook user. He has a Twitter account, but never used it... until a couple of days ago.

 

He broke NC this weekend by texting me twice. First text was 'Hey, how's your weekend going?' Second text was 'I'm trying to be me here. Nothing horrible or anything. Anyway, I hope life is treating you well.' I didn't respond to either of them. The last time I spoke to him (three weeks ago) I told him I'd appreciate it if he didn't contact me again so I am quite annoyed that he didn't respect my request.

 

He hasn't reached out to me again but yesterday I noticed some tweets and retweets by him in my newsfeed. This shocked me as he's never been a Twitter user. I thought it might be a one off but he's been tweeting again this morning. Now I'm having to deal with seeing him pop up and it's setting me back. I've considered unfollowing him but this would tell him I'm affected by him so I don't think that's the right move. After all, the reason he might be using Twitter all of a sudden could be because I ignored his texts the weekend and now he wants to get my attention this way. Unfollowing him could give him satisfaction. Should I carry on, be strong and pretend to be unfazed by his tweets?

[Calico]

It doesn't matter if he thinks you're "affected by him" (you are anyway, and what he thinks is irrelevant: he's no longer part of your life). Go ahead and un-follow him. It's the only sane choice. A very brief ego boost for him is nothing in comparison to you not getting hurt every time he sends a tweet.

[TopCat22]

Unfollow him. You are being affected more by seeing the tweets, so bite the bullet and do it. It also sends a pretty strong message to him that he is not welcome and maybe he'll then stop texting you as well.

 

Put your feelings first and don't worry about what he will think.

[geegirl]

Your healing and detaching is not about proving a point. The only thing you have to prove it to prove to yourself that you are done with him and you want to get to a better place. It doesn't matter whether he knows you are affected, the FACT is you are. You work with what YOU feel. You don't work your healing around his reactions and perceptions.

 

You don't think it's the right move because it will send him the wrong message but what about it being the right move because it helps you move on. Why does the decision making about your well-being revolve around him?

 

You are your priority. Simple.

 

Unfollow, block, delete...whatever they do on Twitter so you aren't affected by a trigger.

 

Honestly, you are liking the attention. It's a bandaid and it's feeding your hope. Attention dulls the pain some. Pretty much the gist.

[TaraMaiden]

All of the above.

This isn't about him, his feelings, what he thinks, how he's going to take things how he'll be affected.

 

This is about you, and what you do to respect yourself.

he's not doing so, therefore you must.

you've told him to stop. His Ego won't let him.

deflate his balloon and prick his ego.

Block, delete, ignore, close down, un-friend - whatever it takes.

Take control.

[Svet74]

Yes he is trying to get you attention.

 

good for you for ignoring his texts. U got your control back. If this happened to me id be flattered lol

 

If his tweets bother you, yes id un-follow him. But be prepared he might try other ways to get your attention. I dont know if you want your ex back or not. But if he really wants u back and work things out, he will call u and leave u a message, just saying that

 

good luck

[TaraMaiden]

They should call it "Twatter".....

[flitzanu]

I'm a Twitter user. I don't have a Facebook. My ex was the opposite. He's a Facebook user. He has a Twitter account, but never used it... until a couple of days ago.

 

He broke NC this weekend by texting me twice. First text was 'Hey, how's your weekend going?' Second text was 'I'm trying to be me here. Nothing horrible or anything. Anyway, I hope life is treating you well.' I didn't respond to either of them. The last time I spoke to him (three weeks ago) I told him I'd appreciate it if he didn't contact me again so I am quite annoyed that he didn't respect my request.

 

He hasn't reached out to me again but yesterday I noticed some tweets and retweets by him in my newsfeed. This shocked me as he's never been a Twitter user. I thought it might be a one off but he's been tweeting again this morning. Now I'm having to deal with seeing him pop up and it's setting me back. I've considered unfollowing him but this would tell him I'm affected by him so I don't think that's the right move. After all, the reason he might be using Twitter all of a sudden could be because I ignored his texts the weekend and now he wants to get my attention this way. Unfollowing him could give him satisfaction. Should I carry on, be strong and pretend to be unfazed by his tweets?

 

 

you should call the internet police, your ex can't use twitter and give you a reason to stalk him, that's against the rules.

 

 

as you clearly pointed out, you're following him already on twitter, and obviously on facebook.

 

unless you block him, you're perpetuating this drama.